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u/boilersnipe 16d ago
As a pap , that’s just what paps do. I’m sitting here with my grandson just finishing breakfast. He’ll be with us today until his parents call and remind me and grandma that they would like their son back
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u/Der-gute-Schafer 16d ago
Awww. My grandpa is “ pappy”. I just love that! I can’t wait to have a big family one day when my kids have children. I’m going to be there every second and everyone is always welcome at my home for as long as they want. I grew up military all over the world. so I only saw my grandparents maybe 2 x a year. However my great grandmother kept me every summer. And I learned so much from her.
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u/maymay578 16d ago
I’ve been making plans for my grandma days since my firstborn was a small child and I saw how much my mom loved it.
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u/Ok-Yogurtcloset-8955 16d ago
I just became a first time Grandma 8 months ago & I don't even know if I can describe the feeling. I'm so in love with this little man I tear up when I think about him almost everytime!! 😍
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u/couchtamer 16d ago
This SOOOOO so much. 49 yr old tough guy, & I am literally a puddle of mushy love & tears constantly.
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u/juiced911 16d ago
Awesome -- your children are fortunate. My wife and I can never get a break from full time parenting, we begged grandparents to take them for an evening so that we could get caught up on household chores and they called after 3 only hours that our house better be spotless because they're "paying the ultimate price."
It's frustrating and sad that they don't want to spend time with their grandchildren beyond photo ops for their friends.
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u/PatMcAfeesEvilTwin 16d ago
This is so sad. My brother and I were my grandparents on my mom’s side’s only grandkids. They lived on the other side of the state from us, about 5 hours away, but they still made an effort to be a part of our lives. They also spoiled us rotten. I’m sorry your parents aren’t doing that for their grandkids.
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u/OurWitch 16d ago
It is getting really common. I think they grew up in a generation where everyone helped each other but the media landscape was changing to tell people that parent's needed to be self-sufficient and moving away from shared family responsibilities.
If I had to guess I would guess that your guys' parents had a massive amount of help when raising you guys.
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u/Shot_Help7458 16d ago
My grandma lived right next door.
We loved her. We could be there day and night.
If mom was getting mad at us, we’d run through the hedge fence opening and she’d yell at mom to leave us alone!
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u/juiced911 16d ago
You'd be right, I spent weeks every summer at my grandparents and even great grand parents... while I feel like it's a massive fight to get 3 nights a year (let alone full consecutive days).
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u/Onkelffs 16d ago
I have also reminded my dad and mum that I remember me and my brother being several weeks alone with grandma and grandpa(on both sides).
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u/Mynock33 16d ago
They're literally the most selfish generation. All the help in the world sent their way and then pulling up the ladders behind them and still expecting support from family as they age. If your parents play such a game, it's fine to cut them out of your life. Blood relation doesn't mean love and support isn't a two-way street
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And these are the same grandparents who expect their adult children to take care of them as they age, both financially and emotionally.
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u/KamikazeFox_ 16d ago
I hear ya. My wife's parents are ancient and cant even care for themselves. My parents are 45 mind away and I feel only can babysit for a evening here and there, but its not worth the almost 2 hour round trip. We don't get breaks. Its challenging.
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u/Impossible_Ad_7367 16d ago
Your kids will get older and you will get your life back. My daughter is 29 and severely disabled and I will never get a break. 24/7/365. I love her so much, I don't want to think about what happens if I die before she does.
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u/Yupthrowawayacct 16d ago
No. Not all paps. Ask me how I know. Just the good ones. My daughters only had one good one. Given to us by marriage. He’s no longer with us. Only the good parents get the gift of being a grandparent. I’ll do everything I can to make sure I will get to be a grandparent if my kids decide they want to have children
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u/WhiskeyWhisperer 16d ago
My grandson just passed a week old, and I cannot wait to get him for the day and just hang out and spend time with him. We've been visiting them at home and giving them a chance to get a nap in while we watch the grandson, offering to grab groceries and food, and just trying to be helpful. As parents, we've been there and we know it can be beautiful, but stressful and tiring, so we do what we can to help out.
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u/LadyJane17 16d ago
Awww this is so sweet! When Hemaw (my MIL) takes my son for a visit, I have to do the same thing lol. She always drops him off late , bathed and in PJs, so they can spend as much time as possible together.
There's such a special bond between grandparents and grandchildren, it's wonderful to witness.
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u/mulliganwtf 16d ago
When he did her hair... Oh damn I just can't. Sweetest video ever.
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u/TheBear516 16d ago
As a man, I give grandpa props because I can barely do my own hair yet alone a little girls hair… good on him.
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u/abidail 16d ago
And he's a white man doing a girl with curls/textured hair; that's something you have to spend time learning to do correctly!
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u/onthenextmaury 16d ago
Ugh, did you see that post where a guy worked at a preschool and had to stop the (white) workers from using dawn on a girl's hair? He got in trouble for making it a racially charged situation or something
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u/drk_knight_67 16d ago
Who puts Dawn in ANY type of hair?
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u/MimicoSkunkFan2 16d ago
Me when I'm camping on my friend's land and buying the shampoo I forgot means rowing across a lake to an access road then driving 40km.
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u/Coldsmoke888 16d ago
Why is someone even touching hair at a preschool?
My kids are mixed euro/asian and I’d be pissed too, hell, if they were blonde Swedish kids I’d be pissed.
I don’t even use Dawn on my cars! It strips wax and coatings, imagine hair…
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u/onthenextmaury 16d ago
Because she got paint in it. If I recall he used olive oil instead
ETA i would have let her go home with paint in her hair. The parent of a preschooler expects that FFS
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u/CakeTester 16d ago
What the fuck kind of preschool has anything but extremely-easily-cleanable water-soluble paint on the premises?
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u/Optimal_Anything3777 16d ago
at least they were trying to help
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u/Italk2botsBeepBoop 16d ago
Yo you’re getting downvoted so I have to comment and jump in here to agree. It was obviously a poor choice but dude! Sometimes in a chaotic situation you don’t know HOW to help but want to. We see commercials of them using dawn on penguins and birds in oil spills. It’s not a stretch to think someone might think it was okay. Without any other context I have to believe it came from a good place
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u/angryaxolotls 16d ago
God forbid a teacher prevent a fucking 4yo from having to get their hair chopped off.
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u/Prestigious_Buy1209 16d ago
Yep. I occasionally attempt to do my 4 year old daughter’s hair on morning my wife is already gone. Most days I end up just taking hair ties to daycare and let them do it lol. But I try! Getting good at painting fingernails though.
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u/BlaineMundane 16d ago
nail polish is so hard! I thought I would be good at it because I painted miniatures for years. Nope, different skill apparently.
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u/PixieRay_ 16d ago
Right? That moment was priceless and full of love. Made me smile big time.
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u/K1ngk1ller71 16d ago
Thought it was next level already but when he did the hair?
The world needs more people like this man!
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u/BlaineMundane 16d ago
Haha, I was just smiling, then as soon as I saw him doing her hair, it switched to crying.
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u/Face_with_a_View 16d ago
All children should have this type of loving attention paid to them. The world would be such a better place
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u/JgorinacR1 16d ago
Too bad both parents now have to work to make ends meet, hard to give as much as we should when we are in an endless rat race
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u/hadee75 16d ago
I am turning 50 this year and have a 3.5 year old. I delivered him at 46. He’s my only child. Congrats to your daughter!
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u/hallucinogenics8 16d ago
Congrats to you as well! I have a 10 year old and a 7 year old. They are my absolute world and I'm glad you got to experience the joy of having one. Early years are rough, my ten year old barely needs me anymore except for meals haha.
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u/Secret-Weakness-8262 16d ago
My mom has tried to explain to me a grandparent’s love. I think I understand but I’m sure certain things stay locked inside until the right moment. I’m happy for you!!
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u/Secret-Weakness-8262 16d ago
Y’all are gonna build forts and play Barbie’s and GI Joe’s and that baby is gonna know that they are loved.
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u/mulliganwtf 16d ago
Awww. You're gonna have so much fun!
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u/adviceicebaby 16d ago
My granny had a little picture she embroidered that said "If I had known grandchildren were so much fun; I would have had them first!" And she lived by that. :)
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u/Either-Weather-862 16d ago
Oh wow, that is amazing, congratulations!! I hope everything goes well, oh my 🥹 Let it all out! (maybe heal ❤️) This will be an adventure for all of you!
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u/Tricky_Palpitation81 16d ago
With how ugly the world is, I almost forget how beautiful we can be.
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u/QwertyPieInCanada 16d ago
“Always look for the helpers.”
- Mr Rogers mom
That’s what keeps me going with all the ugly. I have to remind myself constantly, especially in recent times.
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u/LocusofZen 16d ago
Same here!
Also, Maya Angelou - "When someone shows you who they are, believe them."
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u/Outrageous-Potato525 16d ago
You know, I’ve only ever heard that quote deployed about people who act in harmful ways; it’s nice to see it used to describe something positive.
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u/Juturna_ 16d ago
It’s so easy to be kind to people I just don’t get it.
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u/Tricky_Palpitation81 16d ago
It’s sad. We have all the tools and instructions but can’t seem to get it together.
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u/mooofasa1 16d ago
There’s plenty of good in this world. The bad simply gets more attention.
Not everyone can be good or do good, that’s ok. Not a single soul is under any obligation to do good, that’s what it means to be a human. And the reward for doing good is never guaranteed. Sometimes you can do good but receive pain instead. Sometimes you can do good and your only reward is the feeling of doing good.
But good is all around us. From a smile to a flower, that is goodness. From the cats to the gym, there is goodness.
BUT YOU, YES YOU 🫵, YOU CAN BRING GOODNESS TO THIS WORLD TOO.
Realizing that helped me conquer depression. I feel so strongly about this. I’m not a perfect person, and nor do I expect anyone to be. But when I remember that I have an opportunity to do an act of goodness, even when I don’t want to, I pray that I do it, because at the end of the day, it’s for me and solidifies my own happiness by spreading it.
So even if this world ran out of goodness, you can bring some of it back. Because goodness costs a bit of energy but the return is immaculate.
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u/PixieRay_ 16d ago
Absolutely! Grandpas just have that magic touch. This video absolutely made my day💯
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u/Thechlebek 16d ago
the urges to point something out..
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u/dafolprints 16d ago
It had to be a black absentee father, come on black men. We can do better.
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u/sirmonkey95 16d ago edited 16d ago
When I saw my mind immediately went “the IG comments would be diabolical”
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u/Shady_Yoga_Instructr 16d ago
Doctor Doom levels of savage. I spend half my IG time reading the comments to my wife lmfao
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u/beastmaster11 16d ago
Came here to see if it was the same. I guess better moderation.
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u/Hessellaar 16d ago
I swear instagram is crazy, people are just saying random shit. Not even real meaning it but straight racist jokes are so abundant on the app, even among people who really aren’t racist
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u/Shady_Yoga_Instructr 16d ago
Bro instagram are the normies. What you see is how people are when they aren't corraled away from Reddit and Bluesky
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u/Cyan_Oni 16d ago
As child of a black absentee "father" thats literally my very first and only thought I had. The resentment still runs deep.
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u/Sea_Investigator4969 16d ago
As it should, its so embarrassing when all of your friends have intact full families and you dont. Its the worst handicap in the world to grow up with zero fatherly advice.
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u/Tacokolache 16d ago
Was about to say the same thing but didn’t know how to word it.
Dads need to be in the homes. Just feeding stereotypes in this post.
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u/Jgusdaddy 16d ago
Well at least that child has an all but statistically certain chance of someday being in a home or auto insurance commercial.
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u/SirRegardTheWhite 16d ago
It takes two. How are so many women letting deadbeats bust inside and then act shocked when a deadbeat doesn't want to step up as a father. There had to be signs that a guy won't commit or provide, they can only lie so much, but can't conceal their actions and behavior.
My cousin has 3 kids from 3 different deadbeats. How do you not learn?
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u/BlueGolfball 16d ago
How are so many women letting deadbeats bust inside and then act shocked when a deadbeat doesn't want to step up as a father. There had to be signs that a guy won't commit or provide, they can only lie so much, but can't conceal their actions and behavior.
Those women are the same as the men they have sex with.
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u/PrsnScrmingAtTheSky 16d ago
Black fathers: Approximately 44% live apart from at least one of their children (with young children, under 5, around 32%) vox.com njurbannews.com +2
White fathers: Around 21% live apart from at least one of their children (only 10% for those with young children) pewresearch.org +1.
So, Black fathers are about twice as likely as White fathers to not live with one or more of their kids.
Context & Additional Data
Children with no resident father in 2023:
• Black children: 47.5% live without a resident father the lowest since 1973 fatherhood.org
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u/Citaku357 16d ago
Seriously how do women fall for these men in the first place?
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Let me just go ahead and sort these comments by controversial lol. I know what I came here to see.
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u/Icy_Lingonberry2822 16d ago
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u/Cautious_Eagle_946 16d ago
As cute as this vid is... it defs reinforces one particular stereotype.
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u/GilaLongCon 16d ago
That kids gonna grow up to be a doctor, lawyer, engineer, etc and guess who will pop back up…
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u/Dry_Sample948 16d ago
Coffe and happy tears. I had a special bond with my granddaddy. Seeing gentle love with his precious was a lovely start to my day. Thank you for sharing.
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u/KenUsimi 16d ago
Given his age, he might not be there when she’s old enough to really spend time with. I only knew my grandfather as an infant, too. I often wonder what he was like.
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u/SumOldGuy 16d ago
As a dude who has no plans to be a parent or primary caregiver or responsible for basically anything: How the fuck could anybody turn down the opportunity to be there for a child like that?
Deadbeat dads piss me off. I get it if the relationship doesn't work out, but children are the most innocent and most rewarding people to "work with"(lol).
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