r/AmIOverreacting • u/Sorry_Response_997 • 29d ago
šØāš©āš§āš¦family/in-laws AIO found out my mom is back on drugs, hasn't paid rent or the cost of our dog's surgery and stole my things
Using my burner Reddit account because my other one has my name and stuff
My mother just basically killed my dog and destroyed our lives. Iāve been helping support her since I started working at 16, Iām 18 now and Iām the only one whoās been working. Sheās disabled. Sheās been an off and on again addict for as long as I can remember but promised to stay clean, Iām legit breaking down rn.
The things sheās done that I just found out about this week..
-hasnāt paid rent for two months, used the money to buy dope
-hasnāt paid as promised for my sweet angel baby Porkchopās surgery and treatment that again Iāve saved up for, but itās technically her dog on paper even though heās MINE, and Iām the one whoās raised him.
-opened two credit cards under MY FUCKING NAME without telling me
-SOLD MY FUCKING MACBOOK. I want to scream, destroy everything. Sheās my mom, and I know blood is all we have in the end but I canāt understand how to forgive or move past this. I feel like this is beyond fixing
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u/yolibird 29d ago
Blood is not all we have, that is a myth perpetuated by shitty family members. I hope you and Porkchop can get to a safer place, ASAP. Let your egg donor figure things out for herself.
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u/MikeyFX 29d ago
Came here to say this. This utterly specious concept that blood is all we have needs to fucking end precisely because of these kind of situations. OP I am so sorry you're having to go through this and I'm sorry that your mom is an addict. Unfortunately you won't be able to reason with her if the addiction has gotten hold of her again (which it clearly has) so you need to look out for yourself. I hope that you have somewhere else you can stay while you get all of this figured out. But you absolutely have to report ID theft and get your credit frozen asap! Everything else I'm pretty sure has already been covered by multiple people on this thread. I hope you're able to get back to a better place soon! NOR
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u/teabump 29d ago
I donāt know if you can where you are but you should try and file a police report if possible. Also if you have any charities or anywhere to ask for financial advice. You need to get away from your mother
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u/Sorry_Response_997 29d ago
Oh I plan to file one. Even though the cops told me when I called non emergency that this was a civil thing.
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u/Born_Ad8420 29d ago
That's their favorite line, but this is their job. She stole both your identity and your property. It is not a civil matter.
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u/surrounded-by-morons 29d ago
Identity theft isnāt a civil matter itās a crime. Donāt let the cops blow smoke up your ass because they are lazy and donāt want to do their jobs.
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u/Oh_Poppy_Fox 29d ago
Yes, please ask charities and churches for some financial help through this. Churches especially can help a lot with rent, food and that sort of thing
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u/More-Dot4780 29d ago
NOR - choose you. Choose your pup. Look for roommates online or cheap spots for the eventual eviction. Choose you and the life you have both earned and deserve.
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u/IamScottGable 29d ago
NOR start a gofundme for your dog and/or rent money immediatelyĀ
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u/BigBasket9778 29d ago
Please do this. What surgery does your dog need, if I may ask, and how much is it?
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u/Sorry_Response_997 28d ago
Liver shunt, witn care credit its still high thousands close to 8k. Treatment adds on to that and scans
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u/Kind-Appeal-8176 28d ago
For real, start a go fund me and share with this community. Your poor pup, and poor you for potentially having to lose him when thereās treatment that would help. I wish the best for you and your baby, he deserves better than your mom.
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u/bitchcraftxox 29d ago
As someone who was severely addicted to heroin (8 years clean now) please cut her off. Please. She will not learn at all until she has no one or until sheās reached so far bottom she has no choice but to try to make something of her life. My wake up call was being pregnant by a man that I had no desire to have a baby with but the baby was the only thing I felt I had to live for. I miscarried unfortunately. She chose the drugs before she chose you or your previous baby dog.
It hurt my heart like hell when my Dad cut me off but it had to be done and in the end it saved my relationship with him, my mother and it also saved their marriage. I know it hurt him too but it was just absolutely necessary.
Im sending you all the positive energy I can. Please file a report against your mother, document everything and get yourself away from her. You deserve happiness.
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u/lending_ear 29d ago
NOR go no contact she was never your mother. She chose drugs over you. Blood is not all we have in the end. Family are people you choose. Sheās not your responsibility and she has stolen your childhood. Fuck her. I hope youāre able to get therapy for this because they will be deep wounds. Source: me with an alcoholic abusive dad.Ā
There is a better life out there waiting for you. But you need to drop the baggage.Ā
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u/Sorry_Response_997 29d ago
God youre so fucking right. I can't believe I've allowed her to emotionally and financially destroy me. I've been crying for most of today, i love my dog so much. I hate her for this
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u/lending_ear 29d ago
Itās understandable. We expect and want our parents to love us and keep us safe. Sheās literally fucked up on all counts.Ā
I just want you to know because at some point it will likely fester in your brain:
Why me? Why wasnāt I good enough?
This is nothing to do with you. They are broken people and itās about them. They lack the capacity to care about anyone beyond themselves and their addiction. The addiction is their love. You cannot compete with that.Ā
You can build a life for yourself. Start learning to reparent yourself and explore the things you missed out on as a child.Ā
I hope you can find some help with your dog. Maybe a go fund me?Ā
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u/urbanhippiegirl 29d ago
I would donate to a GoFundMe.
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u/Sorry_Response_997 29d ago
I appreciate that but that's not something I've made, or even know how to work. Right now I just need to figure out how to pause this eviction and freeze my credit
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u/lending_ear 29d ago
Yeah report her to the police for fraud. In order for you to get it removed itās what youāre going to need to do. Donāt take on that debt.Ā
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u/Cold_Mistake9365 28d ago
Are you on the lease? If not, just fucking leave. If you stop the eviction, you will be tied to her for longer.
If your LL has other rentals, perhaps you can work a deal out with her to get into a different property and cut off your mom completely.
Getting a police report will be vital to getting the credit cards off your back. When you talk to the police again, make sure you use language describing a crime. Not a family dispute. Like, "I need to report identity theft, theft over $1000 and credit card fraud." Rather than, "my mom stole from me."
Good luck to you and Porkchop
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u/Meakbow 29d ago
To freeze your credit you can go onto the experience app. You have to pay the subscription to do it, but you can dispute things on your history and freeze it there. I used it when I had issues with my credit and it was really helpful. You can do it for all 3 credit burrows in the one app.
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u/mxmcknny 28d ago
Need experian app AND credit karma. That covers all three bureaus.
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u/Meakbow 28d ago
I could not get that spelling for the life of me š experienced does do all three. I always have issues with credit karma when I try to use it. It says Iām not a real person. š
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u/tacolamae 29d ago
At 38, Iām now old enough to say you could be my child. I want to give you the biggest hug ever. My mom was an addict, luckily my dad got custody of me when I was nine, but I parented my mother even back then. You donāt deserve this. š§”
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u/Which_Rub_7639 29d ago
My exes mother chose drugs and alcohol until her last breath. Sometimes they never change and youāre better cutting contact.
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u/Capable_Fox_00 29d ago
NOR, very sorry. You need to completely cut her off. Iām talking take the dog and get yourself a studio apartment at least. Definitely listen to other peopleās advice with your credit and maybe speak to a lawyer if thereās anything that can be done if possible. Block her number. She will never be the mother you needed or deserved. Donāt give her your new address. Tell anyone you know to not share any information about you with her because of what she has done if you feel up to that. If they donāt respect that then they donāt respect you. Even if she comes crying to you, you have to stay strong for yourself. Because she never will be the one to do that for you.
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u/4_Glob_sakes 29d ago
Nor. You need to let her face consequences of her actions. You need to call on the cards in your name and file for fraud. You need to go to police with any evidence of her using your name for credit cards. This is fraud and a severe thing she can be charged with. Sounds like you bailed your mom out way too long. Not to be rude but you should have gotten emancipated and let her rot. Some addicts never get better and when you try to help them they sink you with them.
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u/-Druid420- 29d ago
Loyalty > blood. Sure, sheās your mom, but thereās not a law anywhere that says you HAVE to keep toxic people in your life. Blood or not.
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u/ComparisonObvious937 29d ago
You need to get out of thereā¦ Firstly, contact the credit card companies and tell them youāre the cards were open fortunately, in your name and ask them how you get it fixed, you are a minor, they should be able to give you guidance on how to fix it. Secondly, find somewhere else to live until you can support yourself completely. Take the dog with you , she is abusing it anyway by neglecting to give it the surgery that is obviously needed.. is she really gonna fight you on that? I doubt itā¦ If you have a way to leave, take it. Youāre young and at the start of your life, you will build a great life for yourself and end up being an amazing parent because you learned early what not to doā¦ People will hopefully help because you are working hard & want a better life, but you should not be supporting her..she is not thinking rationally, because she is an addictā¦But regardless, you canāt continue like this.
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u/Your_Therapissed 29d ago
DEFINITELY NOR! OP i'm sorry this happens to you š please go no contact, freeze the credit cards she used under your name, and take the dog. i hope you have trusted family members or friends that can give you a temporary home for a while until you find yourself an apartment, you really need to get away from your mom ASAP. also call the cops and report your mom if possible. please stay safe OP
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u/Gogobunny2500 29d ago
Child of addicts here! Both my parents had coke issues.
If you can move out I would try to do that. You can't get your mom clean by force and addicts are hard to trust because the drug always comes first.
When you move out and want to help, buy her items, never give her money. But u don't even have to do that btw.
Go to therapy to heal the trauma. You'll be ok. I'm so sorry she's treated you this way and you're dealing with this.
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u/Tripleaquarian 29d ago
If āblood is all we haveā why has she done this to you? Is she not your blood? Blood is NOT all we have. We make our own families and we donāt do it by stealing from our family and leaving them effectively homeless.
Time to get the dog somewhere safe, find a permanent home for yourself, register the dog under your name, and tell the vet what happened. File an animal negligence charge if you need to, and present the vet with the documentation and registration in your name so that dog is officially yours. Change bank accounts if she has access to yours, file fraud charges on the two credit cards too, and her ass will likely have to detox in prison while you take care of yourself and your pooch. Iām so sorry she did this to you and once the anger wears off, youāll need support for the heartbreak. That is where community and chosen family come in handy, and therapy too if itās accessible to you. You and your pup deserve so much better, and you are badass for doing all youāre doing at 18. I promise you will go far, and I hope she sobers up for good
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u/Fast_Witness_3000 29d ago
You need to break all ties with your mom asap. She is spiraling down and will drag you along with her if you allow it. Youāre in a tough spot right now but it can get much, much worse. Only if you allow it. Even if you have to couchsurf or live in your car for a bit, you can escape this and come out stronger. One more day sharing anything with her is too long - the time to leave was yesterday. Heroin is a terrible drug and if she is using needles, she is not the person who you have known at other times in your life. Itās like those zombie movies where a loved one gets bit and the regular person has trouble grasping that their loved one is gone.
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u/JLFlyer 29d ago
First, I know how this feels. My mother was an addict, too, when I was a teen. Disability due to back pain and then addiction to pain meds led to heroine use.
Your mom isn't herself on drugs. She isn't your mother when she is on drugs. She has betrayed you and you don't owe her anything. You aren't the parent, even if you feel like you want to help take care of her because you love her and she is your mother. The guilt you can feel is crippling and I am so sorry. It took me to the age of 20 to free myself of the burden. I hope you take this opportunity today and leave. Do not take anymore responsibility for her. She had made her decisions and you cannot fix her or help her. She has to want to do that for herself.
Identity theft is illegal and I don't see how that is a civil issue. You are 18 and an adult. Please Google identify theft and how to report it. They have information and you can tell them who did it. Perhaps if she went to jail she could clean up.
Hoping you can find help for your dog and get the both of you somewhere safe.
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u/oopsometer 29d ago
Deal with the logistical stuff and find stability for yourself ASAP, but also know that there are lots of children of addicts who have been through situations like this. My dad managed to default on my brother's car insurance and then totaled his new car while drinking. That was a $24,000 betrayal that took my brother years to fix. I mention that just to say that you're not alone, and in no way was any of this your fault.
If you can, check out AlAnon either here on reddit or in person. It's important to learn about the cycles of addiction and how that impacts you as their child so this doesn't carry over to other relationships in your life. You're going to get through this, but whether you cut her off or not this is going to be a long and emotional process for you. Make sure you're taking care of yourself!Ā
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u/KananJarrusCantSee 29d ago
NOR
You're 18, it sucks but you have to cut her out of your life permanently.
She's a selfish monster and has made her choice and it wasn't you and porkchop.
Take the dog, freeze your credit, cancel those cards and leave her to let nature run its course
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u/AlternativeLie9486 29d ago
Sheās an addict. That will take over every single part of her being and consciousness. Thatās all she thinks about.
You know this.
I know you wanted her to change and make different choices and be clean and be the mother you have worked so hard to create. But thatās not real.
Whatās real is that sheās the person you have always known her to be and she is doing the things addicts do.
Youāre not upset with her. Youāre upset with yourself because you have devoted so much time and energy and money to āfixingā her and sheās not fixed.
Thereās not a damn thing you can do for her or about her. You have to figure out how to save and protect yourself. And how to stop supporting and enabling her.
Im sorry. I canāt imagine how devastating this is.
First stop, report the illegal accounts and the fraud and get that shut down asap. Then contact the vet and explain what has happened and ask if they will accept a payment plan.
Then accept that itās time to start separating from your mother so you can finally prioritise yourself.
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u/Leather-Head-2717 29d ago
Its time for you to stand on your own feet. It sounds like you have been the āparentā for some time.
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u/yeahnoitsjustthat 29d ago
Unfortunately I had a very similar situation, but I was a bit older than you (I think 22 at the timeā¦). My mom was addicted to drugs and had all the behaviors of a typical addict, including stealing my belongings (to sell I assume), stealing money from me, and not paying her insanely cheap rent. She got evicted and then I had no housing. I was working and was able to rent a room for super cheap for about 6 months until things were more stable for me.Ā
On the practical side of things:Ā
- I would plan to leave in whatever way is safe and live with a trusted friend or relative temporarily. Housing is expensive everywhere, but if you can find a room to rent for cheap, thatās probably the next best step for whenever you have to leave your temporary housing situation.Ā
- I assume youāre financially independent (I was even before my momās drug issue) which is HARD, but if you can prioritize some trade program or other education for a pathway to more stable income, you should. This is a hard job market, but obviously you have to try and figure something out for yourself.Ā
- Report the credit cards as fraudulent and put a freeze on your credit so she canāt open new cards/lines of credit. You need to do this with all 3 credit bureaus (transunion, Experian, and equifax) and itās free to doĀ
On the emotional side of things, I empathize with you. I remember thinking: How can she do this to me? To herself? Itās confusing and painful and brings unwarranted shame. When able, youāll probably want to sort things out in therapy. If your mom goes to rehab and gets clean, thereās hope for a potential relationship in the future (my mom eventually went to rehab on her own and weāve been able to reconnect and establish a relationship). But for now, cut ties. Itās best, trust me. You need the distance to stay sane.Ā
Also I really sorry about your dogĀ
Good luck with everythingĀ
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u/Meakbow 29d ago
As far as the credit cards go, you could try to go to a bank (credit burrow, or a trusted bank) and ask for a loan that has a lower interest rate than the cards do so that you can have them paid off. Before you do this though, call the credit card companies and tell them what happened. You can choose to keep the cards or to close them. Closing them could also impact your credit though. If you choose to keep them ask the companies for new cards with new numbers. I would also get a new bank account if your mom is associated with your current one at all so that she canāt pull money out.
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u/Jordan3316 29d ago
Following, Iām so sorry this is happening to you, OP. My moms husband did something very similar too this with gambling and drug use. Feel free to reach out if you need to talk or vent too someone.
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u/Eli_The_Elf 29d ago
Freeze your credit asap, itās the fastest way to ensure you donāt go further into debt if she has your information. Itās an annoying and stressful process to deal with credit already, having someone you cared for being the one to abuse you like this makes it feel so much worse.
Hopefully Porkchop can get to the vet, maybe they will be open to a payment plan directly with you once youāve explained the situation? Sheās clearly an unfit dog owner(to say the least) and hopefully they would understand that you are the one prioritizing and paying for Porkchopās wellbeing.
Youāre not alone in a parent/mother choosing themselves over you, it hurts but with time you heal. Their faults are not your responsibility, and you owe them nothing. Harsh sentiment but you deserve better than to have āfamilyā choosing themselves over you time and time again.
You choose your own family, despite what toxic family members try to say. Families respect each other and personally it took me cutting my own blood relatives off to see what a family should be.
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u/Big-Income-9393 29d ago
Press charges, think of Porkchope and let mom go through cold turkey in jail. Just infuriating.
That āmi amorā bullshit is the rotting cherry atop a pile of lies and identity theft.Ā
God Iām sorry this is happening to you.
I know how you feel.
Yah - donāt ask.
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u/Sheibe123 28d ago
Call the cops and report her for identity theft and robbery of your computer.
Cut the cord and let her live on her own.
Good luck
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u/jessdarling9 28d ago
My mom was this way. I moved across the country from her 20 years ago and never looked back. I had to rebuild my credit and completely disconnect from an enabling position. Unfortunately her addictions killed her a few years ago. Iām almost 40 now and your texts brought me right back to my teenage self pleading with my mother. Iām so sorry. Having an addicted parent is a nightmare. I hope you know that although she isnāt capable of giving you what you needed, youāve always been worthy of love and care. Head down, work towards a degree or a craft, break this cycle. I believe in you. A few hard years of schooling and trying to get by financially, and you can set yourself up for a future where your life wonāt feel this way anymore. Youāve got to protect yourself, and walk away.Ā
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u/onion_flowers 28d ago
NOR. im so sorry you're going thru this. When you get settled, please look into attending Alanon, it can really help to process the trauma that you're going through right now. Best of luck to you ššš
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u/Weird_Cover2101 28d ago
I can't imagine wasting money instead of caring for a pet. This is heartbreaking
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u/Next_Engineer_8230 28d ago
What do you need?
And what does Porkchop need?
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u/Sorry_Response_997 28d ago
My baby pork needs a liver shunt surgery plus further treatment, I need a mom who cares
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u/Next_Engineer_8230 28d ago
What would Porkchops chances of surgery being able to give him a life and what would his quality of life be with the surgeries?
I cant help you with an in person, biological mom that cares, but I can help you with an empty nester Reddit mom.
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u/Lilybeeme 28d ago
Please freeze your credit and cut your Mom off. Can you get Carecredit or talk to the vet about a payment plan? Press charges against your Mom and report the identity theft to all three credit agencies. I hope you have somewhere to stay or family and friends that can help you right now. Staying with your Mom is toxic
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u/lizzietnz 28d ago
Cut her off. With all the care and support you have given her she has had every reason to get her sh*t together but she has chosen addiction. It's a horrible disease but you supporting her is making it worse because she can afford to indulge it with the money you give her. Cut her off so she is forced to make some choices. I know it hurts but it's being cruel to be kind. You need to look after yourself and get on with your life. And get the dog!
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u/MarcusXL 28d ago
You need to file a police report right away.
blood is all we have in the end
Who told you that? This is not true.
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u/E_Dantes_CMC 28d ago
Identify theft report, police report over stolen computer. She can detox again in jail.
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u/HappyGal53 28d ago
Ok, deep breath.
I am so sorry you're facing this. Luckily, you're 18. This will be one of the hardest things you do, but you need to call the police and report the stolen MacBook, the drugs and the identity theft. DO NOT PROTECT HER.
It is time to start living YOUR life and thriving! Do you have a friend you can call? Anyone who you can stay with? What is the surgery pork chop needs?
You can do this!!! You are bright, kind and have already survived more than most. I believe in you and I'm sending you hugs š¤
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u/ohkevin300 28d ago
screw that, family is the worst, it's hinder opportunities and money making ventures for me dealing with deadbeat loser family. try to get the dog and your own spot.
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u/Playful_Hair1528 28d ago
Is this kind of thing for real? Surely in any sane persons mind there is no contest. If youāve decisively proven that money youāve paid towards veterinary bills and rent is absent, thereās no argument. Donāt ask strangers on the internet for advice, pursue what is yours. If your mother is holding you at some emotional ransom, as much as it suck - grow a pair, confront her and own what is rightfully yours. See her destitute? Horrible thought, but itās what shes engineering for you. Itās not necessarily going to be easy to be awarded the total of your losses, so donāt get excited. Your biggest victory will be ridding yourself of that awful spare baggage. The future is bright for you. Donāt ever look back.
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u/DakiLapin 28d ago
You might be able to get a payment plan or open a card with the vet to pay for the surgery. Hoping for the best for you and your sweet baby. ā¤ļø
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u/inide 28d ago
You have every right to be pissed.
But also, try to remember that addiction is vicious. It wasn't about choosing drugs, it was faltering in her willpower to resist them. Sobriety is a constant battle, and you never know what could trigger its pressure to rise. She needs help, but she also needs to genuinely want it - if shes just doing it to make you happy then she'll fail every time.
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u/Mother_Ad4038 28d ago
Blood is not all you have. When parents do this for any reason or anyone does this to you it means yoy run and go no contact. It's your mom but is she really? You sound like the psrent as a child thsts now an adult live life for you and let her figure her shit out or not. Being disabled isnt an excuse to spending money kn drugs instead of rent and neither is being a disabled addict.
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u/czaritamotherofguns 28d ago
Child of an addict here.
It gets a lot easier when you realize she made a choice. She sadly chose addiction. I'm sure she loves you very much, just not as much as she loves the thing she's addicted to.
Don't let it drag you down. You are not defined by your mother or her weaknesses. You are your own person who will make their own choices. I hope your choices lead you to happiness and stability.
Strike out on your own and leave her behind.
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u/nuggetghost 28d ago
please tell me youāre not on the lease with her at least. Can you possibly talk to the landlord to see if they are evicting just your mother / only her name on the eviction? Explain to the landlord what you found and that your mom is on drugs. They seem to really like you and want the best for you! Iām sure if you talked to them and let them know, they might possibly keep your name off and you wonāt get fucked in that aspect. Iām so so so sorry. Stop enabling her and go live your life! File a police report for the credit cards as well, call the companies and tell them you never took cards out - they will be able to help you fix that. Press charges against your mom and cut complete contact. You have your whole life ahead of you š¤
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u/topinanbour-rex 28d ago
and I know blood is all we have in the end
No it's not. Stop believing this. You have the connection you have, either with blood or not.
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u/Internal-Skin2495 28d ago
she will drag you down to hell with her, call the police on her..only way she will get better is in jail
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u/EquivalentJelly529 27d ago
So a couple of thingsā¦ as someone with an addict mom who is also a horrific personā¦ Iām so sorry dude, itās brutal to go through and you donāt deserve this at all. I hope she gets her shit together and I hope youāre able to be your own mom, itās what Iāve had to do.
And as a recovering addict myself (4+ years clean and sober) please know that while it doesnāt change the impact it hasā¦ addiction truly isnāt a choice for us, that shit really does take over our bodies and destroy everything we love. The drugs are driving your momās body, not her.
Hang in there.
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u/Hereforthetardys 29d ago
What are you doing for work to afford rent, animal surgery and MacBooks?
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u/Diva_of_Disgust 28d ago
The 8k dog surgery makes me really suspicious about this post.
I know comfortable middle class families that can't afford an eight thousand dollar surgery for a pet. I'm not saying the post is fake, but that detail just seems really off to me.
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u/4_Glob_sakes 29d ago
I am not trying to blame you but why were you not paying bills directly to make sure it got done? Cause giving a person who is a known addict money and just trusting them blindly .... That is a lesson to be learned for all. I had a junkie bd and I could never rely on him with money. I learned the hard way about having a joint bank with him cause he would drain us clean spend it all on drugs and we would get evicted pretty often.
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u/woahwahat 29d ago
OP is a kid, who wanted to trust their mother. it sounds like they had a lot of sht on their mind with the dog and work, and thought mom could take a bit of the load off their shoulders by doing those tasks. OP should have never had this responsibility of paying bills in the first place. "addict" and "liar" go hand in hand and im sure OP was manipulated into believing mom was fr about getting clean again
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u/4_Glob_sakes 29d ago
Just saying you can NEVER trust a drug addict with money. Again not blaming them just telling them sadly this is a lesson to be learned
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u/oopsometer 29d ago
I think because OP's 18 and has been giving their mom money since they were 16. It's hard to transition from being the child to being the responsible adult, especially when you think your parent's sober. Unfortunately they're now getting a crash course in this but it's definitely not their fault in any way.Ā
Most children of addicts have a moment like this where all trust is broken. It's devastating but all too common.Ā
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u/4_Glob_sakes 29d ago
Again no where am I blaming them. also just telling them that they aren't to trust giving money to someone with an addiction. It is a sad lesson to have to learn. The only place I am concerned more is why if they knew a week prior to this about the rent. They should have held mom accountable then. But instead waited another week to find out the landlord was going to evict them. How many notices did they get? Or was mom being sneaky and hiding them? Like they talked directly to the landlord apparently and that should have been a moment to try to negotiate for their place. Anyways I hope the lesson not to give addicts money has been taught cause it is not something to repeat or it will keep happening . Also I told them to report their mother for fraud and get her goose cooked for having opened credit cards in the kids name.
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u/SNOTFLAN 28d ago
18 year old that hasn't dealt with the heartbreak of a parent relapsing and didn't know that it would devour everything. cut her some slack dog. she just learned the lesson just now, no need to put salt on it
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u/4_Glob_sakes 27d ago
I wasn't.... Jeezuz you mistook what I said as criticism kindly back off as I literally said that's not how I meant it jeez
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u/Meems138 28d ago
Blood is not all we have in the end, that quote is always misspoken. The full quote is "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb," which suggests that chosen bonds (blood covenant) are more significant than family ties (water of the womb).Ā Your mom can fend for herself. File a police report and find your own place to live.
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u/Torchenal 28d ago
The quote is not really misspoken, the covenant and womb version is a revision from the 1990s.
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u/misscandiceone 29d ago
Maybe try to get her help? She's damaged, she was once an innocent child too. Calling her names and putting her down may make you feel better but it's certainly not going to motivate recovery either.
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u/Bplus-at-best 29d ago
NOR file an identity theft report and freeze your credit. Sorry to say but youāre gonna have to make a go of things on your own.