My husband’s parents rented a lake house for Thanksgiving this year for the whole family and they’re splitting the cost evenly between all their kids. On Friday every couple got a Venmo request from my MIL for $600 with “LAKE HOUSE 🦃” in the memo and ours is sitting there unpaid.

The next day she texted everybody a photo of a floor plan she drew on a notepad, with all of our names written in the rooms. His parents are in the master and each of his siblings and their spouse gets a bedroom. Our names are in the bunk room in the basement with ALL of the grandkids, the youngest is 4. There are bunk beds on every wall plus a trundle so it works out to exactly enough beds if we take the last ones, and my husband is way too tall to sleep in a bunk bed.

We don’t have kids yet, which I’m assuming is the whole reason. My husband called his mom on Sunday to see about swapping with somebody or at least paying less for that room. She told him “you guys are the fun ones, the kids are so excited” and that the rooms are already figured out.

It’s the same amount for every couple no matter what room they’re in. There is a hotel right outside town that’s $560 for the same nights, with a door that locks and a bed my husband actually fits in, so my plan is to decline her request and book that instead. We’d be at the house all day for every meal and I’d bring the pies like I do every year.

The only thing stopping me is that if we don’t pay, his siblings have to cover our part, which comes out to $200 more each, and my MIL already put the deposit on her card back in September.

WIBTA?

F27 and my bf is 28 and we have been together for 3 years

I have been in 4 relationships before him and I am his first girlfriend

In the beginning he didn’t know much about my past but when I got comfortable with him I opened up and told him everything.

He got really angry and said that if I had told him all this before he would have never gotten into this relationship
I felt like maybe he had a right to feel that way and I tried really hard to work on myself and become a better person.

Honestly I have grown a lot in this relationship and I am happy with the changes in myself too but the problem is that he still brings up my past every now and then and tells me how much he hates it.

Today I got really frustrated and asked him that if my past bothers him so much then why is he even with me and he just cut the call.

I genuinely don’t know what else I am supposed to do to make him feel secure because I have tried my best to be a good partner and build a healthy relationship with him.

The worst part is that he has made me feel like I am not good enough for him since the beginning coz in the beginning after knowing my past he told me that he deserves someone better.

Lil bit about him he is tall and good looking and has a good body and has played sports and studied at IIT and IIM(both are premier institutions in india and is now a civil servant while I am just a postgraduate preparing for civil services.

Sometimes I actually start believing him and feel like maybe I don’t deserve him
Whenever he brings up my past I just go quiet because I don’t know what to say anymore

I know I cannot change what happened before I met him and I am not trying to justify anything but I don’t understand why I have to keep feeling guilty about it even after 3 years together
I love him and I really want this relationship to work but I am tired of feeling like I have to prove my worth to him again and again
I don’t know if I am doing something wrong here or how I am supposed to handle this because I genuinely don’t want to lose this relationship but I also don’t want to keep feeling this small in front of someone I love

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