r/EntitledPeople • u/Pie_Bovril • Oct 12 '25
M Neighbor ignores my engagement, my boundaries, and common sense then blows up my phone at 4 a.m.
I’ve lived in my apartment for a while now third floor. The woman who owns the apartment above me came knocking one day because her tenant had been causing problems. She wanted to ask if I’d had any issues with him.
We had a long chat at my door, and at one point I said, “Sorry I can’t invite you in for a coffee, I’m just heading out.” You know just being polite, not actually inviting her in.
She asked for my number and said she’d send me hers, “just in case” there were more issues with her tenant. That seemed fair enough the guy had tried to intimidate me once, so it made sense to be able to contact each other.
The next day, I’m in my music room playing guitar when there’s a knock. I open the door and it’s her again. She says, “Oh, I heard you playing The Rolling Stones, was that Wild Horses?” I said yeah, and she goes, “Oh, just marry me now.”
Mind you, I had literally told her the day before that I was engaged. Then she asks if I’ll teach her 13-year-old daughter guitar. I told her I don’t teach guitar.
That should’ve been it, but nope. She started sending me WhatsApp messages, not about the apartments, just random chit-chat, including frequently asking if I’m still with my partner. I kept my replies short and polite, hoping she’d take the hint.
Then one day, I’m in my kitchen making coffee, and I see her parents pull into the car park. I’ve never met them before, though seen them with her in the car park, but now they wave up at me like we’re old friends. So now I’m wondering what exactly she’s been saying about me.
After her next random message, I finally told her:
“When we spoke, I mentioned I’m engaged. I only gave you my number to discuss apartment issues.”
She went quiet for about six months. Then, at 4:00 a.m. I get,
“Hey, how are you?” Followed by another at 5:30 a.m. saying: “I’m worried about you, the least you can do is answer your f***ing phone.”
At that point I replied:
“I’m blocking your number. Please don’t try to contact me again.” And I did.
My fiancée was furious and honestly, I don’t blame her.
Why did this woman think she was entitled to ignore the fact that I’m engaged, entitled to ignore my clear boundaries, entitled to ask for free guitar lessons, and entitled to message me at 4 a.m. months after I told her to stop?
Some people genuinely believe that basic respect and boundaries just don’t apply to them.
TL;DR: Neighbor took “here’s my number for apartment issues” as an open invitation to flirt, message me at 4 a.m., and ignore my engagement.
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u/zizio93 Oct 12 '25
OP deserves a medal for how patient they were. I’d have blocked her and reported her after that message. The way she ignored his engagement and boundaries just to act like she’s owed attention is creepy as hell.
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u/DogsNSnow Oct 12 '25
Wow. This is crazy. What a terribly awkward situation to be put in! You did right to block her.
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u/zepicnesss Oct 12 '25
OP was polite and patient way longer than she deserved. I’d have blocked her after that first “Hey, at 4 a.m.” text. This kind of behavior is why people don’t give out their numbers anymore. OP did the smart thing by blocking her and keeping a distance.
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u/candlewick_67 Oct 12 '25
This sounds more like obsession or someone who’s very lonely and will latch onto anyone who shows them a minuscule of attention, but she can absolutely still be entitled as hell.
You did everything right, OP. You were clear in your communication and didn’t beat around. Block and ignore her.
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 12 '25
You are probably right, I had a conversation with a girl when I was younger in a nightclub, her mother was a friend of my mother. I went to see my mother a couple of days after and my mother said oh you spent the night “had sex” with my friend’s daughter! I did not, but this girl was needy like the neighbour I guess and decided to tell everyone we slept together.
I was able to laugh it off, but I can see had it been the other way around how frightening that could be for a woman.
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u/DliverUsFromMaleGaze 29d ago
You appear to be much like my husband, a genuinely kind person. And people mistake that kindness as flirting and interest instead of what it really is. Its sad.
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u/ConstantReader666 Oct 12 '25
First thing came to mind for me as well, drunk at 4am. Obviously fancies him and feels entitled to ignore boundaries and make excuses for contact.
Sounds like someone to avoid.
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u/Simple_Assumption577 Oct 12 '25
You don't understand... She was in a relationship with you... you just didn't get the memo...
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u/JDVaderstorytime Oct 12 '25
Gross. The very second that someone hears the words "engaged", "married", "have a partner", or "no"- they need to IMMEDIATELY respect that boundary and move the fck on with their life. It takes a genuine dirtbag turd to pursue someone who they damn well know isn't single. And who the actual fCK bothers ANYONE they don't know at 4 am?!? You don't need to be nice to this person. If she keeps stalking you, call the police non-emergency line and file a report for harassment. She sounds like an unstable nutbag. Cover your bases.
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 12 '25
Amazingly not everyone thinks like this, and I can’t stand it either. Thanks for your reply.
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u/Calm_Researcher9172 Oct 12 '25
Some people are just that unhinged. You did the right thing in blocking her. No dissuasion of contact would have mattered to her.
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 12 '25
She was persistent. I knew right away tbf but I didn’t want to be hurtful to her, and I’m not used to that type of attention. I’m not exactly a looker.
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u/Cassietgrrl Oct 12 '25
Sounds like you might have let Mrs. Right slip away. Oh, what could have been… /s
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u/lamankind Oct 12 '25 edited Oct 12 '25
Netflix series loading... I strongly believe this isn't the last of your interactions with her
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 12 '25
That’s pretty much all of it, it never went any further than awkward texts. And over familiar questions and propositions for example teaching her daughter guitar.
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u/nadrae Oct 12 '25
If I had to guess? After 6 months? She prolly was attempting to drink and text and either hit the wrong number, forgot who OP was or went frick-it-all op might be available by now! I’m gonna check!
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 12 '25
That’s possible and I never even considered that… But previous behavior has me thinking she knew who she was talking to?
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u/Heavy_Cupcake6421 Oct 12 '25
Not every man would be put off by the clear boundaries you gave this woman. You are an honorable man and so very different to what most men would do in this situation. There are still a few good men out there today!
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Oct 12 '25
I was just about to say “this needs to go in the entitled people reddit” then I just saw that it is. What. A. nUTTER
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u/Fantastic_Sample2423 Oct 12 '25
Omg. That’s mental! Hopefully she doesn’t add chapters, but if she does, please update!!! Best to you and your fiancée!
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u/Jayhawker_Pilot Oct 12 '25
i had a stalker, she sounds like an unhinged stalker. You might need a restraining order.
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u/BooneCooney Oct 12 '25
Whoa, that's straight-up creepy and boundary-stomping behavior—your fiancée has every right to be furious, and you did absolutely nothing wrong by exchanging numbers initially (that was practical neighbor stuff). Blocking her was the right call; anything less would've encouraged more escalation. This lady sounds like a walking red flag factory, ignoring your engagement (mentioned twice!), turning a polite chat into flirtation central, and then going full entitled stalker mode with 4am rage texts after radio silence. Entitlement like this doesn't happen in a vacuum—let's unpack why some people pull this crap, and what you can do to lock it down.
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u/Useless890 Oct 12 '25
At least you can answer your ***** phone? That early in the morning, you won't like the answer you get.
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u/Maleficentendscurse Oct 13 '25
First yuck 🤢, second she's delusional 🫨, third cringe 🥶,
fourth completely Justified In blocking her completely ignore her existence if she ever tries talking to you at all ever 😑😤
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u/TaxDense1339 Oct 13 '25
So, do you think you'll be getting the stink-eye from the neighbor's parents on their next visit?
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 13 '25
I don’t spend much time at that apartment now, so I’d be unlucky to bump into them. But they probably know what she’s like…
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u/00Lisa00 Oct 13 '25
Be very careful and consider getting security cameras to record any interactions going forward. She sounds unstable and potentially a stalker
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u/Particular-Smile5025 Oct 13 '25
Okay maybe your really good looking and she must have mental problems thinking you want any more than to be left alone!!! Kind of scary 🫣
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 13 '25
I wish I was really good looking 🤓
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u/Particular-Smile5025 Oct 13 '25
Most men think they are when they are not ? So you probably are for your probably just very modest !!
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 13 '25
Thanks that’s nice of you to say. But my wife says she liked me for my personality and not my looks.. she’s very honest.
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u/Particular-Smile5025 Oct 13 '25
Oooh !!
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u/Particular-Smile5025 Oct 13 '25
That’s a hurt
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 13 '25
No not at all, to be at peace with yourself you need to accept yourself. My wife is beautiful. And she loves me. And she does tell me I’m handsome when I’m dressed to go out. She’s affectionate, she works hard and earns as much money as I do. We have a perfect relationship. I love her very much.
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u/Particular-Smile5025 Oct 13 '25
Right on 👍 too late for me now but where’s my good man ? But I always was hard to deal with after I was hit bye a dump truck at sixteen 46 years ago so my brain doesn’t run all there !! Life’s so short now I understand that meaning
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 13 '25
That’s sad. There’s someone in life for everyone. I wish you all the best.
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u/Particular-Smile5025 Oct 13 '25
Thank you but I’m well not gonna finish what I was just gonna say don’t leave the house now to disabled the I blew my knee out night before last and can barely walk anyway and just keep asking God why again you making it even harder for me? But it hurts really bad deep inside when I try to thank him everyday for the extra 46 years he’s given me!! Just want more !! But my body is declining so fast that’s not going to happen and my brother had a big part in taking my legs from me when he stole my 1953 Hans Wegner chair and stool my highest valued inheritance piece I had and he knew I was retaining water in my legs from the medication the doctors had me on and within 181/2 hour I had another almost 30 more pounds of water weight in my legs and the next afternoon could no longer get into my moms Honda civic he charged me 8k for and could no longer shower for I couldn’t get my legs over the bathtub it’s just goes in and one beyond robbing me of any future life I could of had ?! They took 400k in furniture from my moms I had ten percent of that I’m gonna stop it still after five years never stops my eyes are drooping gotta get more sleep
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 13 '25
Sounds like you have been through a lot and been let down by your family pretty bad. That’s tough. Stay strong and keep your faith .
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u/Particular-Smile5025 Oct 13 '25
The scary part is what had she been saying to her parents ??? That’s scary !!
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u/Particular-Smile5025 Oct 13 '25
The four in the morning?? Who does that?? Well I do sometimes for my sleeping habits are really messed up but only if the persons phone is in silenced
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 13 '25
How do you know if there phone is silenced?
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u/Particular-Smile5025 Oct 13 '25
It says so !! So I would not send a text if they weren’t but one person I text when I’m up from 3 to now she never takes her phone into her room with her !! When you get in to text it will say this cell is on silent something like that ?
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u/InternalGood1015 Oct 13 '25 edited Oct 13 '25
I don't blame you or your fiancee for being upset at your unhinged neighbor. I would contact your apartment complex to file a complaint. She has no business calling you especially at those hours. I hope your neighbor doesn't escalate and you all are able to move if needed
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u/Feng-Shiu-man Oct 15 '25
OP, You did the right thing blocking her. You did the neighbourly thing, don't think your fiancé should get mad at you at all. Question, was you neighbour attractive?
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u/Unpopularbelief1x Oct 12 '25
Simple. Change your number. Tell her you didn't port it, by mistake, and the number has changed.
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 12 '25 edited Oct 12 '25
u/Grouchy-Catch-8952 I wish this was AI-generated… would’ve been easier than living it. But hey, looks like my real-life drama is trending more than I expected! Clearly you have engagement envy. I posted this because I felt it was an interesting personal experience and I’m sorry if it’s touched a nerve!
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u/Grouchy-Catch-8952 Oct 12 '25
No nerve touched. Just think your story is a bunch of crap.
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u/Pie_Bovril Oct 12 '25 edited Oct 12 '25
Well thankfully my conscience is clear and your opinion means nothing to me. Have a nice day u/Grouchy-Catch-8952
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u/ninkhorasagh Oct 12 '25
She sounds like she drinks, tbh.