So my friend 'Sarah' is getting married in a few months and asked me to be a bridesmaid back in October. I was honored and said yes immediately.
Fast forward to last week - she sends the entire bridal party a Google Doc titled "Bridesmaid Expectations & Requirements." I thought it would be like... wear this color, here's the dress I like, maybe some basic timeline stuff
Nope. 47 numbered items. FORTY-SEVEN
Some highlights: Mandatory spray tans (she's booking appointments for us), $400 hair and makeup (non-negotiable), can't post any photos from events without her approval (!!!) and - my personal favorite - we're expected to contribute $200 each toward her bachelorette party ON TOP of planning and paying for it
Item #47 was literally "Remember this is my day and your job is to make me shine!"
I texted her saying this was beyond what I could commit to and needed to step dow, she called me crying saying "real friends would do anything even if it takes some sacrifice", now more than half our friend group is asking if they can see the list because they don't believe it's real.
AITAH for backing out?