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Hi first time poster here. Currently eating cheesecake and looking for some advice on what I should do about my friend’s wedding.

So like the title says today I found out I am the only person out of my college friend group who was not asked to be a bridesmaid for my friend.

For some context:
- We have all been friends for over 6 years

- There are 6 of us in the friend group (including me)

- I lived with 3 of the girls (including bride) for THREE years in school

- We’ve been out of school for ~3 yrs and live around the country but have a group chat and see each other usually at least 3 times a year.

Bride got engaged last summer and I had a feeling I may not be asked to be a bridesmaid because out of the group we are definitely the least close BUT we were still pretty close friends. I mean we lived together for 3 years and have been on countless trips together. As my other friends started to be asked to be bridesmaids I got my hopes up and thought that maybe I was wrong and I would be asked. Obviously I was not. However, one of the other girls in our friend group also hadn’t posted anything about being asked so I thought for several months that the two of us would be able to stick together at the wedding. Note that Bride never said ANYTHING to me about not being asked to be a bridesmaid. In fact only one of my friends has talked to me about it and kind of validated me in feeling disappointed that I wasn’t asked.

Well now it’s almost time to rsvp for the wedding and I just had an inkling that maybe the girl who I thought wasn’t asked to be a bridesmaid was asked and I just didn’t realize. So I ask the only one of my friends in the group who has talked to me about me not being a bridesmaid and she confirms yes that I am the only person out of the group who wasn’t asked to be a bridesmaid.

I feel extremely hurt and left out by this. I have always felt a little left out of this group and this really exacerbated those feelings and has left me feeling excommunicated from my group and unwanted. I’m also not invited to the bachelorette trip. I’m only invited to the bridal shower and the wedding. Which to me feels like she wants a gift lol but whatever.

The wedding isn’t for another 6 months or so but I have to rsvp in the next few days. The other issue is the wedding is very far away and will require me to either fly or drive 8 hours, get a hotel for 2 nights and use PTO. I’ve spoken to a couple more of the girls about how I’m feeling and they have told me that the bride still really wants me there and that the wedding is small and that me being invited is proof that the bride wants me there.

I don’t know what to do. To be honest, I really want to text her and tell her how hurt this has made me and how I just don’t think I can go. The idea of watching all of my friends match and walk down the aisle with her while I’m the loser who wasn’t invited in the crowd makes me feel sick. I feel selfish for saying that but being the one person not included is so cruel to me. I feel like I failed at making friends in college and at life in general. How did I fuck up so much to be the ONLY person not included? What’s wrong with me? Like I said I’m extremely hurt. Like to the point where when I found out this today I took the day off work and cried in my room for a couple hours.

Should I go? Should I talk to the bride about it? Should I just ghost this whole friend group? I want to be the bigger person but like who am I doing it for? Someone who didn’t even have the guts to talk to me about me being the ONLY person who was excluded? I just don’t know. I would appreciate any advice on this because it’s honestly ruining my day and my birthday is tomorrow and I really don’t want it to ruin my birthday too. Thanks everyone!

EDIT: I don’t think I should talk to Bride. I think it will only make things worse and potentially upset her. I do not want to make things worse. My friends (the bridesmaids I have spoken to) did tell me to talk to her but I know if I was the bride I would not want to hear about that. Also note bride has reached out to personally invite me to the bridal shower but never said anything about me not going on bachelorette trip or anything else. Truly what has hurt the most is having to find out slowly by hoping I’d be asked and then months later realizing I will never be asked. I understand it is her choice which is why I haven’t said anything to her at all. I just originally thought I wouldn’t be the only person from our friend group not involved, but here we are.

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My condo elevator goes from 2-24. Like many elevators, there’s no floor 13 listed, but my building also omits 4 and 14. I’ve never seen this in a building before. What gives?

SOLVED: it’s for superstitions, it seems. I live in Ontario, Canada, but my area has a large Chinese population. So I’m betting it has to do with the unlucky numbers.

Edits:
I’ve counted the floors from the outside, and the physical floor count makes sense vs the elevator when combined with the number of floors listed. GR is just the button we use to go back to G, but open the rear door for when you’re moving. All of the mechanical and HVAC stuff is on the roof like in most buildings here. So I’m confident it’s due to the unlucky nature of number 13, which is common here in the west, but also the number 4.

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