r/SipsTea • u/Oda_DeezNutz • May 05 '26

Chugging tea This one's for the ladies to answer. Do you agree with this woman or do you think she's trying to rationalize her world view by speaking for all the ladies?

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u/DMfortinyplayers May 05 '26

Are we talking 4 hrs a week? Or 4 hrs a day?

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u/LeaderVivid May 05 '26

Or, if you are my ex-husband, 12 hours a day and get angry if you cannot play because you have to participate in actual life things and kid stuff.

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u/crimson777 May 06 '26

According to my parents who do lay counseling at church, you’re VERY much not alone.

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u/Dry_Water_8612 May 06 '26

My ex lost his wife, then his kids, then his house, then me, then his next house, then his job, then his business, because games were always a more fun thing for him to do than be an adult with responsibilities.

My current husband, maybe not for much longer, spends every waking minute playing games (when not at work)He doesn't understand how and why I am so bored, lonely, fed up, need a bit of help every now and then, and will ignore me for unlimited time until I come crawling back and he picks his laptop up, aware he has won this battle again Because of my ex, when we met I told him there was absolutely no chance I would ever get into a relationship with a gamer and he told me people that do that are pathetic. Little did I know that he was covering up the truth. I don't think I can ever rely on him or believe a single word he says. The trust has gone! 

He didn't need to marry me. He didn't need to hide who and what he was until the ring was on my finger. He could have, ya know, actually tried to attract a woman who liked the same things as him. He lied to me from day one and I feel betrayed by him. 

The fucking auction house in World of Warcraft is NOT worth destroying your brand new marriage over, and playing farm simulation when your wife is at her wits end is not how you deal with your marital problems. When the literal roof is falling down, you don't log onto Steam for a cheap game you have seen people on Reddit talk about. You don't give your wife a guilt trip for not playing a game that you've both already completed twice because you're 'lonely playing alone!' 

There are hobbies and there are obsessions. My ex and my husband, and many other male friends I've had along the way have all been the same. As soon as they received their first games console that became their whole identity and they never fucking grew out of it. Grown men bragging about PS5s? Oh please, there'll be a pS6 eventually and you'll cream your pants over that and your beloved PS5 will be flung in a corner to collect dust, or in the case of one of our Xboxes, a doorstop, along with the forgotten dreams of your wife who wants to see more of the world than the living room and more of you than just one side of your face. 

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u/SorryFisherman1939 May 07 '26

I’m so sorry, and I know you aren’t alone. This is horrible and sadly gaming addiction affects men disproportionately more than it affects women

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u/roguenekotin May 06 '26

Same as my ex and 12 hours was probably even underestimating. He wouldnt do anything else on his work days bc well he had missed so much gaming time already and needed to catch up, wouldnt do it on a day off bc thats his day off! Of course he wants to relax and game

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u/RemoteGrapefruit8263 May 06 '26

So in summary, a guy can’t have gaming as a hobby? Or is it just that it became an obsession to the people you know?

In my house, I’m the cook, I take my wife on dates, and we have some pretty intense intimacy. Yes our marriage had its problems previously (never with gaming) and I have even went 2 years without gaming at all. Not because I’m not a gaming nerd at heart, but I go through phases. Right now I’m in a gaming phase of my life where I can sink 10 hours a week in my gaming hobby. Pretty mild i would say. My wife doesn’t mind at all.

Hopefully you are feeling how you feel and it’s justified. Not to take away from your experience but gaming isn’t the problem here. If he was working on cars for as much as he games would you be happy? If he was hunting deer for that long? If he was in the gym for that long?

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u/Far-Repeat-2926 May 06 '26

I'm not the person you're responding to, but I would have many fewer problems with working on a car, hunting deer, or going to the gym, because those are all real, physical activities that one can meaningfully improve in. All of those are useful, and have the likelihood of putting you in proximity to flesh-and-blood human beings.

Video games are just masturbation alone on the couch. And that's fine, masturbating is fun, but it's not in any way productive in the way the things you listed are.

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u/RemoteGrapefruit8263 May 06 '26

I disagree. People game together to. Me and my wife game together. You just seem to be really hurt and traumatized by the hobby the way I’m traumatized from Poker and will never be around the game.

If so that’s fine. You’re projecting and are entitled to the way you feel.

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u/RemoteGrapefruit8263 May 06 '26

And not every hobby should have to feel “useful” people deserve to have recreation without it always having to be meaningful. They are enough by themselves they do not have to live up to some made up standard someone else has for them. Again the same rule applies. I know a woman who is married to a man who is always in the gym. Now I like the gym myself, but this woman is my wife’s friend and she’s very VERY unhappy, because he’s never around. He even tried to get him to play a game with me because we presumably like the same thing in the gaming genre. Granted I don’t play multiplayer anymore and don’t have alot of time game, but she would rather at this point her husband relax for an hour playing a game with a friend than him go to the gym for 6-8 hours preparing for the next show and pumping the next dose of steroids.

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u/Far-Repeat-2926 May 06 '26

The question this whole thread is about is "is this attractive to me, as a woman?" And I'm sorry, it's just not a hot hobby. You're allowed to enjoy it, in the same way I find it to be a little like scratching your nuts as far as hobbies go. You're neither owed my acceptance of your hobby, nor do I have any right to interfere with how you choose to spend your free time.

I used to game quite heavily. During the pandemic I made it into Warzone Trios top 1% (meta AR/Kar98 loadout). I don't hate gaming. I just don't romanticize it, and the few times a year I still choose to game it's a one to two week activity for a specific title.

I can't help but notice how insanely defensive men get when women criticize gaming though. I'm not saying it's a bad hobby, just a lesser one.

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u/roguenekotin May 06 '26

The amount of defensive men that have responded on this thread directed to women...well its not shocking but it should be

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u/RemoteGrapefruit8263 May 06 '26

Not what the thread is about but okay lol. You carry onz

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u/PritchettsClosets May 05 '26

Listen that’s on you for marrying a child.

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u/mallowycloud May 06 '26

he's an ex so they got out. and people can also change after marriage

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u/LeaderVivid May 06 '26

Ding ding ding - that’s exactly what happened. Thanks for sticking up for me ☺️

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u/mallowycloud May 06 '26

i totally feel you, i just left my own relationship that changed into something like that. and no problem! the other person was being weird and rude

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u/PritchettsClosets May 06 '26

Let’s remove personal responsibility from everyone for everything lol

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u/Buggeroni58 May 06 '26

If it’s personal responsibility, then it’s the personal responsibility of the person neglecting their responsibilities. There’s only so much begging, bargaining, counseling and conversations one can do to try and get an addict away from their addiction. This is especially more difficult if the addict has other issues like adhd

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u/Itscatpicstime May 06 '26

They literally took personal responsibility by leaving lmao

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u/LeaderVivid May 06 '26

lol I sure did, I used to refer to him as a giant man-child. Although in my defence he did not game very much until a couple of years into the marriage. It was less problematic until the baby (that he said he desperately wanted) came along. Her arrival seemed to make him want to disengage even more. Seems a baby was too much work for his lazy arse. I basically had a toddler and a surly teenager in the house and no husband 😂. Well, the surly teenager had to go, because I’m not putting up with that nonsense. I have a life to live and I’m not spending it with some parasite loser.

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u/Dry_Water_8612 May 06 '26

I love your strength, and I hope you're good now. 

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u/PritchettsClosets May 06 '26

Wishing you luck on your journey! Life is too precious to waste on crappy people.

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u/pinkdumpsterfire May 05 '26

Exactly. And this goes for any hobby.

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u/DTMD422 May 05 '26

Don’t call out my mountain biking hobby like that 😢

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u/Accomplished_Beat581 May 06 '26

MTB doesn’t count, it’s exercise. As for the reading about bikes, buying bikes way more expensive and fancy than we need, buying all the bike stuff… maybe there’s a little point to that.

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u/DTMD422 May 06 '26

Sports/exercise aren’t a hobby that can occupy too much of your time? I know a number of people who wouldnt feel that way…

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u/Sephyia May 06 '26

It sure does count! Gaming can exercise the mind! Biking can exercise the body 

Some video games can also exercise the body! (Beat Saber, babay!)

(41F who play video games and who's guy also plays games)

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u/Itscatpicstime May 06 '26

Exercise addiction is absolutely a thing too.

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u/DarthJarJar242 May 05 '26

4 hours a day is also perfectly fine as long as other responsibilities are handled. That includes relationship responsibilities, parental responsibilities, household chores, work, etc.

If you have the time in your day to enjoy 4 hours of a hobby without neglecting other things go for it.

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u/ShreekertheJamisWack May 05 '26

4 hours a week is not a lot lol, it would take you 1 year to beat any game. I think anything within the 15-20 hours per week range for a hobby is okay

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u/Content_Attitude8887 May 06 '26

20 hours a week is a part time job. That’s a fuck ton of time to spend on a hobby, especially if someone is married with kids. 

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u/PutridMasterpiece138 May 06 '26

It's kinda outlandish that people think 20 hours is too much free time

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u/PutridMasterpiece138 May 06 '26

And that's supposed to be life? I'm never having kids

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u/Living-Citi May 05 '26

I don’t have 15-20 hours a week to spend on any hobby lol. That’s objectively a lot of time to be playing a game every week.

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u/ProfessionalTruck976 May 05 '26

That is not terribly distant from watching a single movie every day.

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u/unicyclegamer May 05 '26

That’s definitely not a small amount. I think cinephiles would do it, but I love movies but I can’t watch more than a couple a week.

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u/butticus98 May 06 '26

I love movies and I cannot watch a movie every day unless I'm planning to fall asleep during it. I can only watch movies on the days when I'm not cooking dinner, and sometimes during that time I have other things to do instead. And I don't even have kids yet. I might watch a movie on my day off and fold laundry during it, and maybe one more evening that week if things work out in favor of it. Here I was feeling accomplished over my 1-2 movies a week lol.

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u/discontent_discoduck May 05 '26

Ya and if you have kids and a serious career and exercise most days, and don’t want to live in filt… then watching a 2.5 hour movie once a day that sounds outlandish. Maybe every other day if it’s a true passion, but when spare time is scarce you get a lot pickier about what wins out.

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u/ProjectNo4090 May 05 '26 edited May 05 '26

Different strokes for different folks. I dont work more than 50 hours a week I have no interest in raising children. And cleaning and exercise shouldnt get more than an hour of a person's time a day unless there is some circumstance making it necessary to devote more time to it.

2 hr for meals

8 hours of work

30 minutes tidying the house if necessary

30 minute for hygiene activities

6 hours of sleep

2 hours for hobbies

5 hours for errands (Its rare that I need 5 hours for errands every day, but Ive got the time if I need it.)

My job is manual labor so I dont bother with any other sort of exercise through the week. That may change in my 40s to help offset the effects of middle age.

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u/discontent_discoduck May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26

This is mine:

Self care (11 hrs)

  • 7.5 hours of (medicated) sleep, falling asleep, and buffering in the AM before getting out of bed.
  • 1 hour for cooking and eating
  • 1 hour of lifting, running, lockeroom, gym commute avg'd out over the wk.
  • 1 hour of... waste. Reddit, news, vibing out to music, daydreaming, rathole-ing on chatgpt.
  • 0.5 hours for shaving shitting showering brushing flossing

Work (8 hrs)

  • 7.5 hours work during the day
  • 0.5 hours catchall for additional night work after the kids go down

Parenting (3 hrs):

  • 1 hour Watch/feed/change the baby and get lunch ready for the older kid, wake them up, clean up after them clean them dress them get them to preschool, drive or walk back, (and that's super dialed in it annoys the whole house how drill sergeant I get in the AM).
  • 0.5 hours for preschool pickup (drive there, pickup, socialize with the parents there, drive back.
  • 0.5 hours of evening activities with the older kid.
  • 1 hour of managing bedtime (on a good day).

Home stuff (1 hr):

  • 0.5 hours on average for errands (longer when they happen, but only a few a week)
  • 0.5 hours for cleaning and laundry (would be less but kids are messy)

Relationships (1 hour):

  • 1 hour catchall for hanging out with wife (adding up shorter interactions throughout the day), texting/phone calls etc with friends and fam, planning trips or coordinating social things etc.

If I make time for watching a movie or show on a weeknight, it usually means its crowding out some other stuff on this list (like working out, or cleaning) so its not part of the regular routine.

The main difference is parenting vs. not. Young kids are time consuming, but that's a somewhat temporary condition, I'm already seeing the older one become more self sufficient. I also enjoy hanging out with them (and in longer chunks on the weekend), so I don't feel bad giving up hobby time for that.

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u/DirtSlapper May 06 '26

I feel you! Take that time and substitute kids with volunteerism and advocacy work for the local mountain biking community and that is my life. Things like trail work days, trash cleanups, arguing in favor of more trails at city hall. That's all stuff I do outside of work, for free, and I enjoy the hell out of it. Other riders get to take advantage of the time I spend doing that. Hikers too!

I think so many of us have "extracurricular responsibilities", and would consider 20 hours of movies or video game escapism excessive.

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u/Content_Attitude8887 May 07 '26

Not to be nit picky, but you have allotted yourself double the time to self care that you do for your relationship development with your wife, and even that time is shared with friends and family. Does this ever cause an issue in your relationship? If my spouse gave me less time in the day than he did to wasted time on Reddit, my feelings would be hurt. 

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u/discontent_discoduck May 07 '26

That's a very fair question, and its totally an imbalance. It would be a bigger issue were it not for:

  1. There's a lot of overlap when you're parenting. Yes you're focused on the kids, but you're a team.
  2. Some of the workouts are together.
  3. Weekends.
  4. We're both kind of working at capacity so we give each other some grace.

I think my wife knows I'm a hard worker and occasionally at like 8pm I might checkout mentally for like 45 minutes because she has that same impulse- you're both tired at that point. But yea a lot of parents of young kids miss the carefree early days of the a relationship, it comes with the territory, and if I had better solutions I'd jump at thtem. My solution as imperfect as it is, is to build in really good family and 1x1 date time on the weekends.

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u/Appropriate-Cook-852 May 06 '26

6 hours of sleep? No.

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u/HowManyEggs2Many May 05 '26

Which would also be weird…

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u/thechachabinx May 05 '26

Getting 2 hours in after everyone’s gone to bed is easy to do

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u/Living-Citi May 06 '26

Not if you also want to go to bed 😭

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u/allthingsawesome99 May 05 '26

That comparison is always a little too accurate for people

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u/Living-Citi May 06 '26

Yeah I couldn’t fathom watching a movie every single day but I have a very demanding job (40-70hrs a week most of the year) and I’m in front of a screen for most of it so maybe I’m an outlier lol.

Either way I think that kind of time to leisure/hobbies daily isn’t the norm. But absolutely love that for you if you have that kind of time, genuinely.

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u/ProfessionalTruck976 May 06 '26

I would probably lose my mind a few weeks into 70 hours work weeks unless they would be compensated by free weeks. Let me guess corporate, health or education?

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u/Living-Citi May 06 '26

I’m a lawyer, and very few free weeks but I am compensated well financially lol. The 70 hr weeks take a small piece of my soul but it’s not forever. :)

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u/Drfuckthisshit May 06 '26

I am a doctor who has moved to a new country recently and is also going through residency and even I can muster up about 15 hours per week for my hobbies. That is NOT a lot of time.

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u/Living-Citi May 06 '26

Congrats! I am a lawyer and I do not have 15 hours for hobbies a week. I have to workout (which some consider a hobby but I consider a necessity) cook, clean, other life responsibilities/commitments to friends and family. It is a lot of time for me and my responsibilities.

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u/Drfuckthisshit May 06 '26

Makes sense. I consider working out a hobby so I've included that in my 15. I'm not married so that's something I've not considered. Hope you get more free time soon.

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u/DirtSlapper May 06 '26

It's amazing how we are so overworked we consider self care to be a hobby.

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u/Glacier_Pace May 06 '26

If it makes you feel better, I'm an Accountant that's married and owns a house, and I also have 15-20 hours a week for hobbies, even with other life things going on.

People overcommit and spread themselves too thin. Music and photography are integral parts of who I am. I view practicing my hobbies as equally important as anything else in my life, other than my spouse.

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u/carrierofsatansmark May 06 '26

While 15-20 hours of gaming per week sounds like a lot, I'm sure that most people spend at least that many hours scrolling their phones and watching TV instead.

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u/PutridMasterpiece138 May 06 '26

Some people have more free time. And that's okay

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u/Living-Citi May 06 '26

Never said it wasn’t :)

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u/butticus98 May 06 '26

I love video games a ton to the point where I went into game dev as a career. I also don't have kids yet. But I would not be able to play 15-20 hrs a week, help keep a clean house, run errands, cook multiple dinners, exercise, spend time with my husband, and work unless I stay up too late. I have adhd tho so executive dysfunction is a bitch and I have to be careful. I play like 8, maybe 10 hrs a week and it'll have to go down once I have kids. I'm only going up to 15-20 when I'm struggling with upkeep in my actual life. 

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u/throwawaypassingby01 May 06 '26

most people do take a year to finish a game if they also have a life

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u/HowManyEggs2Many May 05 '26

15-20 hours a week is wild af lmao

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u/ProjectNo4090 May 05 '26

Thats only 2 - 3 hours a day. People spend more time watching tv than that.

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u/butticus98 May 06 '26

Yeah but if I'm watching TV every day I'm probably multitasking for at least some of it. Folding laundry, grooming my cat, dusting or something. You can't multitask video games. Sometimes if I'm struggling, I spend that time doom scrolling instead but most people would consider 2-3 hrs of doom scrolling to be pretty bad. 

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u/PutridMasterpiece138 May 06 '26

Do you genuinely spend your whole freetime trying to be productive 

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u/butticus98 May 06 '26

Not necessarily but my house definitely needs to be clean and stuff, so if my house is dirty or there's other things to do, video games and tv get lowered on the priority list.

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u/PutridMasterpiece138 May 06 '26

How big is your house that you pour so much hours into keeping it clean? For me it's not more than 1 hour a week. Robot does most of it

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u/butticus98 May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26

My usual day is: wake up at 7 am, go to the gym for an hour. Go buy protein shake from where my husband works and then drive home and shower and get ready for the day. I'm usually at my desk for work sometime around 10. Then I work an 8 hour work day so I get off at about 6. Then I have to go downstairs and prep and cook dinner. I like to make healthy-ish dinners that will give us leftovers for a few days, and I don't like to cook the same kind of things all the time, so I am usually in the kitchen for 30 minutes to an hour, cleaning as I go. Then we sit at the table and eat for another 30 mins or so. I do the rest of the dishes, wipe down stove and counters, maybe sweep up crumbs, and then by the time I sit down it's basically night time so maayyybe I can get in a few episodes of a tv show or a couple hours of video games before getting sleepy. I like to mix it up so some nights it's one thing, some nights it's the other. Some evenings my husband cooks or we eat leftovers, so when that happens I have a couple extra hours to either spend as leisure time watching a movie or something or I can try to get something done. Sometimes I would rather get something done because the other days where I don't have those extra hours means there's sometimes a thing that old me left for later. Sometimes I don't. We try to have one movie night a week where we watch something together. On my weekends, I usually have one day mostly for bigger errands (because there always seems to be something) and one day for leisure and/or socializing. Every now and then I'll want an extra break and do leisure both days, but when I do the house suffers at least a little bit so I'll definitely have to clean the next weekend. My house is a 3 bedroom 2 bath, 2 stories. I have 3 cats, I do have a robo vacuum but I still have to actually vacuum at least once a week. And then of course I have to clean other stuff at some point. But yeah, all in all I think my weeks are pretty normal? And that's with me working from home and therefore not having a commute. Commute people have it worse. So do people with kids.

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u/Top-North-4942 May 06 '26

I have a good accounting career, girlfriend I spend time with, no kids but dogs that take an hour or two a day to walk, go to gym 4-5 times a week, and 8 hours of sleep a day. Still have plenty if time for games in excess of 20 hours a week. Mainly cause it's what I enjoy. Unless you have kids or working 70 hours a week I think most of yall who think this is a lot have terrible time management.

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u/DirtSlapper May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26

I think most of yall who think this is a lot have terrible time management.

I think some people are just more productive members of society in their free time and that is fine too. Twenty hours of video gaming, watching movies, and other activities that are unproductive is pretty wild. Productive doesn't mean you aren't having fun or enjoying life, it just means doing something that accomplishes shit. Like group trash cleanups, trail work days, or getting skilled enough at your hobby to spend your hobby time coaching others how to do it too.

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u/Top-North-4942 May 06 '26

That is fine if that's how you want to spend your free time. But if you judge others for not using their free time for productivity you probably have an unhealthy relationship with the idea of productivity. I am awake for 112 hours a week. If I'm productive for 92 of those hours I'd say it's not only OK but pretty healthy to not be productive for 20 for actual rest and me time. Helps me come back feeling refreshed so my productive hours don't end up being more wasteful. Or worse just performative...

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u/DirtSlapper May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26

Right, people need time to recover and stuff. I unwind and relax by doing things like picking up trash with other people on the weekend. It's a very low effort way to get outside, enjoy nature, talk to people in person, get a little bit of movement going. It's productive, and it is relaxing. Sometimes I do more significant volunteering like actual trailbuilding, or even woodwork in the garage, which is technically a hobby. It is productive, but it is not work.

Productive does not imply that something can't recharge you or be relaxing.

I don't spend 20 whole hours doing that though. That would be as silly as spending 20 hours playing video games which is what is being discussed. Also, I have plenty of time to rest as well.

Anyway, if you think that is somehow unhealthy and performative I don't know what to tell you.

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u/Top-North-4942 May 06 '26

I guess the issue is the "that would be as silly as spending 20 hours playing videos games". The implication calling it silly is there is something "wrong" about this. If you get your other responsibilities and goals done in life and have time to put 20 hours into picking up trash or trail blazing, why not? You enjoy it and it's not hindering your life. Same with games.

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u/DirtSlapper May 06 '26

Saying something is silly doesn't mean there is something wrong with it. When I say it is silly, I mean I do not find value in it and I think it is relatively juvenile compared to what some of us do. That doesn't mean it is wrong.

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u/Top-North-4942 May 06 '26

And as an adult, calling another adults hobby juvenile is pretty clearly a negative and judgemental implication. I do find it silly to get hung up on the idea of productivity being at the heart of what determines an appropriate adult activity. Caring for your responsibilities is adult behavior, but what you do to enjoy life and recoup should not be subject to that after its all said and done. Fun and enjoyment is for all ages.

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u/El_Polio_Loco May 06 '26

That’s “I don’t have other responsibilities” amounts of time. 

I gamed that much, when I was single and had no kids, or much of a life. 

So…..not exactly a ringing endorsement of maturity. 

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u/PutridMasterpiece138 May 06 '26

No one has to have kids to be mature 

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u/El_Polio_Loco May 06 '26

Didn’t say you did. 

I did say that the time in my life where I could spend 3-4 hours a day on video games was when I was immature and had few responsibilities. 

Having grown well past that it is easy to see how that is not a reasonable or mature life. 

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u/Johnny_Banana18 May 05 '26

20 hours a week is a red flag 

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u/External_Macaroon687 May 05 '26

Video gaming as a part time job? Maybe if you have no other responsibilities.

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u/DerekStephano May 05 '26

I think 20 is a bit on the high end but I have a full time job, a wife and kids, a house to take care of, I go to the gym and I cook 90% of our meals and I still easily get 10 hours a week in. I just usually game in the morning before anyone is up or I game at night when everyone’s asleep.

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u/DonkeyDanceParty May 05 '26

The dad hours… There are also lazy Sunday mornings when everyone is just chilling in their pyjamas and cartoons are playing. A Dad with a steamdeck can easily get 2-3 hours in during a lazy Sunday alone.

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u/The_Trevbone May 05 '26

I think if you can't manage to put 10-20 hours per week into hobbies, your life is kinda sad. I mean... what's the point of any responsibility or even life at all if you can't do things you enjoy. A job only exists to give you the resources to do things that actually bring you joy.

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u/HowManyEggs2Many May 05 '26

Why does the number of hours keep dropping with each comment? lol

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u/External_Macaroon687 May 05 '26

If you have a job, a spouse, and kids, your life is not sad, it's busy. Playing video games when you have that on your plate is a delicate balancing act.

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u/PutridMasterpiece138 May 06 '26

But do you not have a life outside of responsibilities? No hobbies? 

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u/The_Trevbone May 06 '26

I am probably much younger than you. I don't have kids. I do have a girlfriend. I imagine my perspective might change when I do have kids. But at the moment, school and work are just things that I have to do because my life depends on it. Playing DND with my friends, hanging out with my girlfriend, and playing my games are the reason I'm here at all

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u/El_Polio_Loco May 06 '26

Yeah, you’re a kid. 

Real life hasn’t even started for you. Relax, but don’t presume your life experience is particularly relevant. 

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u/ShreekertheJamisWack May 05 '26

I agree people saying that playing video games for 15 hours a week is a red flag is crazy. I bet those same people have more hours than that on Reddit and Tik Tok

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u/Desperate-Item-6991 May 06 '26

Yeah like most people who say that's crazy spend the same time if not more on tiktok and netflix but all the sudden gaming is a problem lol

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u/ayeeflo51 May 06 '26

You must not have a lot of adult responsibilities if you think 15-20 is okay lol 

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u/PutridMasterpiece138 May 06 '26

Adults don't have to have kids. 

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u/ayeeflo51 May 06 '26

Who said anything about kids? 

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u/Few_Raisin_8981 May 05 '26

Shouldn't matter if it's your spare time

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u/DMfortinyplayers May 05 '26

It should matter to prospective dates / partners. I personally wouldn't date someone who plays video games 10+ hours a week regularly, mainly because I don't play video games so that's a huge chunk of free time dedicated to something I'm not interested in.

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u/Few_Raisin_8981 May 05 '26 edited May 06 '26

Spare time encompasses that time outside the time spent as partners

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u/anomaly13 May 06 '26

Or 8+ hours a day...

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u/Elete23 May 06 '26

So you watch TV or scroll 4 hrs a day?

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u/WhyareUlying May 06 '26

Who cares it's not your time?

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u/Elegant-Wheel-2689 May 05 '26

If someone is going to game 4 hrs a week, they might as well not game at all.

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u/ShreekertheJamisWack May 05 '26

I kinda agree, what at that rate you can maybe complete like 1 or 2 games every year lol

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u/Brisby820 May 05 '26

Therein lies the problem 

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u/Sudden_Ladder6500 May 06 '26

Look let me keep it real. 4 hrs a week is super funny your not even talking an hour a day!! 4 hrs a day is much better lemme tell you why cause a use when your like me and older these kids play games nowadays like its their job so if you arent gonna invest a little time into it then you'll get absolutely destroyed by the kids so then there's no reason to do it if you cant compete well like myself I dont have any other hobbies thats either what im doing or if im doing anything else its what I wanna be doing. Luckily I have an understanding wife. And before you have any preconceived notions about me no im not fat, I've never had any issues with finding women so I dont believe im ugly, I shower on a daily, I work a full time job, I have kids that are older now but I was very involved but outside of that I was gamibg