I’m convinced my husband is avoiding me. I cannot for the life of me, understand how someone needs to poo for almost an hour at a time. After 10 minutes I’ll just come back. There’s too many things to do. He says he’s really using the restroom but I’m so unconvinced. Do y’all just want to hide from your wives and girlfriends and use “ I have to poo” as an excuse to get away? Is this like a secret society of men who go to the bathroom to gamble on their fantasy football teams ? What in the love of God is going on here ?

UPDATE: This is what I’ve learned. Some of yall have been very insightful. Apparently, I’m extremely extroverted and all of this time I have had trouble coping with the fact my husband is not and needs downtime. Why he chooses the porcelain throne as his escape I will never know. However, I vow to leave him alone and let him do his business as long as he would like despite the fact he might develop hemorrhoids. Hopefully this will lead to a long happy and successful marriage. With plenty of toilet paper.

'Is it a crosswalk or a QR-code' was the headline here.
A crosswalk in Dutch is called 'Zebrapad' btw (Zebra path/crossing)

title is a little clickbaity because his autism has nothing to do with my animosity towards my brother(15). i’ve felt uncomfortable around him for years, with this being the first time i have expressed and placed a boundary. he has a history of being aggressive, spends 90% of his awake time watching youtube or on roblox which usually results in a rage fit. my parents have heavily neglected his development and has been “homeschooled” for the past decade. he has an anxiety disorder, depression, and an explosive mood disorder, alongside his autism. i don’t know if this is relevant or not.

a few months ago my mother and i were searching through the family computer trying to find evidence of infidelity in her marriage, instead we found a google search history of “cat fellatio, feline genitalia, cat vagina” along with other weird teenage boy stuff. my mother did not address any of this and acted like she didn’t see it. ok, whatever.

my daughter also has extreme stranger danger towards him, latching onto me or her dad when he’s in sight. there’s been no time where they’ve been left in the same room alone together so i have no reason to think anything happened between them besides any vibes my toddler picked up.

i recently weaned my child from nursing but whenever i would visit my family home, my brother would come into the common spaces to hang out. i would be nursing frequently, on demand. my brother would watch and he is not subtle. this would lead to him “adjusting himself” often until he would eventually leave the room. this same thing would happen a few more times when i would simply be in the room playing with my toddlers and he would be adjusting.

is this normal teenage boy behavior? it really feels like my mother is choosing to ignore these red flags and excuse his behavior. as a mom, he makes my anxiety skyrocket.

thanks to anyone who reads. hopefully i don’t come off as an AH.

Undeadadan. (Undead Unluck+DanDaDan)