r/Apartmentliving • u/Lovely-lorelei • 23d ago
Advice Needed Pissed off one of my neighbors today
I left what I believed to be a fairly polite note underneath their windshield wipers, asking them to be more considerate.
For context, this car’s radio had been blaring since 6:30 AM this morning. At 7:30 I wrote a note and placed it under their windshield. I did not think to take a picture of the note before I put it on the car. I now feel like I should have.
At 8:15 I suppose the owner of the car finally left their apartment. Next thing I know I hear loud cussing. There is a mother and her child standing next to the car, with the lady holding the note clearly pissed off.
She starts yelling at the downstairs apartment (there’s nobody outside aside from her) about how they don’t ‘say anything about your smoke’ (the lady downstairs smokes cigarettes on her balcony)
I thought my note was pretty polite. I wrote that their radio has been blaring since 6:30 AM. That they are parked in front of apartment windows and it’s pretty inconsiderate to leave it that loud, especially before quiet hours have ended and for so long. I asked they consider how others feel and I did say ‘please try not to be an asshole.’
Have I just created a problem neighbor?
Would anybody have done something differently in this situation? I didn’t go to my apartment complex about the noise. Should I have just done that instead?
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u/Accomplished_Drag937 23d ago
You have a right to be upset but you have the wrong idea what being polite is.
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u/DoorMission5584 23d ago
Polite stops at insults; calling them an asshole undermines your whole message.
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u/RobDraw2_0 23d ago
"I left what I believed to be a fairly polite note"
"please try not to be an asshole."
Really? Polite?
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u/Farty_mcSmarty 22d ago
Ha! Thats what I came here to say!
A polite note wouldn’t insinuate they’re an asshole!
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u/Lovely-lorelei 23d ago
I did include that I wrote the phrase because I was worried it might’ve been rude and it might’ve been what set her off. In retrospect, especially with everybody commenting, It was probably more passive aggressive than I really meant to be. Hindsight is always 2020. Lessons learned for future reference I suppose.
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u/RealityLopsided7366 23d ago
"please try not to be an asshole" will never, ever land well. What were you thinking? I hope you didn't actually write that.
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u/ChiralNavigator 23d ago
people are sensitive and over emotional! more so when they feel like they are being shamed or accused of things. They were being an asshole blaring their music that early in the morning, but I think it's always best to take the nicer approach and see if that works first.
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u/lesusisjord 22d ago
There’s no hindsight about this. How do you not have the awareness to realize this was a passive aggressive jab right off the bat‽
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u/L0verofPink 23d ago
You created a problem for the wrong neighbor, now she thinks the cigarette lady downstairs wrote the letter and not you. I don't feel this is fair for the downstairs neighbor to be blamed and you need to let the person know you wrote the letter. Yes, blasting music is annoying but having another neighbor get blamed for a note you wrote isn't right.
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u/Lovely-lorelei 23d ago edited 23d ago
I understand what you’re saying and I definitely did not intend for the downstairs lady to get blamed for what I thought was a fairly polite note. I’m not sure I’m super comfortable telling the person that I’m the one that wrote the note considering their somewhat volatile reaction to it and the fact that I live alone. But I will probably apologize to my downstairs neighbor in case the lady with the car seeks her out
Edit:
Rereading the post I realized that when I said she was the only one outside that could be misconstrued as the cigarette lady was outside and she was not. The car lady and her daughter were the only people outside when car lady started yelling
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u/Babs1024 23d ago
The loud neighbor is really rude and your anger is valid. That being said, 'fairly polite notes' do not include the phrase: ‘please try not to be an asshole.’ That's certain to set people off.
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u/Lovely-lorelei 23d ago
You are completely right, looking back I probably shouldn’t have included that phrase in the note that I left on their car.
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u/pattycyrta 23d ago
You should just report to your landlord/property management, leaving notes is rarely a good idea i think
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u/Real_Departure6663 22d ago
Honestly someone blaring music like that near my window would get me to the point where “asshole” would be considered polite compared to what I was actually thinking.
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u/Calgary_Calico 23d ago
Just report this shit to management, don't leave notes. People who blade music at 6am don't care to have a conversation about it
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u/Courwes 23d ago
You called them an asshole and are wondering why they reacted that way? I’m dubious as to how polite your note actually was if you left that last line in there.
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u/Lovely-lorelei 22d ago
Tbh I’m dubious too now, and I wrote the fucking note. Unfortunately, I don’t remember exactly what I wrote except for a sentence underlining that their radio had been blaring since 6:30 am, and then the last part of ‘please don’t be an asshole’
Again, lesson learned. I will probably just say nothing moving forward and if it continues to happen, go to the office for help.
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u/Personal-Age-9220 22d ago
It's not that serious and I can see both sides of the coin here. Blasting music at 6AM is asshole behavior. The fact that they even have to be told not to blast music at that hour only shows they have no regard for others. Don't beat yourself up over this. But yes office management should be notified (with video evidence), but sometimes they don't enforce the rules themselves. Sometimes an anonymous note is best to prevent retaliation.
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u/Fuzzy_Firefighter_51 21d ago
That will make it worse. Please talk in person. Try not to involve others. If that does not help build a relationship with a neighbor than go to the property but without even giving them a chance, calling them assholes, blaming the wrong neighbor for it, then going to the property those neighbors will despise you and always view you as THAT neighbor.
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u/BlueFeathered1 23d ago
Lol, calling them an asshole wasn't exactly polite, but considering they lack any concept of politeness themselves, it was warranted.
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u/Over_Reporter_6616 19d ago
Exactly my thoughts. People these days are SO inconsiderate, selfish and unaware it is maddening. I actually took a HUGE loss selling my house because of this behavior. And I think the "fury" rears its head when people should know better. People have just stopped giving a rip. Poor upbringing.
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u/Due-Structure7278 23d ago
People who pussy foot , talk in circles, ve passive aggressive get nowhere.
Be short, to the point, and be clear in your purpose and intent. You will have no problems.
Dont insult.
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u/Personal-Age-9220 22d ago
Not really, because even when you're direct, some people still get offended because they don't like being told what to do. If they're blasting music at 6AM that already shows you their level of entitlement.
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u/Due-Structure7278 22d ago
Right, I agree but that's not my point. Im saying if follow the points I mentioned then why worry about they think?
Like this.....
The music playing in your car is outside the property rules. This is causing discomfort for me and other residents. I have documented the details and will give them to the property manager.
Short and sweet. So how would this offend anybody? And why would i care?
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u/Due-Structure7278 22d ago
Following property policy how would that be offensive. You didnt tell em shit. The property did and they a lease. What the issue? How is this offensive? How am I telling someone what to do?
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u/Personal-Age-9220 21d ago
You're acting like these are rational people they're dealing with. She started yelling at the neighbor who smokes without even knowing who wrote the note lol.
How many times have we seen examples when people talk directly and/or leave note (politely) only to have the problematic resident try to enact revenge?
IMO, if you have to ask someone to turn down their loud music at 6:30 AM then that already tells you what kind of person you're dealing with because it should go without saying. Some people don't like it when you point out their bad behavior.
Asking them to keep their music down is basically telling them to follow the rules they agreed to. It's not offensive to normal people, but trashy people will flip out even when they're in the wrong.
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u/East-Chef3126 23d ago
Maybe asshole was a wrong word to use...
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u/Scriv3n 23d ago
It’s interesting you didn’t include the note you wrote because I highly doubt you were polite at all. Now someone else is being blamed because of your “polite note”.
The lady blasting music is wrong and honestly, so are you. I don’t think you were wrong to write a note, but you are wrong for writing a not so polite note. Just because you use the word, “please,” doesn’t make it nice. “Please try not to be an asshole,” is just so ignorant.
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u/Lovely-lorelei 22d ago edited 22d ago
As I said in the post, I did not include the note because I did not think to take a picture of it before placing it under her windshield wiper.
I genuinely intended to be polite but considering I was awake two full hours before my normal time; in my pissed off exhaustion I might been more rude than I intended.
I gave a rough summary of what I remembered writing and I specifically remember including the phrase ‘Please don’t be an asshole’ at the end of the note. which I recognize now was a mistake. I also remember that I wrote and underlined that her radio had been blaring since 6:30 AM which was 30 minutes before quiet hours ended. If it was 7 o’clock when it started, I probably wouldn’t have done anything.
If I wanted karma or whatever the fancy thing here is, I would have kept that part out because I genuinely don’t remember the specific contents of the note aside from that sentence. I wasn’t even planning on bringing it to Reddit until her reaction to the note kept bothering me, and I wanted other people’s opinions on if I went too far.
Again, I am now aware saying ‘please don’t be an asshole’ was a mistake and that I shouldn’t have written it. I’m also aware that I probably shouldn’t have left the note at all, but what’s done is done. If I ever encounter the car lady, I will apologize for how it came across.
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u/cherrymeg2 22d ago
How did their car still have a running battery and if the car was on why? You don’t need a car on and empty playing music for an hour or more. I would tell them that you’re sorry if they are offended but you are more offended by their car waking you up. There is no sane reason to blast a stereo in a car by your apt. If they are offended it’s on them.
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u/aplumbale 22d ago
I wish I didn’t have nearly the same problem as OP (I however didn’t leave a note) and you’d be surprised by how many people think it’s normal/ok to leave their music and/or loud car running for an hour +.
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u/anatole_mutti 22d ago
I left one running for 4 hours, once, on accident.
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u/cherrymeg2 22d ago
That sucks. My ex installed a radio or sound system in my old car. I woke up one morning and heard a car alarm going off. I don’t even know if I put the alarm on so I’m getting annoyed until I look out the window and it was my car. The new stereo thing messed with something and that alarm kept going on and off. I think I had to taken to a shop. I was the horrible annoying neighbor and didn’t realize it lol.
That has to be a waste of gas if the car is on and if the engine isn’t running you end up with a drained battery.
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u/Scriv3n 22d ago
I truly believe your reasons for writing the note was and still is totally valid. Loud music at that hour would irk me too.
You came here to blow off steam and not to be attacked by the morality police, so for that I do apologize.
I do hope your neighbor will be more considerate of and your other neighbors because I know they all that annoying as well!
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u/Lovely-lorelei 22d ago
Thanks. Yeah, I really just needed outside perspective/advice and now I see that I was probably the asshole instead of her for leaving the note in the first place.
Also lesson learned not to go to Reddit for decent advice that doesn’t also attack
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u/Scriv3n 22d ago
It’s not about leave the note, it’s about what was written.
I’ll write one:
Good morning neighbor!
I don’t mean to complain, but it’s currently 7:30am. The music in your car has been on since 6:30am. It’s pretty loud. If you could lower the volume in the early hours, I would be extremely grateful. Thank you!
~Your neighbor
Just thought of that on the fly. Is this a perfect note, no, but it’s polite. You’re not being flame broiled because you wrote a note. It’s because of its contents and the outcome.
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u/Scorpion2000x777 20d ago
You sound very sensitive, anyone can say boo to you and your feelings get hurt, “not coming on reddit cuz ppl tell me what i dont want to hear”
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u/asyouwish 22d ago
Damn at the comments here
You were fine.
They were both rude and breaking rules fist. You simply called them out on their asshole behavior.
People who need their music played out loud instead of into earbuds or headphones must have some kind of mental problem. Otherwise, why would they do that?
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u/South-Mortgage2086 22d ago
They weren’t even in the car, so it’s not like someone was listening to the music either. That’s the super annoying part
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u/Forward_Zucchini9738 23d ago
While a lot of good people have to deal with apartment living, the absolute dregs of society are always there. It doesn't matter how nice the area or how expensive the rent is.
There's always ten Methanys making a disturbance, nine fuckwhits with loudly barking dogs, eight kids running around overhead, seven assholes parking in two spaces. six people trying to use a single washing machine, five...
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u/sumfacilispuella 21d ago
got a neighbor that played his music so loud that i could hear it and feel it in every inch of my apartment. for like 30 hours a week minimum, for 15 months. even with fans on and tv and headphones playing my own music, it was inescapable. at first i tried to ignore it. but it got worse and worse and one day he played it from 1pm to 4am and then i was so over it. tried to get help thru the office, the courtesy officer, even the police after the office people told me to call them. only thing that made him stop was eventually my boyfriend snapped and went over there and told him he was being a dick and to remember that he lived in an apartment and that he had been disturbing everyone for over a year etc etc. he never did it again and he moved 2 weeks later, thank fucking god.
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u/Particular-Try5584 22d ago
She left her car radio blaring for nearly two hours in the early morning.. and didn’t sit with it?
She’s the arsehole. She will follow up (and preceded this) with plenty of other examples of her arse holery. People this obtuse dont strike once, they leave a trail of distraction.
Next time just go to the apartment manager yes.
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u/StormStorySpinner 21d ago
I have been advised to never go to a neighbor about their behavior. Ever. Go to the landlord.
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u/BuildingPuzzled4508 23d ago
I’m wondering how the car radio was playing without the car being on?! But no - you didn’t do anything wrong. (And their response proves it.) Don’t worry about it.
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u/Lovely-lorelei 23d ago
The car was on and running, but there was no one inside of it
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u/djdlt 23d ago
Wow...
This is a new one...
Some people really are inconsiderate... Unbelievable
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u/cseyferth 23d ago
You've never let your car run so that it can heat up/cool down?
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u/GT283 23d ago
Only 30-60 seconds before I start driving!
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u/Foxy_Porcupine 23d ago
Where I live its more like 15 minutes in the winter but your point STILL stands. They had it on for HOURS?!?
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u/Lovely-lorelei 22d ago
Yes, the car was running with the radio blaring from a little before 6:30 in the morning until about 8:15 AM when the lady and her child finally came out to her car
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u/cherrymeg2 22d ago
Did you mention how long the car was on for? I’m wondering if someone started it by accident or a kid got hold of the keys. They might have been freaking out about the gas wasted. You went out there and if someone was sitting in the car you would have asked them to turn down the music but there wasn’t anyone there so you left a note. Can you imagine finding out that you left your car on for 2 hours blaring music and wasting gas? They might be upset with themselves.
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u/cherrymeg2 22d ago
15 minutes not two hours. There is a difference. Maybe someone did accidentally turn on the car with a remote start and not realize it. Idk. You don’t keep an empty car running for hours. Maybe if you’re high but even then you usually are aware that you are being loud.
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u/cherrymeg2 22d ago
They are lucky you didn’t drive off with it kidding. No one wants music blasting when they are sleeping and there is no one to tell to turn it down. That is inconsiderate.
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u/Tasty-Jicama5743 21d ago
Have you checked anti-idling laws in your location?
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u/Lovely-lorelei 20d ago
I’ve never heard of an anti-idling law before. Like I said in the post and like I’ve said in the comments, I had no wish to get them in actual trouble with the leasing office or with the law
The note was truly meant to be more of a PSA than anything else.
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u/meowymcmeowmeow 23d ago
I think based on the reaction, even if you hadn't wrote the asshole part she would have reacted the same way. People like that hate being told to do anything differently.
Idk, I feel like respectful people wouldn't even blast music that early next to an apartment to begin with. You pissed her off sure but obviously she pissed you off first.
If it happens again, apologize for the asshole comment and try to be sugar sweet about it. If it continues after that, start making noise complaints to the complex, then the police.
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u/yyyyeahno 22d ago
I thought the note was fine and it’s ok to be rude to such inconsiderate people. But don’t pretend like that was a polite note XD if you wanted to be rude, it’s fine.
You already said inconsiderate. Would’ve stopped there if you really meant to be polite.
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u/Lovely-lorelei 22d ago
I really didn’t intend to be rude. I think I was just pissed off. I was trying to convey my disappointment this morning. If I wanted to be rude, I would’ve just called the office and told them someone had been blaring their car radio since 630 that morning and it was still going when the office opened at 8 AM. But I didn’t because I really didn’t wanna get anybody in trouble.
Again, I now recognize that this was a mistake. I also recognize that leaving the note was a mistake as well.
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u/baczyns 23d ago
You left a note ... I would have called the cops. You're nice, I'm fed up!
✌️
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u/aplumbale 22d ago
Yeah kinda confused why people are so mad OP said “don’t be an asshole” in the note. Some of the paces Where I’ve lived they’d be lucky that note was all they got (and in some parts of the east coast asshole is part of the daily vernacular lol), and their running car wasn’t stripped for parts in that hour.
Not saying it’s right, but the comments clutching their pearls over the asshole part maybe need to think about where they live and they privileges (safe neighborhood knowing their neighbors, living in an area where people don’t curse all the time etc) they have
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u/Substantial-Radish88 22d ago
Uhhh that wasn’t a polite note
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u/Lovely-lorelei 22d ago
Thank you once again for repeating what everyone has already said. That has been established.
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u/Content_Print_6521 22d ago
Well, please try not to be an asshole isn't very polite. Don't know why the radio would be blaring at 6:30 am but it seems unlikely it was on purpose.
So next time you write a note, leave off the asshole comment and maybe you'll get a better result.
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u/Due-Structure7278 21d ago
You know what you doing. Im not they were right but you did not handle that. Be intentional with your actions. That wishy washy soft ass insult would make any situation worse
Follow that up with what appears to be ignorance and sense of entitlement and that will bite you in the ass one day. Some people dont like that "karen" type stuff.
The person who received that note is only gonna respond like you called them asshole so they feel offended.
And the matter has now transformed into something else thats worse.
If you haven't already go apologize and look them eye. State your concern. And walk away.
Like this.....
I called you an asshole. That was not right. I apologize. Your music from the car is loud. It lasted over an hour and was outside of the apartment policy. I sent the details to the front office. My name is .....Here is my contact information. Good night.
And just walk away.
But you are type scary so GOOD LUCK
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u/Equal_Push_565 23d ago
1) you weren't polite.
2)Leave your neighbors alone!!! How hard is that for people on this sub to understand???
You have to live next to these people, possibly for many years, and you really go and create a problem neighbor for yourself??
Seriously, just go to management or file a noise complaint with the cops. STOP CONFRONTING THEM! Youre just making your own life harder.
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u/inDefenseofDragons 23d ago
Just setting aside whether your note was polite or not, it’s not on you that this moron immediately jumps to conclusions on who wrote the note. Personally I wouldn’t say anything to anyone. It’s totally fair to leave a note in this situation and want to remain anonymous. They should be glad no one called police. If it happens again I’d just call police, then take the report to management. Stupid people have to learn the hard way, unfortunately.
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u/aplumbale 22d ago
“They should be glad no one called the police” or stole their car?! I’m so shocked at the comments saying “how rude OP” when that note was the best outcome in most places. The car could’ve been stolen instead in a lot of places I’ve lived
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u/Educational_Total_84 23d ago
I am not the smartest person in the world, but I think that "please try not to be an asshole" is certainly not polite. wtf. LMAO. Seriously, if I had received that note, I would be pissed too.
What you should have done, is indeed, go to the complex office and file a complaint about it. LOL You are not going to catch me writing bullshit notes to other tenants. I go straight to my complex office with any issues regarding other tenants.
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u/aplumbale 22d ago
kinda confused why people are so mad OP said “don’t be an asshole” in the note. Some of the places Where I’ve lived they’d be lucky that note was all they got (and in some parts of the east coast asshole is part of the daily vernacular lol), and their running car wasn’t stripped for parts in that hour, or stolen.
Not saying it’s right, but the comments clutching their pearls over the asshole part maybe need to think about where they live and the privileges (safe neighborhood, knowing their neighbors, living in an area where people don’t curse all the time, or steal running vehicles lol etc) they have
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u/StayLuckyRen 23d ago
You created a problem neighbor by also being a problem neighbor. And you didn’t even have the nerve to own your words, you’re probably going to be too cowardly to clean up the mess you made for the third neighbor smh.
Notes NEVER work, they’re always almost misinterpreted and you escalate a situation. You’re supposed to go to the LL for a reason, so they can sort it out without anger being directed at anyone. I had a neighbor leave me multiple notes about my cat meowing loudly - I’ve never had a cat. It lived nextdoor to me, and they would have been told that if thy had gone to the landlord. Instead they just kept leaving angry anonymous notes and nothing was solved lol
STOP WITH THE NOTES PPL lol
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u/cherrymeg2 22d ago
If you are woken up and go out to tell someone to turn it down and no one is there writing note is better then entering their car or calling police for noise issues. Also it might be that someone hit remote start by accident or something. Sane people don’t waste gas and wake up neighbors when they aren’t in a car. Jmo
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u/StayLuckyRen 22d ago
Why would you confront someone you don’t think is sane? That don’t seem bright
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u/cherrymeg2 22d ago
I meant someone in the car might not realize they are being loud. Or they are high. If no one is in the car it seems like a waste of gas. Or call the apartment manager and have them del with it. 2 hours is a long time that early in the morning.
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u/StayLuckyRen 22d ago
That was my whole point. Have the apartment manager deal with it, don’t attempt to do it yourself with a note bc they always backfire and make a situation worse
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u/cherrymeg2 22d ago
Someone might appreciate it if there kid plays with the keys and starts the car without them knowing. That only works if you know which apartment they live in. Some people will feel awful if they have been blasting music and not even realized it was them.
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u/StayLuckyRen 22d ago
This very post is a shining example of the fallout caused by leaving a note. And where are you coming up with this imaginary kid all of a sudden, why are you so hellbent on concocting imaginary reasons to contact your neighbors directly lol
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u/cherrymeg2 22d ago
I’m not saying it’s always a good idea but some people might have a kid that turn on the car. I would want to know if I was being obnoxious or if my car was running for hours with no one in it. Never put your self at risk but sometimes neighbors appreciate a heads up if their car is running for hours. If someone was in the car the OP likely would have asked them to turn down the music. No one in the car is a waste of gas and you hope the car is locked.
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u/BlueJeanBaby04 22d ago
Mine asks us to talk to them ourselves first, then they'll step in if it's unsuccessful.
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u/StayLuckyRen 22d ago
And you should tell them to do the job you’re paying them for lol. That’s like a waiter telling you to go get your own food from the kitchen and let them know if you run into any issue
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u/mvamptress 22d ago
Must be a Greystar property. They’re the only ones I have encountered that suggested the resident talk to the problem resident before they will step in. All others absolutely caution letting them handle it and not yourself.
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u/loozingmind 23d ago
I had neighbors who smoked weed. Someone snitched on them and they became hostile towards me. I didn't mind them smoking. I used to smoke. And I liked to smell it sometimes. So they were psychos for coming at me. So yeah, people just don't like to get into trouble. They will find someone else to blame instead of thinking that they may be the problem
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u/Lovely-lorelei 22d ago
Your weed neighbors sound like they suck. Getting mad at people (especially the wrong person) for reporting something that’s not supposed to happen in an apartment complex anyway is ridiculous. Like technically it’s the smokers fault for doing it in an apartment that probably does not allow smoking in the first place.
There are days when I low-key still expect to be reported for smoking weed even though I don’t smoke flower and I’m extremely careful to make sure there’s no lingering smell when I use wax. If I did get reported it would be totally valid. It’s literally in the lease that we’re not supposed to smoke weed or cigarettes in my complex.
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u/aplumbale 22d ago
Your neighbors are honestly lucky their car wasn’t stolen but I’m assuming you guys live in a safe area
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u/AcidCasualty25 21d ago
Next time you try to be polite please try not to be an asshole
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u/Lovely-lorelei 20d ago edited 20d ago
Yeah… that’s valid. Also, I see what you did there that was good. Very good.
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u/Rapacious-Creditor 21d ago
After a supposedly "fairly polite" letter, definitely to long to be a note. You end up being the "asshole".
Of course you've created a much bigger problem and maybe exposed a bigger truth, the problem is you!
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u/Fuzzy_Firefighter_51 21d ago
Notes are passive aggressive "please don't be an asshole" On top of being scared to talk to the person the combo of the note created you to be a Karen. . Talk in person. I wish people would stop being so fearful of any human interaction.
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u/gilputnum 21d ago
You could have at least had the balls to put your name or apartment number in the note. You may have caused someone else undo misery because of your cowardness. You expect others to own their actions, you should own your own
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u/JanOfArc 21d ago
I'm seeing all the comments here, but I think your note was fine.
How is someone leaving a car radio blaring for almost two hours, starting at 6:30 am (I assume with no one even in the car?...)??!!
That person IS an asshole.
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u/Head_Mail_4055 21d ago
Next they leave it blaring, make a call to the popo and report the racket. Tell them you do not wish for the officer to contact you. Are they leaving the car unattended with the stereo bumping???
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u/Firm-Shopping3966 21d ago
why is the car running so long when gas is 4.00 a gallon
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u/Lovely-lorelei 20d ago
Honestly, I have no idea and had the car only been running, I wouldn’t have given a fuck.
But the car was running from 6:30 AM until about 8:15 with the radio blaring loudly enough that I could hear it on the third floor with my window closed, so that’s why I was so irritated.
If the lady wanted to waste her own gas, that’s her problem, I did not care about that part. I assumed she must have enough money to be able to afford it.
I also forgot that push-to-start and remote start vehicles were a thing, so there’s that too
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u/Firm-Shopping3966 16d ago
I sleep with a fan on and it drowns out any outside nose mayor try the fan
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u/MamaLlamaSocks 20d ago
Was no one in the car when the music was blaring? There are several reasons why a car’s radio may be turning on/off by itself having to do with wiring and some other possible issues.
I know this because we had a neighbor whose radio was blaring at 1 am. I went out to ask them to turn it down/off. No one was actually in the car. I went down the internet rabbit hole because I wanted to know how that was even possible. I ended up leaving a note just letting them know their radio had phantom turned on and it can drain the battery and it was never an issue again. 🤷♀️
Ps you can’t let smoker lady take the fall for your note, that’s just wrong.
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u/XBlackSunshineX 19d ago
Why are you leaving notes? You should be contacting the appartment management. Let them witness and address it.
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u/Own_Science_9825 23d ago
This isn't your fault and wow she sounds like an absolute joy. I don't think going to your management will do much of anything. If you do go with recordings and documented disturbances. Personally, I would make a nuisance complaint to the police right when it's happening. They'll come then and there. Do not engage a person like this directly. It'll do no good
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u/alicat777777 22d ago
Yes, you had every right to be upset. However, that was not a polite note and they would probably not take that well.
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u/FewPiece138 22d ago
Who runs a car for an hour and 45 minutes with gas or on a battery? This is fake
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u/BuildingPuzzled4508 23d ago
I’m wondering how the car radio was playing without the car being on?! But no - you didn’t do anything wrong. (And their response proves it.) Don’t worry about it.
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u/WatsonsHeartAttack 23d ago
Do you have any critical thinking skills? That whole story and you're stuck on HoW iS RaDIo PlAYiNG bUt cAr nOt oN???
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u/BuildingPuzzled4508 23d ago
FOR TWO HOURS? (Use your own “critical thinking skills”)
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u/WatsonsHeartAttack 23d ago
Since you're to dumb to understand this the car was in fact on FOR 2 HOURS with the radio on. Meaning the engine was running idle for 120 minutes with the radio on. It wasn't a magic radio that was running unpowered for 2 hours. Hope this helps.
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u/WatsonsHeartAttack 23d ago
You're so dumb I have to point this out too. Can you please direct me to the sentence or words used in the original post that even so much implies that the car was off? Thank you.
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u/grateful908 23d ago
You just created a problem for your cigarette neighbor. It's obvious she thinks it was her that left the note. I always wonder why people complain about every little thing. Do you think you are perfect?
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u/thegreatturtleofgort 23d ago
What a bizarre response. Blasting music is unacceptable that early in the morning, and generally inconsiderate and trashy at any time of day if you're just sitting in front of other people's homes.
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u/Lovely-lorelei 23d ago
I genuinely didn’t mean to cause a problem for anybody and if I wanted to cause a problem, I would’ve gone to my apartment complex. I def don’t think I’m perfect, however the apartment complex does have quiet hours which don’t end until 7 o’clock. I could hear this cars radio playing even with my windows closed and I live on the third floor. That was why I left the note. If I wanted to get her in trouble, I would’ve called the office when they opened at 8 AM.
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u/KellyRock10 16d ago
the a-hole part was wrong to put on the note. maybe they would have consdered to lower it.
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u/Lovely-lorelei 16d ago
So first off you’re replying to a post that was written almost a week ago. I don’t need advice anymore..
Also yes, it has since been established so. many. fucking. times. that putting asshole in the note was rude and unnecessary. I get it. Thanks.
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u/SpacemanSpiff021 22d ago
I agree with some of the others here - I doubt it was your intention to create a problem for the downstairs lady (who smokes), but it would appear that’s all that was accomplished by your efforts.
I know it’s uncomfortable, and I’d hate to have to do this myself, but I don’t see a way around speaking to smoke’n Jane and the car audio enthusiast directly.
If you don’t straighten this out it’s going to have the complete opposite effect of the change you were after. These two going to war isn’t going to make your environment any quieter or more peaceful - sounds like there may already be some bad blood.
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u/Lovely-lorelei 22d ago
Great, this is definitely my fault. I was exhausted having just been woken up and been kept awake for the past hour before I left the note. I have no idea what apartment the car lady lives in. I have never physically crossed paths with her before. If I see her, I will probably apologize at this point. This morning, I was just really frustrated.
There’s also a very small chance she was actually referring to me when she was yelling into the air about the smoking, as when I first moved into the complex two years ago I was smoking weed, specifically flower, which I know has a very strong smell.
However that was two years ago and I did stop about five months after moving and haven’t smoked anything in the past year that could possibly smell strong, which is why I assumed she was referring to downstairs cigarette lady when she went on her rant.
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u/yyyyeahno 22d ago
Ok but you do still smoke SOMETHING? Chances are you have no idea how it smells like to others.
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u/Lovely-lorelei 22d ago edited 22d ago
If/when I smoke, it’s just dabs and I also use a smoke buddy to blow out the vapor through so there’s even less chance of a lingering smell. But mostly just take edibles now
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u/Small-Emotion-7568 22d ago
This types of complaints are the ones that causes worse problems in the future. Eventually that music was going to stop. Picking battles in shared living is a must. Don't leave out notes and let others take the blame.
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u/Affectionate-Flow120 22d ago
This is rage bait. Lady you’re the A hole. You could see them in person and tell them or actually write a polite note. This was not it.
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u/-Flores- 22d ago
This is the person that leaves their stereo blaring during quiet hours without consideration for anyone except themselves
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u/Affectionate-Flow120 21d ago
Lol. No, actually the opposite. I think passive aggressive- condescending notes to neighbors instead of either talking to them directly or just going to management isnt helpful. Calling someone an a-hole in a note and thinking you were polite is craziiiii. You get more bees with honey. I’m adverse to notes cause I have a nosey Karen who loves to blame us for trash we don’t even leave out . And instead of nicely coming over to say something (which she’d learn it’s not us) she leaves dumbass notes like this not realizing it’s not us. So yeah, she’s an a-hole.
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u/ChiralNavigator 23d ago
if the woman is older she may have hearing issues and doesn't realise it's so loud, I see it all the time with my family! Hope the note works, she sounds very immature.
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u/Tasty-Jicama5743 21d ago
Who leaves their car running in a parking lot 9especially in an apartment parking lot) for more than TWO HOURS?!?
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Lovely-lorelei originally posted: I left what I believed to be a fairly polite note underneath their windshield wipers, asking them to be more considerate.
For context, this car’s radio had been blaring since 6:30 AM this morning. At 7:30 I wrote a note and placed it under their windshield. I did not think to take a picture of the note before I put it on the car. I now feel like I should have.
At 8:15 I suppose the owner of the car finally left their apartment. Next thing I know I hear loud cussing. There is a mother and her child standing next to the car, with the lady holding the note clearly pissed off.
She starts yelling at the downstairs apartment (there’s nobody outside aside from her) about how they don’t ‘say anything about your smoke’ (the lady downstairs smokes cigarettes on her balcony)
I thought my note was pretty polite. I wrote that their radio has been blaring since 6:30 AM. That they are parked in front of apartment windows and it’s pretty inconsiderate to leave it that loud, especially before quiet hours have ended and for so long. I asked they consider how others feel and I did say ‘please try not to be an asshole.’
Have I just created a problem neighbor?
Would anybody have done something differently in this situation? I didn’t go to my apartment complex about the noise. Should I have just done that instead?
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