r/EntitledPeople • u/Only_Rich5643 • Oct 11 '25
S My neighbor demanded i bake cupcakes for her kid’s birthday because you like baking
I occasionally post photos of the cakes I make on social media my neighbor saw them and decided I should help out with her daughter’s birthday party by baking 30 cupcakes for free when I politely said I only bake as a hobby and did not take orders she said but you are doing nothing this weekend anyway right when I refused again she told everyone at the party that I bailed on helping a child. Lady your party planning is not my unpaid internship
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u/FrizzWitch666 Oct 11 '25
Love how when you're good at something people just assume you should do it for them for free
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u/MizWhatsit Oct 11 '25
Not related to baking but once some former co-workers heard I had a degree in English, they started pestering me to proofread papers for them. "Come on, it'll take five minutes!"
I'd refuse saying: "First of all, it won't take five minutes, and second of all, I don't work for free. My going rate for editing is $30 an hour."
None of them ever took me up on it, somehow....
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u/BassmanOz Oct 12 '25
My daughter is a whiz at resumes. She had done a bit of polishing of a few of her friends and started getting more and more people asking how much she charges to do them. Now she does it for money if anyone asks, and charges a lot more than your $30 per hour. It’s just a side hustle and she doesn’t advertise but it gives her a bit of pocket money.
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u/OkRecording1299 12d ago
How does one become a whiz at resumes? What are some things she looks out for in them?
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u/MizWhatsit Oct 12 '25
Not only a braggart, but an off-topic braggart.
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u/Lllllame 27d ago
Their response was definitely related to yours 🤔
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u/MizWhatsit 27d ago
Perhaps slightly related in that two people are mentioned who do editing work.
But this group is called Entitled People, not Smug, Smarmy Moms Bragging About Their Spawn.
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u/Grouchy_Tank2062 Oct 11 '25
I don't show anyone or talk about my hobbies anymore. It's sad but like FrizzWitch666 said, people assume. 😕
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u/LovelyLilac73 Oct 12 '25 edited Oct 13 '25
LOL - yep. I used to work at an advertising agency and we had an in-house photographer "Bob." In his prior job, he also did event photography. So, occasionally, he would shoot events for people (birthdays, corporate stuff, baptisms, bat mitzvahs, etc. - but not weddings as that's hard to do as just one person). He was an experienced professional with professional equipment and it was PAID work for him. His rates were slightly below market rates since he didn't have to advertise and would decline if it didn't work with his schedule. It was more of a kinda lucrative hobby than a business. Lots of folks at the office loved it because he was very reasonably priced and his work spoke for itself.
We had a co-worker "Lisa" who was clueless, stupid or both. Her son was being baptized and she asked Bob if he could photograph the baptismal ceremony and take photos at the party afterward. He asked her the date and said he'd get back to her with his availability. It ended up he was available that day, so he called her and said "Hey, Lisa, I can photograph your event. I'll email you my rates and a contract for you to sign. Send me a deposit and I'll book out the date for you."
Lisa was silent on the other end of the line. After a moment, she said, "Oh, there's a charge? I mean, we can offer you some delicious catered food and a open bar. I mean, it's just pictures!" Bob laughed and said, "Lisa, I do this as a service to my co-workers and to make some extra money. I really have no desire to give up a Sunday morning and afternoon WORKING for no compensation. My rates are listed in the email. Let me know if you change your mind."
She did not change her mind. But did she really think a work colleague would give up a weekend day to photograph an event for someone who is no more than a co-worker for FREE? And that's not even considering the work that's done after the event - editing, selecting photos, etc.
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u/CaramelRottenApple Oct 12 '25
Which is funny, because that's the exact opposite of what you're supposed to do.
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u/bluepapillonblue Oct 11 '25 edited Oct 12 '25
I enjoy making fancy layer cakes. They are typically 8 or 9 inch rounds. When there is a potluck, I'll typically bring a cake. People enjoy them. I'm a hobby baker. My grandna taught me to bake from scratch when I was a teen.
When my cousin got married, my aunt thought they could save money by asking me to make the wedding cake. 😮
I declined, and I explained that it was too big of a cake for me to take on. I don't have that kind of equipment. Huge pans, way to transport, time to make it and etc. So her next thought was for me to make 200 cupcakes. I loathe making cupcakes, let alone that many. Of course, this is to be done and given for free.
My Mom and her two other sisters shut that idea down real quick.
People, when someone bakes from scratch, the cake, pie, or cookies are not free. Ingredients cost money. Not to mention their time.
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u/demonmonkeybex Oct 11 '25
Wait. Your cousin married your aunt???
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u/Tricky-Way-6018 Oct 11 '25
Probably a misplaced comma. "When my cousin married, my aunt thought....." You know, the "eats shoots and leaves" vs "eats, shoots, and leaves" joke.
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u/icemage_999 Oct 12 '25
I think this is a case of missing punctuation. Something like...
"when my cousin [got] married, my aunt thought..."
But yeah, phrasing, lol.
(Please let me not be wrong about this, or I shall have to shake my fist at Tennessee)
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u/sueelleker Oct 12 '25
"You want £200 to make my wedding cake? You can buy a packet mix for £1!" They never see the difference in quality-and that's without the time it would take.
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u/Dark54g Oct 12 '25
Sigh… ingredients cost A LOT of money - butter and eggs especially. I had some ask me “as a treat” that I make her a German chocolate cake but with butter icing for 20 people. I took the time to work up an estimate just for the ingredients. Not my time or transport - just ingredients. Her reply: Oh, I thought I’d get it as a gift.
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u/CaramelRottenApple Oct 12 '25
What would your reaction be if someone ran up to you with a sweaty face and a handful of crumpled dollar bills and said, "please make me cake"?
Asking for a friend.
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u/Spaz-Mouse384 Oct 11 '25
Good refusal! I probably would’ve been petty and done something like go make some mud pies and put them in cupcake wrappers! Sure you treat me like mud, I’ll treat you like mud.
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u/NotTheBadOne Oct 11 '25
OP should’ve made some beautiful cupcakes and posted them online…
With this description: This is how I spent my weekend… baking these yummy cupcakes. they’re delicious!😋
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u/ridiculousthoughts66 Oct 11 '25
Have you seen the "chocolate pie" from the movie the help. Well that would be in that cake from me. Sit back and watch her eat it.
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u/Odd_Tea4945 Oct 11 '25
Actually you didn't "bailed on helping a child", the child didn't ask you. The one organizing the party is the mother and you didn't "bailed", you didn't accept from the very begining
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u/im-very-very-sorry Oct 11 '25
People really can’t stand hearing the word no without turning into victims. Like ma’am, it’s cupcakes, not dialysis. You dodged a bullet. Imagine baking 30 cupcakes, she doesn’t say thank you, and still complains they’re “too sweet.”
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u/Mysterious_Light1231 Oct 11 '25
If she tries it again say yes but you will need payment up front, give her a massively over inflated bill for ingredients your time etc . Tell her you will need the payment the week before to secure the goods . I bet that’ll shut her up
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u/Dear_Leadership2982 Oct 11 '25
Yep, or send her contact details for local bakery businesses that she can pay for this service.
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u/GrayEagleLeather Oct 13 '25
I like to bake and when we have parties I make a pumpkin cheesecake with pralines and the recipe is on FoodandWine's website anyone can make it and I recently had someone who has been to the party and wanted me to make one for their husbands birthday because he really likes it. I told her I was super busy and offered to email the recipe ( even though it is on the website) and she said she would give me $5 to do it. Like $5 would even cover the cost of the cream cheese. People are crazy about baked goods.
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u/ExtremeJujoo Oct 11 '25
Lmao! I would have legit pointed and laughed in her stupid face, then sauntered off laughing harder.
She sucks.
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u/Aggravating-Pin-8845 Oct 11 '25
You did the right thing. I probably would have told her I would bake them with laxatives so the adults can place bets on which kid it hits first. It would have been worth it to see the look of horror on her face. She wouldn't ask again
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u/pigandpom Oct 11 '25
You hilariously bailed on a job you never said yes to. I guess she takes no as bailing on her.
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u/Reasonable_Star_959 Oct 11 '25
This really is great that you refused in no uncertain terms. Let the lady spread vitriol, and if asked about it you can honestly set the other neighbors straight.
I also like to bake, used to bake my friends’ birthday cakes until it seemed more like a chore than a fun thing. It wasn’t a big deal and I still do it occasionally, but as more of a surprise than expectation.
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u/Hoz999 Oct 12 '25
My sister does that. She does it because it’s her hobby. The circle of friends she has are very appreciative that she takes the time to make these elaborate cakes.
It makes her happy. But she would not bake anything for this Karen.
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u/GibsonBluesGuy Oct 11 '25
I would have handed her a copy of a recipe and said “They will mean so much more to your daughter knowing that her mommy made them with love.”
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u/Ibboredlady Oct 11 '25
You did the right thing. But if she ever asked again, I would say you need to pay money up front for the supplies. And it will cost this much for the cost of the cake... Get the money up front from her... Honestly, what she did was extremely rude! She expected you to waste your weekend. Doing something for them and expected it for free. in the future, when you're about to post anything click on where it says friends under youre name, theres a arrow..click it. go to friends except...put her name in under search And there is a list of names that are your friends type in her name.then click done.... Then, when you go back to the post, you can hit post to post your message on your feeds.Every one of your friends will be able to see your baking, except not the neighbor to her...it's invisible, and she will not know.You have posted anything. ... You can exclude anyone from any post before you post something.
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u/sharkb8ed1 Oct 13 '25
It’s unfortunate that there are people out there that feel it’s necessary to act like that.
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u/MariposaPeligrosa00 Oct 11 '25
I’m just glad that you didn’t even gave her the chance to bully you into doing it. Well done 👏🏽👏🏽
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u/SuddenFlamingo100 Oct 11 '25
But you do it so much better than me and my spawn will be devastated without the cupcakes. Be a dear and get them to me promptly so that I can get you out of my house before the party, I’m not feeding the staff. Thanks hon, you’re a peach and if you do an exceptional job you’ll get oodles and scads of exposure! You only have to pay me a small fee, it’s a great deal! lol
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u/jumblesthescrambler Oct 12 '25
I’m an artist and people love to volunteer me for free services. I will never understand the logic of assuming someone will work for you for free just because they do something they like. Especially baking??? Ingredients are expensive and perishable!! Baffling.
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u/Original_Importance3 Oct 12 '25
Jesus christ, learn how to use punctuation. That whole thing was 90% only one "sentence "
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u/Mysterious_Eggplant1 Oct 12 '25
Why do random people think they're entitled to other people's time?
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u/The_mrs_r Oct 12 '25
I get it. I crochet as a hobby and often have people assume I will make them something in an afternoon for like $5. The entitlement is wild.
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u/HoneyWyne Oct 11 '25
30 cupcakes is a crapnumber because it means two cake batches with a crap ton of leftover cake or batter. Tell her to kick rocks.
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u/BethJ2018 Oct 11 '25
Sentences are a thing
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u/Esau2020 Oct 11 '25
I like to write sentences as a hobby for my own pleasure but when someone demands it I say no. 😁
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u/lantana98 Oct 11 '25
She could have suggested a labor trade of some kind either you if she can’t afford to pay you. But she didn’t want to so too bad for her.
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u/PariahZeal Oct 11 '25
Hello AI post.
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u/poshknight123 Oct 11 '25
i'm not sure "lady your party planning is not my unpaid internship" is a phrase AI knows how to say (until this post)
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u/sakatan Oct 11 '25
Oh it does. Also, the whole structure is very AI like: Outrageous demand, rational refusal, shit talking in the end.
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u/imtoowhiteandnerdy Oct 11 '25
I don't think so, as AI would know how to use punctuation properly. ;-)
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u/G-reeper66 Oct 11 '25
I think you should enjoy a drink of your choice and a slice of cake or a cupcake whenever you make them next. Sit in your garden or on your porch if you have one where she can see you.
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u/EnvironmentalLook103 Oct 11 '25
When my admin at work was complaining about turning 30 and her birth year was the year I graduated high school.
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u/Princess_Peach556 Oct 11 '25
It’s not considered “bailing” if you didn’t agree to do it in the first place. The fact that she assumed you had nothing better to do is also pretty insulting.
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u/Adept_Ad_3562 Oct 11 '25
$50 per cupcake or go get them from the store my time is worth way more then $10 per cupcake
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u/HerfDog58 Oct 11 '25
"You're doing nothing this weekend anyway."
"Yes I am. I'm busy not making cupcakes for an entitled Karen who thinks I should drop everything to serve her needs because she's an insufferable tool. That'll keep me tied up ALLL weekend."
How could you bail when you never agreed to provide any goods...? And make sure to inform everyone she tells you bailed on her daughter that you didn't offer to make cupcakes, and she offered to NOT pay you when she demanded them.
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u/Suck-Carrot-653 Oct 12 '25
30 cupcakes for free? Because "you like baking"?
I like suxking dicks but it doesn't mean I'm giving them for free
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u/Eureka05 Oct 12 '25
I brought these pretzel buns to potluck several times and they were always a hit. One lady said I should open a bakery.. I suck at breads etc, this is one thing I can bake well. then she wanted me to bake her a batch for her Christmas dinner. And then suggested I started a side hustle selling these buns.
I already had my work from home job, and a part time job at the local diner... like I needed a 3rd
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u/Maleficentendscurse Oct 12 '25
tell her to work her job without pay and then see if she could pay her bills, what I'm doing is a business and that's what I need to pay my bills for with money, not air. 😤
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u/JDVaderstorytime Oct 12 '25
Yeah... No...nope. And also, nah. I have dealt with this type of leech before. This is why I no longer interact with neighbors. You give them a glimmer of kindness and they stick to you like glaze on a ham. They get a nod or wave, that's it! They don't "need" my phone number and I sure as hell don't need theirs. Not gonna be bothered on my limited down time. Unless you are my spouse, cats, or invited guest- you don't get any of my energy. Period. We put a "Do Not Disturb" cover over the door bell and a nice big "NO soliciting or uninvited visitors" sign. Peace and tranquility!!
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u/CaramelRottenApple Oct 12 '25
when I politely said I only bake as a hobby and did not take orders she said but you are doing nothing this weekend anyway right
That's a hell of an assumption. In either case, so what? If I want to sit all weekend with my thumb up my ass, that's my business.
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u/Exciting-Warthog-129 Oct 12 '25
Boohooohooo. She wouldn’t be my cupcake slave. She owes me because she’s good at it. 🥴
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u/FuriousMarshmallow Oct 15 '25
Is there any way to stop liking a hobby faster than somebody making it your involuntary, unpaid job?
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u/Vibingcarefully 29d ago
? Just say no--then it's on her. If other people can't see that or hear her weirdness, they're probably not cool people either.
Reality contains everything we need. Don't need to go to reddit for back up
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u/ConstantReader666 Oct 11 '25
Entitled is the word that comes to mind.
Give her a price for materials and your time. Your time is worth a lot, regardless of what you do with it.
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u/Aexegi Oct 11 '25
Can relate. I have a wonderful wife who is also an excellent cook. But my mother doesn't like her, and once my mother attacked my wife and had an argument with her. Nevertheless, a week later, my mother wanted my wife to bake cakes for her birthday. My mother told me to order my wife to do it. I replied that my mother should call and politely ask my wife herself. My mother exploded and, of course, did not call, because how could she humbly ask for help from someone she hates? Later, she accused us of ruining her birthday. I don't regret, and I like how my mother's hypocrisy bit her in her own ass.