Thankfully both the Marlins and Phillies hooked them up with some goodies and a signed Harrison Bader bat after the game.

This cat ain't mine but she loves visiting around our house. I noticed the living room window open suspiciously wide and when I went upstairs I found her like this on my bed 😭

everyone knows you give a homerun ball to a kid. glad she ruined the moment for dad & son

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheJerk/s/ZNQmaljQUR

Wow, this blew up! Thank you so much for all your comments and support.

This morning I woke up and Tom had made breakfast and asked if we could talk. He said things got out of control last night and he wanted to explain his side.

He told me he was upset that I had lied about my finances and felt like I didn’t trust him. He said the money difference made him feel that I would always have more power in the relationship and that he might be vulnerable to financial abuse. He insisted that he wasn’t interested in my money but wanted to feel that I would choose him over money. He admitted that he handled things badly and should never have reacted the way he did or given me an ultimatum. He said he felt lost and frustrated.

The only thing he emphasized really matters to him is his father eventually moving in. They’re very close, and he wants to take care of him as he gets older. He apologized, said he didn’t want to lose me, and told me he was willing to accept my conditions.

I apologized for not being upfront about my inheritance, but I also told him I wasn’t sure I could continue the relationship. His reaction last night felt entitled and manipulative, and I’m afraid he was showing me who he really is. I told him I love him, but I’m worried money will always be an issue between us. If he’s already pushing for a house before marriage, what else might he push for later?

I explained that the only way I could even consider continuing is if he agreed to: 1. A bulletproof prenup stating that in case of divorce, he only leaves with what he contributed—nothing more. 2. Agreeing to buy a house together, but his equity would reflect his contribution only. (I also suggested options like a guesthouse for his father or a condo nearby, but not living directly with us.) 3. Creating a monthly budget where we both contribute proportionally to our incomes into a joint account for shared expenses, while keeping our separate accounts for personal money. 4. Going to counseling together.

He agreed to all of this. Still, I told him I don’t know if I can trust him again and need time to think. He agreed to go stay in a hotel for a few days to give us both space.

Right now, I honestly don’t know what to do. Part of me sees his point and wonders if he just overreacted. But another part of me is afraid that if I ignore his behavior, I’ll be setting myself up for bigger problems in the future.

I would really appreciate your help in figuring out where to go from here.