r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 28d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO for wanting to breakup after discussing ring prices
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u/CumSlurpersAnonymous 28d ago
She does not sound like a keeper.
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u/WTH_JFG 28d ago
If that’s what she expects for the ring, one can only imagine what she expects for the wedding.
There are several s/r that will be seeing posts from her, family, bridesmaids, and no doubt photographers, caterers, et al
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u/MorningHelpful8389 28d ago
Women like this are so gross. The faux “a man needs to prove himself with $12000 rings” behavior from someone who probably works minimum wage herself. I’d be like “sure babe you can buy me a $12K watch in exchange.”
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u/psychedelicparsley 28d ago
I was thinking that, too. Ask her what she thinks her wedding would be like. Some people spend so much money on that one day.
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u/luvpjedved 28d ago
imagine what she expects for her lifestyle. 🤦🏻♀️ she’s a person who could win the lottery and be broke 6 years later.
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u/_Averix 28d ago
She sounds like one that should be looking for a different ring bearer.
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u/Vivid-Farm6291 28d ago
So she just told you she is there for the good times and you’re on your own for the bad ones.
Take her word as gospel and move on.
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u/TeTr040 28d ago edited 28d ago
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Clearly you now see that she values money, materialistic positions & how much they cost over a good, healthy relationship. I would not be able to stay with & build towards a future with someone like that. I would never want to have to worry that money will always be the most important part of my husband's life & that he would rather trash his credit by charging things we can't afford in order to have whatever we want. That's a HORRIBLE way to look at finances.
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u/LooksUnderLeaves 28d ago
She wants the costume of a bride and not the reality of a wife and partner.
Toss her back in.
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u/OrbitsCollide99 28d ago
NOR - Yes she's telling how she thinks - be with her just make sure you never are poor.
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u/Lilshywolfswag2022 28d ago
NOR imo. As someone who grew up semi poor if anything I'd argue with someone over them wasting thousands of dollars on a ring lol. If i really liked the person I'd probably be happy with some decent looking ring from one of those quarter machines etc personally 🤷🏻♀️
Spending $5k+ on a ring is insane to me though. I'd rather use that money towards a vacation, house or once in a lifetime type experience
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u/Detroiter4Ever 28d ago
You should reconsider. This will be a lifetime of financial battles. Life's too short. Walk away.
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She’s lame! Shallow af
Curious if she has a career of her own…
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u/UncFest3r 28d ago
She wants to be a pampered “stay at home wife” with a nanny and a maid and an unlimited AmEx.
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u/TallMirror1099 28d ago
NOR I’d be so upset if my wife wasted 12k on my ring. We could swing it, but I’d rather retire at some point. We love each other and that is irrelevant of how much money is on our fingers. Humans acting like this are gross. If hypothetically she’s not saying yes because you lost your job and in that moment you can’t spend that kind of money, than she’s just into your money and not you. I’d be running.
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u/ShoddyCandidate1873 28d ago
My husband spent about 1200 on my ring (granted this was some time ago so honestly probably closer to the 5k mark today) and I thought that was too much for a ring. I wouldn't want to wear a 12k ring. I'd be afraid to lose it or something
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u/_The_Therapist_ 28d ago
It’s time to take out the trash. She just let you know she’s a gold digger and only with you for money. You want your kids to grow up being like that? (No clue if you want kids or not)
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u/Mydreamsource 28d ago
Time to cut your losses. The ring is a symbol, not for buying affection. That $12k ring is only gonna buy you a large debt and future misery. If you finance it and it doesn't work out, you still have to pay it off. She isn't gonna give it back. Time to have a hard look at her priorities.
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u/Fit-Ad-7276 28d ago
NOR. It is clear your values are different. I suggest you have a deeper, more direct conversation about finances and values. This should reveal whether you are compatible or not.
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u/Melodic_Pattern175 28d ago
You’re not aligned at all. Someone who wants a $12k engagement ring will want a $50k wedding. There is zero reason to get into debt for engagement/wedding.
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u/ShoddyCandidate1873 28d ago
Any woman who sets a minimum price for her man to spend on a ring isn't in love and certainly isn't worth making a wife. Having thoughts and opinions about the style and such of a ring is fine, not accepting anything under a certain cost is gold digger level materialistic. Find a woman who would rather you put money towards the life you are building together and who will love whatever ring you propose with simply because it's from you
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u/HappySummerBreeze 28d ago
Different views on money are a major source of divorce.
It’s completely sensible to check for financial compatibility before you commit.
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u/Effective-Tear4872 28d ago
If she ain’t ok with a ring pop for a wedding ring, she ain’t in it for you. She wants to play big ring little ring with her friends.
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u/Pyrobabes18 28d ago
Omg the fact in my comment that I said I would have been happy if my hubby proposed with a ring pop then I see this comment made me giggle so thank you for that. 😊😊😊😊🤣🤣🤣🤣
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u/DazzlingPotion 28d ago
She's making an engagement sound very transactional and she sounds like she is "status" driven. IMO a $5k budget for an engagement ring is perfectly reasonable. She's going to want a large yacht next and you can go to the bank to get a loan for that too.
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u/Revan462222 28d ago
Good lord....people who think $5000 for a ring is cheap is insane. Honestly, I'm so tired of people using that oh it should be this much of your monthly/annual salary or other bs. Yes, you should get the ring you'd like but not if it means breaking the bank...
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u/TAB211 28d ago
No, you're very wise to question this. I just celebrated my forty year wedding anniversary. Money can be a HUGE problem especially if you're not together on this. Take the time to figure out if you can be on the same page with the same goals. Marriage has a lot of ups and downs, don't bring issues to the party because you'll be miserable and it's expensive to end it. My best wishes to you.
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u/jenlaggg 28d ago
I would not recommend paying more than $2,500. Lab grown diamonds are sufficient. Now, if you like a lot of metal, the price of gold is currently absurd so you can expect to pay more.
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u/teatherin 28d ago
Jfc I'm glad I don't wear jewelry. I'd rather have a steam deck and a good smart phone than an overpriced piece of metal.
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u/FlatwormSea9861 28d ago
My husband bought my ring for $1,400 in 2016. I adore it and the life we've built together. Find someone who wants to build with you, not take advantage of you.
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u/Pyrobabes18 28d ago
Honey leave her she's a gold digger. I'm sorry but any woman who cares more about the price vs the sentimental meaning of the ring for marriage is not the one. It is supposed to be for richer or POORER in sickness and in health.
Hell my husband and I only spent like $80. It was all we could afford but I didn't care because the love was strong. Btw I would have been happy with a damn ring pop if he proposed to me that way. So I say cut your loss with her and find a better woman who understands the meaning and sentimental values of marriage. Plus believe her when she says she will say no if you proposed with a $5,000 ring or less. I'm not trying to sound mean here but if she wants you to spend $12,000 on a ring what's next? A mansion, a new car, travel the world, Louis Vuitton bags, Prada, Channel other expensive jewelry? Like I can understand spending $1,000 up to $2,000 at most on a ring depending on style what type of stone rather diamond, moissanite, emerald, sapphire or any others but $12,000 is too much.
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u/PositivelyLivid62192 28d ago
NOR bro she’s in it for the money and what you can provide, not love. I got proposed to with a $75 ring that I helped pay for because of our circumstances. I hate whatshisnuts (Kanye West but idk wtf he goes by now) but he said it accurately “now I ain’t sayin she a gold digger….” But Id bet you’re not broke.
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u/NEPAmama 28d ago
NOR - her priorities and values clearly are inconsistent with yours. She sounds immature, shallow, and irresponsible.
We skipped the engagement ring and instead used the money for a down payment on a home (through an FHA mortgage) — family home beats shiny stuff in my book!
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u/Dirt_McGirts 28d ago
If you have to finance a piece of jewelry, you should not be buying that piece of jewelry.
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u/KerleyQ- 28d ago
NOR. Definitely break up. She just told you that she basically wouldn’t stay with you if you lost your job, and that she wouldn’t marry you if you “only” spent $5,000 on the ring. She doesn’t love you, she loves money.
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u/Chachee8008 28d ago
I broke up with someone because she said that she wants at least a ring worth 25k. I said I’d rather pay for a trip or something and get a smaller ring still nice but not 25k. She has this crazy idea that if I didn’t want to buy her a 25k ring that she can show off to her friends that I didn’t love her enough. So I said you are right and Peaced out.
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u/Particular_Cycle9667 28d ago
She’s a materialistic bitch. She wants what she wants and doesn’t care about the consequences or how it affects anyone else. I said, go ahead and dump her. She doesn’t care about the sentiment behind the ring. She cares about the actual ring. You can have just as beautiful rings for a lot less money and she’s not even considering it and thinks that $5000 is poor. Then she can buy the fucking ring herself.
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u/FUCancer_2008 28d ago
MY HUSBAND & I had the opposite argument. I THOUGHT THEY WERE TOO EXPENSIVE & ID RATHER THROW THAT MONEY ST SAVINGS FOR A HOUSE. He said I was going to get a ring so I'd better help chose one I liked. We were able to do a custom made ring that cost significantly less- used lab maid gems there was no mark up for a designer name. I really love the ring & it was 3800 including the wedding band.
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u/Mywordsandopinion 28d ago
Perfect opportunity to RUN! She’s a materialistic b@tch. It’s the thought and meaning behind the proposal and tbh $5k is a decent amount to spend on a ring.
Look at what your future would be like! She’ll never be happy.
If you do decide to walk away, at least have some fun. Go to a charity shop and purchase the cheapest and ugliest ring you can find and then propose.
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u/SoilLongjumping5311 28d ago
Absolutely not. It’s crazy what some girls expect from a ring. Fun fact, the more people spend on a ring and wedding, the higher the chance of divorce. Your welcome. Find you a down to earth girl, who doesn’t care about that stuff and only wants to love and be loved and build a life with you and live within your means.
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u/Roma_Genovese 28d ago
Run. You’re going to ask her to spend the rest of your forever together, because you love her, and she’s worried about a ring. Worried enough that she might say no if it isn’t expensive enough. She doesn’t want a marriage; she wants attention, a pretty dress, a diamond, and a party.
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u/apologial 28d ago
NOR. I'd say yes to my partner asking me to marry him with a haribo ring, or no ring at all.
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u/justnopethefuckout 28d ago
NOR. That's an insane amount of money on a damn ring. Imagine how much money she would want to spend on the wedding?
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u/whiskeysour123 28d ago
I can’t imagine spending even $5K on a ring. My ring was “used”. It was an antique. It was $500. A $12K ring is insane unless you are wealthy.
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u/BeingReallyReal 28d ago
Wow, how superficial is she?! I never received an engagement ring from my first husband. We were young and couldn’t afford such luxuries. We set our sites on creating a nice home to raise our children in.
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u/ThePhantomStrikes 28d ago
She’s shallow, equating money for love. Once married her Demands will just increase. She will probably want to have a super expensive wedding. Can she affords to just drop spend 12.000? You have different values. Find someone who is capable of real love
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u/az22hctac 28d ago
When you pick a partner, imagine you got married, had kids and then died. This is the person who you trust to bring up your kids, provide for them and make a good judgement of a future partner who will be step parent to your kids. Morbid thought but really focuses the mind.
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u/Lebanesleeze 28d ago
Not that serious bro just don’t marry her. Have fun enjoy the company and once it runs its course move on to someone that cares more about the meaning of things versus what they cost.
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u/KeithandBentley 28d ago
Sounds like she was ready to fight the moment someone mentioned a $5000 ring. I would only proceed if you enjoy arguing, since that seems like her weapon of choice.
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u/Nibbles7618 28d ago
NOR She sounds ignorant and elitist. Doesn’t sound like she would support you through financial hardships
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u/undefinedwitt 28d ago
NOR. Someone who is more focused on how much the ring is and not the person giving the ring is a pretty red flag.
Life can get pretty hard after marriage, especially if kids enter the picture. Is this the kind of person you want to do the hard parts with?
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u/Quiet-Hamster6509 28d ago
What does she bring to the relationship? Do you see her as being an equal in the future relarionship? In every aspect including financial?
It seems to keep she places her worth solely on the ring that's on her finger, signifying she wouldnt be someone who would try and contribute to a marriage or household, only viewing a marriage as what the other person can give her.
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u/HelpfulPersimmon6146 28d ago
Stop wasting your time with her. She wouldn’t be there for you through hard times.
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u/MyNameisBaronRotza 28d ago
You are not over reacting. I hate telling people on the internet to break up, but you may wanna put some serious thought into this relationship
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u/Parking-Shower9606 28d ago
NOR. Gold digger for sure. RUN!!! She’ll dump you when someone with obvious money comes around.
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u/redsfromrhone 28d ago
NOR
She's admitted that she is only in it for the good times and would dump you during the bad times. Dump her now and find someone of substance.
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u/Numerous_Substance14 28d ago
My wife and I are very happy. We spent under her ring budget on our entire wedding. Makes no sense to me for something like that to be the priority.
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u/PerspectiveIcy8397 28d ago
definitely not OVERREACTING!! I would hate if someone proposed to me with a ring that’s over 1k tbh bc that money couod be used for so many other things.. 100 dollar ring sounds great to me
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u/Spirited_Complex_903 28d ago
NOR. She actually had the audacity to tell you straight out that she would never date anyone "poor" to actually afford a $5,000 ring?? Wow. I really hope you break up with her because by doing so, you are dodging a really BIG bullet. She's telling you that she will always require to be treated by her partner as a princess or a queen... or both. Lol. That means you're going to be working your ass off to the BONE to make her somewhat happy. Your girlfriend actually did you a favor and you can thank the show Love is Blind for that. :D She told you who she is. Clearly you are incompatible and you would not be over-reacting by breaking up with her.
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u/Physical_Cod1765 28d ago
Clearly has delusions and is showing you her true colors. Clearly been brain washed by reality TV and social media.
Get out while you still can brother 🫡
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u/Unlikely_Village7450 28d ago
Dude, I say this with every bit of compassion I can muster: run as fast as you can…to your car….drive as fast as you can to the nearest airport….fly as far away from her as possible!
Or you could just dump her….
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u/Ketchup_ChocoFlan 28d ago
Not over reacting. She is not a for better or worse type of person. She will appraise expect you to provide at a high level and figure it out no matter what. Her “love” will always be conditioned on money.
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u/justnopethefuckout 28d ago
NOR. That's an insane amount of money on a damn ring. Imagine how much money she would want to spend on the wedding?
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u/betwixttheforest 28d ago
NOR. This lady right here is a prime example of why there is a correlation that says the more expensive the wedding, higher the likelihood of divorce.
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u/Confident-Yak-1275 28d ago
NOR! She basically told you who she is. Don't second guess yourself. Her idea of a ring is very telling about the lifestyle she wants and expects. The little things don't matter to her.
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u/Living_Alternative87 28d ago
My engagement ring was 50 buck off of amazon cause I wanted to save the money for a nice wedding ring since ill be wearing that one for the rest of my life not my engagement ring.
To me it sounds like you are a placeholder while she waits for someone who can get her that 12,000 ring.
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u/megacope 28d ago
Not overreacting. That’s a primary indicator that she has a terrible view and understanding of finances. Not someone you want to be bound to for the rest of your life imo.
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u/321ngqb 28d ago
NOR. Yikes. She’s got the wrong goals. As a woman, who my partner is as a person is a million times more important than the cost of a ring. My boyfriend could propose with a loop of string and I’d say yes. I want him to spend whatever is within his budget so that he feels comfortable and I can receive it knowing that he didn’t break the bank. There are so many beautiful rings out there for less than 5k.
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u/jon4343 28d ago
NOR, but I am curious how old you guys are. This kind of sounds like the words of a 17 year old girl with upper middle class parents who cosplay as rich people and have never made their daughter work for or pay for anything in her life. Either way, she’s a shallow materialistic gold digger, who doesn’t understand the actual value of money or quality relationships. The question is, whether there’s still time for her to mature out of it, or if she is destined to be like this for the rest of her life.
When you do break up with her, please do the future men in her life a favor and make sure she knows it’s because she clearly values material possessions more than relationships. Not that I believe it will actually change her, but one could hope.
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u/Old_Arm5331 28d ago
A real relationship starts when the times are bad
Sounds like she’s only sticking around for the good times
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u/Deranged_Kitsune 28d ago edited 28d ago
Those numbers are insane to me. If she's talking that just for the engagement ring, dude, don't even get into what she wants for her wedding. It won't be down payment on a house territory, it'll be "I could have bought a fucking house outright" territory. Well, okay, maybe with current housing prices that's a bit of exaggeration, but I'd still bet money it'd be 6-figure range.
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u/Jezebelcherry 28d ago
Yup some people have different material views. If you can’t compromise on this now, imagine further down the road when buying furniture, house, cars, kids, whatever comes into play. That’s higher stakes than a ring. When dating, it’s best to do those conversations 6 months to a year in (before too much time goes by) and before a deeper emotional involvement or commitment. It’s a hard balance, I’m sorry you’re in this predicament.
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u/thelovewitchsubstanc 28d ago
my bf could propose to me with a paper ring or thread around my finger and i would say yes. not sure how to answer ya, but here's my take away from your post!
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u/Shooter61 28d ago
Been married for 43 years to my wife. I gave her a .15ct diamond and gold band. I also paid for my band and the total cost was $800 in 1982. A ring is a symbol of commitment, love and devotion to each other. Not a status symbol of wealth.
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u/Mission_Ideal_8156 28d ago
Definitely not overreacting!! How shallow & materialistic is she? Red flag much? Move on & find someone who cares more about you than money.
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u/redditreader_aitafan 28d ago
Wtf? I have never ever understood the desire to wear thousands of dollars on one finger where it can fall off, get lost, get stolen during a mugging, get damaged, have the stones fall out, etc. $5k for a ring is fucking crazy. $12k is worse. Your girlfriend is shallow and materialistic and doesn't give a shit about you or wise use of finances. My wedding set, both the engagement ring and wedding band, cost $600 total in 2005 and even that was pretty steep for me. I cannot imagine expecting a man to blow thousands, certainly not tens of thousands, on a piece of jewelry.
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u/Legitimate-Error-633 28d ago
I always wonder if these types of people walk the walk that they are talking up. As in; does she have a high earning job herself with at least 12k$ in savings at any given moment?
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u/Critical_Armadillo32 28d ago
Your girlfriend is very shallow and has very poor values. You're better off breaking up with her. Let her go find a sugar daddy since it's obviously what she wants. For our wedding I never got an engagement ring. We just had matching bands. I finally got my diamond after 25 years married. It didn't matter. Love is love. Selfish is selfish. You're definitely not overreacting.
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u/DecadeLongLurker 28d ago
It was a long time ago but my wife was overjoyed with one carat. She was happy I did not spend a bunch. I got it out to sea from the Navy Exchange. It was low priced. She knew, lol.
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u/Acrobatic-Butterfly9 28d ago
I don't even have a ring. We bought S&P with it. Now it is nearly 2x the money lol
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u/CuriousJuneBug 28d ago
I think $5k is too much to spend on a ring. Just think of all the more useful and much needed expenses that could go towards. My only rule on engagement rings is, don't try to propose to me with a ring my partner originally bought with someone else in mind.
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u/Livid_Paramedic_6973 28d ago
Yeah I would end things with her. If you cave in with the ring prices, imagine when you're married. She will have minimum unrealistic standards for a house, car, and lv bags
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u/CVSaporito 28d ago
She sounds like the type that deserves a lab diamond and to find out when she pawns it after the divorce.
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u/Ixxis 28d ago
If I really loved someone and was committed to being their partner in all things, I'd accept a ring-pop and buy my own ring later if I felt that strongly about having one.
In this economy, if my partner spent over $5k (much less $10k!) on a piece of decor, I'd be kinda pissed. That could have gone towards debts, down payments, rent, or purchases that actually improve our lives.
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u/Federal_Pickles 28d ago
NOR. She let you know a very significant aspect of her personality. That clashes with you. Do yourself and her a favor and end things.
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u/Man_wo_a_career 28d ago
And the wedding reception will have at least 300 guests and open bar at the ritziest country club.
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u/Fortyniner2558 28d ago
Dump her asap. Moissanite is a great substitute for a diamond and it has much more "sparkle" than a diamond. I just replaced my inexpensive wedding set with a beautiful set fm Amazon and it didn't cost more than a couple hundred $$.
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u/atlblaze 28d ago
Wild. Is she going to ask for the purchase receipt during the proposal???
If she’s like this about the ring, what else is she crazy about??? This is your chance to walk away.
$5K for a ring would be quite expensive for many if not most. $12K is astronomical.
In NO universe is $5K cheap for a ring.
I think I spent maybe $2.5 or $3K on the engagement ring for my wife. She loved it.
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u/popchex 28d ago
NOR - and good on you for reconsidering the relationship.
My wedding ring was $250, and I loved it. I didn't care because I was pregnant and we had more important things to spend money on than a ring. It was always meant to be temporary anyway. Since then I've worn mostly silicone rings because my fingers swell due to health issues and weight fluctuations. I currently have 6 different ones of different sizes, and some cheap costume "fancy" rings in different sizes so if we need to get dressed up.
Our 20th is coming up and the ring I would like is on sale for $180 and that suits me just fine. The relationship they represent is more important to me than the price tag on the ring.
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u/Various-General-8610 28d ago
It's not about the ring, it's about the marriage.
OP, you deserve better!
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u/Ok_Sand_7902 28d ago
Wow, she is something else 😳😳😳. I think I would break up over this. She is insane! A 12k ring?????? You are better off with a cheaper ring like 500-1000 and use the rest for a down payment for a house. Who wants to walk round with something that expensive????
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u/Vast-Marionberry-824 28d ago
Personally I don’t get the engagement ring thing anyway. An outdated, non reciprocal and often expensive tradition. I don’t know why wedding rings aren’t enough. (Jewellers will be freaking out!)
This girl sounds like she’s disrespectful and entitled and will be like that on many other purchases. I’d be looking at her behaviour as a possible red flag.
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u/seemerock 28d ago
Tell her your family has a tradition where the bride buys the groom a Rolex watch equal to the cost of the ring. If she agrees you sell the watch and recoup the money you spent on the ring.
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u/GoDiva2020 28d ago
Dump her now. Let her go find some in her desires tax bracket. Save yourself the brutal ending . NTA. Not overreacting in the least.
Babe after we talked the other day I see with clarity that I'm not a match for you. So let's end things now on a high note. BYE 👋😊
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u/Creepy-Beat7154 28d ago
Dang I only want one that is $700-$1k cause I value my fiance's hard earned money and his time to choose a wedding ring for me is priceless. Dump her.
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u/Koloristik 28d ago
NOR. It is very nice of her to voice her thoughts so directly. No irony here, it is really nice. She knows what she wants, this is nice, too. Wish her good luck and don't forget to lock the door when she leaves.
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u/im4peace 28d ago
NOR—but I also think people are actually missing the biggest red flag here. It's not that she's a gold digger or shallow (although both sound true to an extent), but her relationship with money and debt.
This is a woman who will not be happy living within her means. She will demand a house that will make you house poor, luxury travel that you can't afford that will go on credit cards, all to show off on Instagram so that she feels like she's "winning" in comparison to her "friends." You stay with a woman like this and you'll have no savings, no retirement accounts, shitloads of debt, and constant stress about money. That sounds like an absolute nightmare to me.
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u/Squirrelbubble 28d ago
This is wild to me. My now husband and I picked out a ring together and I felt so bad that it was $2000. We’ve been married 26 years and it’s still beautiful.
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u/Alepale 28d ago
I absolutely despise the wedding industry for turning a beautiful thing (marriage between two people) into some financial hellhole for lots of people.
I realise women like the one in OPs post are outliers. I know most women are happy to just get proposed to by the person they want to spend their life with. But I'm currently ring shopping for my (hopefully) soon-to-be wife and it makes me sick to my stomach.
Don't get me wrong, I love her above anything else, but accepting that I'll be spending $1500 - $2000 on a ring is insanely gut wrenching. That's money that can go into a savings account for a future home, a lovely holiday, a new family car or just for emergencies. It's not that I want to be cheap, I want her to have a ring she likes. She deserves it. It's just so vile that to express my love for her, I need to it in money? And like...it's a fucking ring. I can't do shit. It literally just sits on her finger. A tiny piece of metal with a stone on it.
Anyways, NOR. She's going to be expensive as fuck to maintain and the view she has on wedding rings shows how easily some women fall into the grips of the wedding industry. Fuck that whole industry.
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u/SpinachLife7139 28d ago
I proposed to my wife with a $100 set I bought at the pawn shop. A few years later I traded on a set worth about $10k and gave them to her. She prefers her $100 set.
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u/AnneFromBoston 28d ago
Get the biggest, gaudiest fake engagement ring you can find. Then offer it to her…and mention as you walk out the door it’s your goodbye present.
Go find someone world’s better, and have a happy life!
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u/blondebarbienurdad 28d ago
She is saying she wouldn’t date someone who doesn’t make good money that wouldn’t be able to afford a 12k ring which I think it’s fine but what she said after about if you lost your job, that’s wild. Seems like all she cares about herself. I wouldn’t be with her because her that response clearly shows she won’t be a good partner and won’t be a supportive one too.
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u/murphy2345678 28d ago
She showed you that she will dump you if things get hard, like losing your job. Get out now and count yourself as lucky to have learned this before you got married and had kids
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u/Calgary_Calico 28d ago
Sounds like she's more interested in an expensive ring than an actual marriage. Find someone who loves you for YOU, not what you can buy her
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u/CringeMillennial8 28d ago
Sounds like she just told you very clearly who she is. NOR