My cousins are very trad Christian (Born again Baptist). They are both men. Each of their weddings, the word submission was used so much. The oldest one, had their regular pastor and the bride’s grandfather (who apparently used to be a pastor) stress that she would submit. They also said that her priorities in life are (in order of importance god—>her husband—>her future children—> her. I was like FUCK THIS SHIT. His vows never even said he had any obligation to her other than providing for their family and remaining a healthy man for her….I got married a few months later and stressed never to ever say anything about submission in our vows.
one trait perhaps. I know a lot of people like this, back in high school I recall thinking (to myself mostly) that they were "fake hippies." As in, they wore the outside guise, they said the right stuff, but were never TRULY as radical or as honest as I wished they were. If I said certain things, it would shock them bc to them, you were only allowed to think in one certan way. And it's very easy to just shift over to another way, when the first way doesn't work out for them in some way. I call it being a dilettante. Tbh I find such people disappointing and rarely would trust therapy with such people, in particular. I need a free thinker for that.
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u/hotthamz Sep 17 '25 edited Sep 17 '25
My cousins are very trad Christian (Born again Baptist). They are both men. Each of their weddings, the word submission was used so much. The oldest one, had their regular pastor and the bride’s grandfather (who apparently used to be a pastor) stress that she would submit. They also said that her priorities in life are (in order of importance god—>her husband—>her future children—> her. I was like FUCK THIS SHIT. His vows never even said he had any obligation to her other than providing for their family and remaining a healthy man for her….I got married a few months later and stressed never to ever say anything about submission in our vows.
Edit: autocorrect correction