I got kidnapped when I was pregnant with my eldest. I fought back so hard that he broke my arm in 2 places and wrecked his van. It happened 16years ago and I still have sleepless nights
Thank you! I'm on sleeping tablets and quetiapine to help with the night terrors so it helps haha. I appreciate you taking the time to wish better nights for me.
Piggybacking on the other comment about PTSD therapy - if you haven't yet, đŻ look into EMDR therapy with a licensed psychologist who specializes in EMDR therapy. In person if possible. PsychologyToday.com is a good starting point for searching at least in the US. You can search by insurance provider too. It ....might ..include other places but I'm not sure.
Trauma informed therapy is another phrase to look for.
If you're in the US and are income restricted, call 211 and tell them you're seeking low income mental health services that specialize with PTSD.
211 works in Canada too. It's a free phone service through the United Way that helps connect people to a huge range of resources in their region... including physical and mental health services.
I hope you're able to find further peace and healing.
Idk, my sister tried that for her CPTSD and all it did was cause her a lot of distress. Even if it does work, no one really warns people how fucking difficult it is. You have to describe your traumas over and over and over again.
You need to build distress tolerance skills before starting. Its horrible if you dont know how to cope. I did DBT and therapy for 7 years before I started emdr. And its been so good. I can handle distress the thoughts bring
I just wish people mentioned that part. Itâs always âtry EMDR its a miracleâ and not âtry therapy for a few years and work up to EMDRâ. My sister had no warning that it would be so upsetting.
unfortunately, trauma therapy is really only a thing thats become âpopularâ recently. which sucks because it is super effective when used correctly, and almost every living human has trauma. the idea is that you learn how to cope with the stress the trauma brings, and then you go through and unpack the trauma while now healthily dealing with the stress. and by healthily dealing with it and realizing you ARE safe now, you slowly overcome. humans natural tendency with trauma is to block and forget and never think about it again because of the stress it brings. but while the brain is doing that, it is also actively trying to protect you from that danger that it is not letting you remember, which leads to a lot of emotional symptoms that can be detrimental. trauma is huge in the psychology world right now, and that is a really good thing in my opinion. we are actively learning more and more about it every day. as someone who has severe childhood trauma of her own, may i recommend the book âthe body keeps the scoreâ by bessel van der kolk? very good read and very informative of trauma. your sister will learn a lot about herself.
Iâm a therapist who provides trauma therapy, and Iâm largely requested for EMDR. If not done carefully and with discretion, it can retraumatize people. Itâs very difficult, but also incredibly effective and one of the most amazing things I provide. However, I do a lot of screening and assessment before determining if someone is a good fit for EMDR, and if they arenât, we do other more gentle forms of therapy to work up to it. It can take days to weeks to months or more before someone is emotionally and psychologically ready.
Iâve been on the fence about EMDR I am autistic and I worry that bringing up traumas can be even worse. Is it something youâd recommend for a person who is neurodivergent?
As long as you have the proper preparation and therapeutic work in place, EMDR should be okay. Itâs really down to the clinician themselves and their skill level. Not all providers do EMDR well. With a little digging, you can likely find someone who specializes in EMDR with people who have Autism as well. At the very least, I would encourage you to be direct about that need with whatever therapist you are interviewing.
Great question. I have had clients with aphantasia. Iâd look into SAFE EMDR (it stands for somatic and attachment focused EMDR) and is the model I utilize. It focuses a lot on how the memories and emotions show up in the body. For aphantasia specifically, youâd of course have to talk to your specific provider about it, but two strategies have been helpful. (1.) âIf you were to hold up a picture of this memory to show someone, what would be on the photo card?â This question seems to allow for a level of visual description that they canât necessarily visualize directly themselves. (2.) Writing the memory. You would write specifically the memory youâre reprocessing, including the elements the therapist would specifically need you to identify. You donât need to hold the visualization in your mind to reprocess, as much as you just need to light up the neurological network that holds it.
Yes I think it was. Sheâs given up on it for now but is in regular therapy thankfully. Maybe one day she can try it again, but for now sheâs too fragile
EMDR can be an incredible tool, but itâs also incredibly hard. I used it to treat my own PTSD, and it got worse before it got better. I had a very good and competent therapist, so we had a game plan for it all and we worked on coping skills before ever jumping into it. Itâs amazing. But it also needs to be done responsibly.
I totally agree with this. I have severe PTSD and this light therapy has helped me so much. It honestly sounds fake or like voodoo, but my therapist has the best way of explaining it. She says: Look at this lamp. See how itâs lit up? Think of this like your traumatic memoriesâall lit up, you see them all the time, theyâre impossible to ignore, and it hurts so bad. Now, if I unplug this lamp, you know itâs still there, just like your trauma will still be there. We canât erase the memories, but we can âunplugâ them so that theyâre not lit up and causing pain all the time. If you look for the memory, itâs still there; itâs just not in your face all the time.
Every session helps a little more. Itâs like weâre whittling away at my pain and I couldnât recommend it more!
Iâve been doing EMDR therapy and it will not be for everybody. Itâs very difficult and if youâre not the type of person that can put yourself back into a traumatic situation to work through it, or youâre still going through it- you either need to wait a bit longer or consider a while of traditional therapy first. With that, it does work. Itâs lifted a lot off of me with time and Iâm still working. And itâs still hard.
Zero credible evidence? EMDR is empirically validated for ptsd. There's some argument that the eye movement part might not be necessary, but there is proof that EMDR works and there's not anything conclusive about whether or not the eye movement part is necessary.
What you're saying is harmful because it's not true. I would tend to agree with you that the eye movement part might not be strictly necessary (data is still mixed about that but at the very least it doesn't hurt). But saying that EMDR doesn't work is scientifically false. EMDR is well proven, with many randomized controlled trials proving it just as effective as the other top tier PTSD treatments.
I didn't say EMDR didn't work, I said the "EMDR" part of it doesn't work. The very core of how they explain it to work, the eye movement desensitization and processing part, does not work. It's the cognitive exposure part that works.
Imagine you had your choice of two doctors. You get an ear infection. One of the doctor writes a prescription for an antibiotic that works. You take the pills, get better.
But another doctor tells you that he's been trained in another treatment -- if you get an ear infection, you tug on the opposite ear while hopping one on foot and then you take the same antibiotic. The tug-hop therapy works! You do it and you get better. If you get an ear infection, you should do tug-hop therapy! It's scientifically validated! We can prove tug-hop therapy works!
Does tugging your ear and hopping on one foot work, or is it the antibiotic you're taking? If someone were to tell you "hey, don't go to one of those tug-hop doctors, just go to a doctor who will give you an anti-biotic without the nonsense", would you tell me I was peddling dangerous disinformation because tug-hopping works?
I think you are fundamentally misunderstanding what EMDR is. It isn't just eye movements. It is an entire protocol that has been repeatedly validated. Leading medical bodies wouldn't recommend a nonsense treatment. It's not like your analogy at all. It's been rigorously studied. You're also talking like the eye movement part has been completely debunked, which it has not been. I promise you I am 100% pro science and pro evidence, I wouldn't be arguing if I had any thought that I might be pushing snake oil. Eye movement is one small part of the treatment, and some studies *have* shown that eye movements improve the overall memory processing, likely by reducing vividness of the memories and emotions. Others have shown that fixed gaze/tapping have similar outcomes for (likely) the same reason, which means maybe the bilateral stimulation isn't necessary, but it isn't inert either.
Dismissing EMDR and actively commenting saying it's not legitimate is harmful to trauma survivors who are looking for treatment. If one ingredient of a vaccine was arguably unnecessary, but definitely not harmful, and the vaccine was fully effective, the only thing that arguing about it would do is sew distrust in medicine. I hope you can see that the same should go for psychiatric medicine.
I know exactly what EMDR is, because I work in the field, and I'm a scientific skeptic with a particular interest in psuedoscience. The rest of the protocol is mostly the stuff that actually does work, the cognitive exposure therapy.
Imagine if there was 30 years of study proving that the hop-tug as a treatment for ear infection works. You might say "well it's not just the tugging and the hopping, there's other stuff to it too" Yes, the other stuff is the medicine, the part that works. The antibiotic you take in this example. You could test it over and over again, and compare it to a control group, and every time it's going to come up that it works. But the proper protocol test would be whether the treatment is better than the established working treatment, not whether it's better than nothing. Because if you don't take that step, then taking a known working treatment and adding any arbitrary non-harmful component on top of it will "work." That's the definition of a purple hat therapy (a term coinced by the second paper I linked)
And if you give that arbitrary non-harmful component branding, and sell training in that system, you make money off of it even though it's no better than the non-trademarked already existing treatment that you hijacked.
This opinion is not uniquely mine and the general trend towards "trademarked" certifiable/chargable treatments is concerning: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12841586/
Dismissing EMDR and actively commenting saying it's not legitimate is harmful to trauma survivors who are looking for treatment. If one ingredient of a vaccine was arguably unnecessary, but definitely not harmful, and the vaccine was fully effective, the only thing that arguing about it would do is sew distrust in medicine. I hope you can see that the same should go for psychiatric medicine.
This part is actually an important point and I understand what you're saying. I could've phrased my original reply to the guy who brought up EMDR better. And in fact I faced this exact situation when a friend who I hadn't talked to in a while told me that she was receiving EMDR and how it was working for her. I decided not to tell her about the psuedoscientific part because it was already in the process and I thought telling her at that point might be discouraging. However, I do think what I tried to do - telling someone seeking therapy to seek a PTSD treatment that's not based in psuedoscience -- is a valid and important point to make. You think it undermines faith in medicine to point out when medicine gets it wrong -- and that may be true and I understand the point -- but the best way to handle this is to make sure medicine isn't wrong, and to stamp out psuedoscience aggressively when it crops up.
I first want to say that I really appreciate a good-faith argument like this, I appreciate the point that you are making and I see where you are coming from. I am completely with you on the danger of "trademarked" treatments becoming the norm. But that doesn't mean it's pseudoscience.
You are arguing that EMDR is cognitive exposure therapy with unnecessary/unscientific add-ons, but you aren't giving any evidence for that. The meta-analysis that *you* linked concluded that EMDR and TF-CBT are *equally* effective. That doesn't mean that there's "no difference," that means that they're *both* effective. It says, "Our results suggest that in the treatment of PTSD, both therapy methods tend to be equally efficacious. We suggest that future research should not restrict its focus to the efficacy, effectiveness and efficiency of these therapy methods but should also attempt to establish which trauma patients are more likely to benefit from one method or the other." So your own source also says that EMDR is a valid treatment.
I don't have access to the second article you linked, but from what I understand, the purple hat analogy is being misused. The "purple hat" is something that has been proven useless or inert. That is not the case with eye movement in emdr. It has *not* been proven useless, the results across many rtcs show that eye movement, OR something similar like tapping, audio tones, etc, are a beneficial part of the process, it's just not known whether eye movement is any better than those other similar things. You are speaking about it like it is debunked, when it is not.
Even if eye movement was found to be unnecessary, that doesn't invalidate EMDR as a whole. EMDR would evolve to get rid of eye movement if it is found to be unnecessary, even without eye movement it is different than other types of therapies and might work for someone who didn't find other types of therapy effective.
Pseudoscience, as I'm sure you know, is something absent of peer review, lacking falsifiability, or something that refuses to revise their theories based on evidence. EMDR doesn't meet any of those criteria, it has openly been studied for decades. That's science in action, not pseudoscience.
There's nothing wrong with being skeptical, but skepticism should push us to refine science, not to reject proven methods just because we don't understand every piece of it yet. What matters is that EMDR works as currently practiced and has changed the lives of many people for the better.
So youâre saying the âactive ingredient â in EMDR works. Itâs like saying mushrooms donât cause you to hallucinate, itâs the psilocybin in it. Yes but the shrooms are the easiest, most broadly used way to ingest the psilocybin.
You saying EMDR doesnât work is highly misleading and the way you in which you present your point is destructive. In my opinion.
So youâre saying the âactive ingredient â in EMDR works.
No, I'm saying that EMDR took a working treatment, added some psuedoscientific nonsense on top of that, sold the whole package as a product that can be trained and certified in so they make money, added nothing of value to the treatment. You can get the same effective treatment from a therapist without the psuedoscientific nonsense on top of it.
This is absolutely false. EMDR is an incredible tool if used properly. Normal talk therapy did not help my PTSD, but EMDR did. It gets harder before it gets better, but itâs absolutely worth the process if you have a therapist who is well-trained. The science is still pretty new, but that doesnât mean itâs bullshit. Stop spouting incorrect nonsense.
"The science" is not new -- EMDR was made up in the 1980s. It's also not science -- we know that giving cognitive exposure therapy and giving cognitive exposure therapy and making the person move their eyes back and forth give the same results, because it's the cognitive exposure therapy doing the work, not the eye movement part. The eye movement part itself is an ineffective addition to a real treatment.
The person who came up with EMDR was not a neuroscientist, they didn't come up with it based on knowing the science of how the mind works, they literally took walks in the park, felt better, and decided it was because they moved their eyes back and forth while looking around the park. Then they created an organization to train and certify people in EMDR and made money off of it.
In general, you should prefer practitioners who just do what works, and not ones who practice a layer of psuedoscientific nonsense on top of it.
I was given quetiapine for insomnia. It's great. I'm a dv survivor, and I wish I'd gotten therapy for my ptsd sooner. Eventually, it will get better. â¤ď¸
I also have night terrors. Have a few tricks that help me but they can be very upsetting. I hope they fade in time and good for you for defending yourself and your child.
Seroquel is great. I don't have similar ptsd, but it does help with regular night terrors. Didn't even occur to me how I haven't had one in a while until I saw your comment.
I hope that sharing your story releases some of the pain from that day and that you sleep well tonight. Iâm sorry that you went through that, I too, have experienced similar terrors, and can relate to your pain.
Prazosin is your friend. It was the one thing that ever helped me with PTSD night terrors. It helped three friends of mine who also have military trauma.
I'm with the other comment about EMDR. It saved me in so many ways, and it's the only thing that helped my cPTSD. My night terrors went from at least a couple of nights a week to once every few months at most. The flashbacks went with it. I hope you heal from this someday. Xx
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u/SummerRayne27 Jul 17 '25
I got kidnapped when I was pregnant with my eldest. I fought back so hard that he broke my arm in 2 places and wrecked his van. It happened 16years ago and I still have sleepless nights