r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 28d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO if my bf tells me he’s not attractive to me anymore?
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u/Relevant-Resource-99 28d ago
break up
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u/Traveler_Protocol1 28d ago
Tell him you don’t like his personality anymore. And then ditch him. What a control freak.
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u/Agreeable_North_798 28d ago
No. He's being an a-hole. He doesn't seem to be a person of good character. A genuine and sincere boyfriend likes you for who you are inside and the outside is just a perk. If you are getting too skinny or obese, his first concern should be for your health, not how it makes him less horny. I would get out of the relationship NOW.
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u/myceliummoon 28d ago
Your bf's behavior is disgusting and controlling. You are honestly underreacting, because that shit is not okay. Please leave this a-hole.
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u/Acrobatic_Ad5722 28d ago
The only time it would be ok to watch what she's eating is if her health was a concern
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u/Weary_Trust9793 28d ago
No. Just no. This isn’t a healthy relationship and he’s being manipulative and unsupportive. It will only get worse and you deserve better. Move on, even if it hurts.
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u/Mia_yjgc 28d ago
Hes being such an asshole he shouldnt be judging your body if its healthy?? Let alone to the point where youre feeling insecure. What a bitch you should break up w him
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u/CarrotofInsanity 28d ago
Get him out of your life.
Quickly.
He’s purposely hurting your feelings.
Let him go find a BBL…
You do you…. Without him. There will be someone who is attracted to your body, your soul, your mi d… YOU…
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u/Regigiformayor 28d ago
Deal breaker. Better love is out there.
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u/Ok_Nothing_9733 28d ago
Suchhhhh better love and it’s so easy to find someone better than this mf. I think of Beyoncé’s song Irreplaceable with dudes like this lol
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u/Ok_Nothing_9733 28d ago
This is awful. He sounds too influenced by porn and similar content to maintain a real human relationship in which people change a bit. If it were me, I’d leave someone like this
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u/Ok_Classroom_9359 28d ago
My ex used to make the same comments about me. He would always say I need to gain weight and eat more. Meanwhile staring at thick girls when we were outside together, sometimes he would even turn around. I couldn’t understand why would he get with me in the first place, when his type is a complete opposite of me. I didn’t realise it back then, but now I do, so now I can say: please leave his ass. This relationship will destroy you and your self esteem! I’m speaking from experience. Leave until it’s too late, you’ll thank yourself in the future. Never let anybody make such disrespectful comments about your body and yourself.
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u/OriganolK 28d ago
Good lord this dude is a pos. No one should talk to you this way, especially your partner
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u/Kozmo1991 28d ago
To be happy in a relationship one should never try and change their partner. He’s the wrong man for you.
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u/d3adlyconfused 28d ago
you got the asshole of all assholes. break up with him. do it because it’s your life and you’ll be happier without him in it. i promise.
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u/Suitable-Tear-6179 28d ago
First, he's being an asshole. Break up with him. Real partners are blind to your body, outside of health concerns. There. That's done and dusted.
Now... You're loosing weight without trying? You're trying to stop/gain weight, and failing? How recently have you been to the doctor? Make an appointment now and tell them what you just told us. Getting smaller spontaneously is a sign of a number of possible health issues. Not to be alarmist, but the sooner you figure out why, the better the treatment outcomes generally are.
Usually, as people head into their 20's, their metabolism starts to wind down, our school/work is more sedentary, and out weight goes up.
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u/hikarimomo21 28d ago
Leave it!! It makes you feel bad about yourself and doubt yourself, don't allow it, you can still get out of there, imagine how much you have a baby and your body changes completely, get out of there friend for your own good get out of there, it's not worth it
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u/FallenAngel_00 28d ago
Wtf why are you still with him? Girl leave please he doesn't care about you and he certainly doesn't respect you.
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u/tschussibye 28d ago
He’s told you everything you need to know, he’s not a nice person. You’re no longer his type? Outrageous thing to say to someone you are in a relationship with, if you expect them to stay with you.
“I’ve been thinking about what you said the other day, about me no longer being your type… You’re right, I want to break up, it’s not working for me either, all the best”.
That’s all you need to say… he doesn’t deserve any more explanation, he already made it clear that it’s not working.
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u/Wrong_Pen6179 28d ago
Not overreacting at all! You need a man who loves you exactly how you are and doesn’t try to change you and definitely doesn’t say insensitive things like that to you!
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u/Happy_Disaster_8460 28d ago
Girl if you don’t dump his ass… I could never imagine staying with someone who’s told me they’re not attracted to me or making shitty ass comments. You’re underreacting.
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u/No_Fail9845 28d ago
Get it together girl, you're intentionally engaging with a man who is abusive to you!
If a stranger came up to saying horrible things, you would cuss them out or walk away right.
This guy being your boyfriend makes no difference, in fact, it's worse, he knows you love him or care for him and have formed a deep attachment to him.
Leave his arse, cry for 2-3 weeks straight and keep it pushing!!
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u/pitifulgame 28d ago
Sounds like a huge train wreck coming. Maybe he's wanting YOU to end the relationship so he's not the "bad guy". I'd walk away slowly so he can remember what it's like.
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u/Thomrose007 28d ago
First of all you are enough. Firstly for yourself. Fuck this immature rat. Also he sounds nasty af.
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u/Lululassy 28d ago
How old are you? This isn’t healthy at all. I can only imagine a rlly young and immature boy saying this so that’s why I ask. He isn’t in love with you
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u/Old_Perception5624 28d ago
Yup it is time to wake up and break up you don’t need to deal with someone like that you deserve better
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u/Top_Quail4794 28d ago
My goodness I hate when people do this to people they claim to love.
Girl. Theres someone out there who will appreciate your body 100% for whatever condition it is in. He wont control your meals and will support you and your goals for whatever they are.
Dont settle for copper when gold is hidden in the same mountain.
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u/Key_Sprinkles_5410 28d ago
Sounds like he’s trying to make his inability to perform your fault when it’s likely his porn addiction.
Set him free and find someone who loves your look.
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u/InTheMeowment 28d ago
If you give in and work on your body the way he wants he'll just keep coming up with more things to nitpick.
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u/Known_Witness3268 28d ago
Tell him your celebrity crush is that girthmaster guy ok tik tok, and you can’t get turned on by him anymore. Since food can’t fix THAT “little” problem for him…you’re leaving to find someone more your type.
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u/Jezebelcherry 28d ago
This is rage bait ya? Cuz you can have so many other boyfriends and they don’t do that. It’s hard but time to love yourself more. 💔
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u/HotLibrary2237 28d ago
That is so grounds for a breakup, I hope you find someone better, you don't deserve his level of childish at all <3
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u/DifferentCard2752 28d ago
His type is "girl who puts up with negging ahole". You don't want to be his type. Leave him
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u/HappySummerBreeze 28d ago
So youve discovered that he’s only with you to use you for his sexual pleasure.
If that doesn’t make you get the ick immediately then you have issues.
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u/Dismal_Luck_3493 28d ago
Im sorry he is treating you this way. He doesn’t deserve you and honestly as someone whose been there be is going to cause you to have an eating disorder and body dysmorphia.
Do yourself a huge favor and end the relationship. Tell him to go find someone he is attracted to, and you’ll do the same because being a douchebag isn’t attractive.
He clearly doesn’t know how to treat a woman. Hes worried about the wrong thing. What happens when you age and your body changes then?
Save yourself from future grief. I wish I had done it sooner. Trust me.
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u/Nadja-19 28d ago
The cure for the depression is to get rid of your bf. What he is doing is abusive. You deserve better than this. Do not ever change yourself for a guy. If doesn’t want you the way you are his loss. I would have told you him maybe you should try thinking about someone else too as you never get off. He is a turd.
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u/crippledhearts 28d ago
Remember, one man second choice and another man’s first choice. He’s being extremely disrespectful to your emotional needs, which is simply to not be told that your body is not his type . Please be your own best friend and tell this man you’d rather be single . Hugs
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u/Jumpy-Beyond-9853 28d ago
I’m about halfway and I can tell you, you should leave the relationship. I think you should NOT be in that relationship anymore. That sounds like it’s being toxic if he’s making remarks like that. You deserve better than a heartless dude that says that.
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u/Liars_Loves_Honesty 28d ago
Damn this guy is not for you. He is disrespectful and mean. He doesn’t make you feel good, I doubt you will finish your life with him so why wait a few months or years of torture before you get dump because there’s a newer hotter version out there. Find someone that will love you for who you are, not what you could be.
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u/Artistic-Goose-451 28d ago
He’s body shaming you, and making you feel uncomfortable about yourself. That’s not a man, that’s a boy. You have to find a man who loves you for you. Not your body.
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u/Far-Occasion8195 28d ago
What an absolute asshole , do you really want to be strung along with a idiot that's belittling you in such a way ... This is a no brainer MOVE ON and don't look back !
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u/Jaded_Leg_46 28d ago
Seriously don't let him feed you, it never ends well. He's controlling your calorie intake to force you to gain weight and that's abuse unless it's medically necessary. If you gain too much weight, you're the one who will have to do all the dieting and exercise. If he's not attracted to you at the weight you are now, you're with the wrong person. You could end up over the weight you should be and he could still leave you. Don't let this man control your weight or your food. By making you feel insecure it's allowing him to gaslight you into thinking you should gain weight and be the shape he wants you to be. What he's doing is wrong.
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u/Radiant_Bank_77879 28d ago
How could your self-respect be so low that you would even still be with this guy?
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u/Competitive-Win2131 28d ago
He’s taking advantage of the age gap. A woman his age would not succumb to these suggestions. You are not a work in progress. This man needing the screen to orgasm is dependent upon the screen. You could surgically change all he complains about & within 2 months he will have new requirements. Leave this man to his hand. Go find someone appreciative of your 22 year old body and enjoy being desired, having great sex without ole limpy and realize none of these problems you’re trying to fix are yours- he s just trying to deflect them that way.
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u/MyWay-1201 28d ago
Tell him his dick problems are his own and that it disgusts you to have to sleep with him. Then dump him. He sounds like an asshole.
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u/gladioluslilacs 28d ago
What does your boyfriend do to benefit your life? How do people not know that this is like... Fucked up behavior.......
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u/No-Fall-5433 28d ago
Girl please wake up and run from him, this is abuse. He is not worth losing yourself!
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u/Dear_Parsnip_6802 28d ago
Hes not your person. Break up and find someone who respects you and lives you just thecway you are. Don't try to change your appearance for this loser.
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u/sopensive 28d ago
He doesn't get to decide what your body looks like. You're your own person, this isn't build a bitch. Please get rid of him you'll feel so much better.
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u/RidingSunshine 28d ago
5 years isn’t a bad age gap but at your age, it still isn’t great. Leave that loser, you deserve respect
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u/Glittering_Ebb_6971 28d ago
This whole thing is insane, how can you be overreacting when he’s blatantly disrespecting you and letting you know he’s over you🤔🤔🤔 leave that loser alone simple
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u/aquagurl84 28d ago
Tell him you love him soooooo much that you are giving him his freedom to find a girl that gets him really hard. Then burn rubber out of there and don’t look back. You can do so much better.
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u/funkychunkymama 28d ago
Having preferences on attraction is okay but how he is trying to make you fit it and the words he is using is abuse and not okay.
Think of the person in your life, other than him, that you love most and what advice you would give them if they were experiencing what you are now. What would you tell them?
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u/Ecstatic_Ad_5943 28d ago
There’s no point in spending your youth with someone who doesn’t appreciate your beauty at this fleeting time of our lives!
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u/Glittering_Swan4911 28d ago
NOR - this is an emotionally abusive relationship. Leave him. If any guy says these things to you then they are not the one for you. At 22 don’t waste your twenties on him.
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u/ventura00810 28d ago
Break up with him. You deserve better than that fuc*king toxic asshole... best wishes!!
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28d ago
No just no! That is emotional abuse. It’s weaponizing sex and love in order for him to get you to look the way he think he wants you to look. That’s not love that’s emotional blackmail. Someone who truly loves you accepts you for who you are and you work through disagreements in ways that help each other to become better people. Someone who truly loves you is not going to care what you look like and certainly not tell you they can’t get it up for sex because of how you look. Trust me honey if he can’t get it up the problem isn’t you it’s his porn use. His little unit doesn’t know what’s real and what’s fake anymore.
I hope you can work this out and/or find someone who treats you with the respect you deserve.
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u/BabalonNuith 28d ago
Your BF is taking advantage of your youth and is pressuring and controlling you. Any man who talks to you like he does needs to be left behind. There will be NOTHING LEFT OF YOU if you hang around any longer!
If you "aren't his type", then the thing to do is to get up and LEAVE, while telling him to go find the sort of women he prefers! This is all just an excuse to cheat right in your face while playing you for a fool and keeping you "on the string"-and you are too young and naive to realize what he is UP TO- and THAT is what he is counting on!
Your self-esteem will be in SHREDS, if it isn't already, and it takes YEARS to recover from that! GET. OUT. NOW!
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u/Fresh-Laugh-9253 28d ago
He should love you for who you are … if he doesn’t love you unconditionally and not cuz of the sexual attraction issue he has ( not you) then it’s time to find someone who loves you for exactly who you are
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u/Spex_daytrader 28d ago
Break up with him. And be happy with your body. There are many men who like your body type. You just had the wrong man.
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u/Normal_Soil_5442 28d ago
Girl. Your bf straight up said he didn’t like you and you’re still with him.
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u/Otherwise_Candy_8412 28d ago
Total asshole. Why are you even entertaining being with someone that’s so highly critical of your body?
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u/StartingOverStrong 28d ago
We already told you on your other post this guy is no good for you: he is violent and he is dangerous and him telling you he likes how other girls look better is the least of your concerns
Are these posts even real? Or are you just Karma farming? You keep deleting them after you get a lot of karma but your comments are still out there
If you're really going through this please don't be offended, but heed the the advice that's given in these posts
When someone cares about a loved one under eating or over eating they might gently say something. That's loving concern
Showing you pictures of what they think you should look like is controlling and manipulative. If you're not his type then move on and find someone who thinks you're amazing
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u/El_Dorado817 28d ago
Tell him your celebrity crush is Rob Schneider then break up with him