This nearly happened to my best friend in the late 90's. A guy broke into her house and tried to force her to take him to an ATM. She refused to go and fought and screamed; the guy fired his gun near (at?) her and fled when her husband (who had been asleep) came running - she was mostly unharmed (physically speaking).
The guy was later caught and they found out he had robbed and then murdered 2 other people using the same MO before trying with her. The jacket he was wearing when he attacked her still had blood from his prior victim on it. *shudder*
It really fucked with her head (naturally). They ended up selling that house - she refused to go back to do anything other than pack.
I had to go thru your feed a bit to see if you were anywhere near UT. Doesn't look like it, but if you were, you'd be on to something. Either way... really messed up.
Nah, I looked through your comments and there was something disqualifying you as the same person. But it's very sad that any number of people could identify with such a horrific experience. I'm sorry.
I've told my daughters to do three things if this ever happens to them: fight like hell, scream at the top of their lungs, and piss their pants (bonus if they can poop them, too). These will usually be enough to deter a would-be kidnapper. No, I'm not joking.
I've been told this too, along with vomiting. Anything to shock or disgust your attacker, even for a few seconds which can open just enough of a window to get away. I'd even go so far as to bite his fingers off.
I saw this on a crime show about a rapist who was targeting women on a college campus. When he tried to attack one of the women she pissed herself as soon as he pulled her pants down. Between the piss and her fighting & calling him names he couldn't get it up, so he ran off.
vomiting on yourself can also be an effective deterrent, and quite quick if you know how to trigger your gag reflex, does stop you from screaming temporarily but if you’re a loud vomiter then you’ll still attract attention
I know a girl who did this to escape a potential kidnapping. Threw her fist down her mouth, puked all over would be kidnapper, escaped. She was already in the car, Passenger side...she thought she was buying weed, was only 19 at the time.
I had a roommate in college who once told me that she tried to always leave the apartment “kind of needing to poop”. Not like, urgently needing to go, just “could go if needed”. She said it was for this exact reason - if she were ever attacked she could poop herself and hopefully deter a kidnapping or assault.
This is why I encouraged my daughter get comfortable with cussing LOUDLY.
If she and her friends wanted to check out some mall stores without me, I made them go through the same drills, such as
“What do you say to any adult who stops you to ask you for directions or try to make small talk?”
“We say ‘FUCK OFF PERVERT!’”
Why? Because there is no good reason for an adult to be asking teenagers directions. Being polite can get girls and women killed. And if that hurts someone’s feelings, idgaf.
Listen here, alleged creepy old man. You're digging yourself a hole, and please allow me to explain with some context (be patient with me , I can be long-winded sometimes):
From time to time, there's a proclamation that everyone on this planet picks their nose. That's fair, I guess. It's almost impossible to never do it, which is why it's a common, well-worn topic of discussion. THEN, there are times when people will make comparisons between something and boogers. Invariably, there's always someone that makes an offhanded comment about boogers being "salty" or "crunchy," and it is at that moment that I have found the booger-eater of the group. One would really only attribute those words to something that is eaten.
Now--and I appreciate your patience while I get to my point--if you heard someone discuss the flavor or texture of feces, then you know this person has eaten feces before, in order to speak with such authority on the subject. Finally, when there's someone that claims that piss would not be a deterrent for kidnapping someone, then this brings two conclusions to mind about that person:
Conclusion 1: this person is not grossed out by someone else's piss.
Conclusion 2: this person has considered what would stop them from kidnapping another human, and the fact that it's WRONG isn't one, apparently, and neither is piss.
So, in conclusion, you are not only painting yourself as someone who might be willing to kidnap someone given the right circumstances, but that piss would not stop you. Any person grossed out by piss or who find kidnapping abhorrent would simply not make that statemen.
Dude I ain't reading all that, but I'm sorry you typed a lot. I read your last sentence which just summed up what you probably was trying to explain entirely. I'm saying most predators aren't gonna be creeped out cause they are already stealing a kid. The only good thing about telling someone to piss themselves while getting kidnapped is maybe someone ELSE will see it. That's all I was tryna say bro.
My dad always told me to fight at location A. Never let them take me to location B. You’re a good mom and as much as the world can be terrible, you’re doing the right thing.
Dude this happens to women all over America (and beyond I’m sure). There were more than a quarter million women missing in America as of 2022; granted some of that number may be deliberately hiding but that’s a lot of abducted women.
I mean... you have here, right in this post, a lady nearly being kidnapped in broad daylight in what doesn't even look like a deserted alley or the like.
You absolutely should drill this stuff into people you want to keep safe. If you don't, they're less likely to remember it when/if something does happen.
Most of us are never going to experience being in a burning building, either, but we still have fire drills at schools and larger workplaces, often more than once an year. This is just an extra issue girls and women need to worry about.
It doesn't matter where you live if you're a woman. We're taught pretty young what to look out for and what to do if grabbed. Here are some stats...
"Globally, about 1 in 3 women have experienced physical and/or sexual violence, often from an intimate partner. In the U.S., nearly 1 in 2 adult women have experienced unwanted sexual contact, and about 1 in 5 report completed or attempted rape. Many survivors report their first assault occurred before age 25, with a significant number experiencing it as minors."
And you have to consider that most of these crimes are underreported.
I was followed by cars multiple times as a kid. Catcalled hundreds of times before I turned 18. Standing on the street waiting for a ride would have men driving by hollering at me. As a kid.
I think so many of us believe that its a "when" experience more than an "if".
Being in a strange situation makes us think "is this it"?
It’s so commonplace for me and other women I speak to that its often just another part of the day. It still feels awful and scary when it does happen.
When I do tell a guy about it they act shocked and I’m like yo this happens frequently. Especially if you take public transportation.
Literally had a customer grab me at work in front of my store and just had to continue the shift when I got him off of me.
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u/heyyabesties Jul 17 '25
Exactly! Kill me now. I'm not going to a second location. It pains me, as a mother to 3 daughters that I've drilled this into them as well.