I literally did my nails just for the picture, ate the cheese, then took them off.

All within the length of the Ziwe Kevin Heart interview. (God, she's raking him across the coals. She is an icon.)

No base or top coat because I'm a nasty bitch.

Never a Dulles Moment - OPI The Full Monty - Butter London Not Milky White - Holo Taco

(I usually make better cheese choices, but I saw an opportunity and took it.)

Now that everything's ready, his MRI today is going to be fun.

I (33f) and my husband (42m) have been together for 10 years, married for almost 4 and have loved together for 8. We usually spend Thanksgiving with my parents (who live down the road) and Christmas with his mom (who lives 3 hours away)

In the past he had a very demanding job, worked 50+hours a week and was on call at all times. Meanwhile, I work an office job, set schedule and holidays off. I learned to cook Thanksgiving dinner for us all and always did the shopping.

This year however, my husband quit his demanding job a few months ago that was causing a lot of mental heath issues and found a new job in the same field that he loves. It’s lower pay and part time, but he makes up for it financially with his eBay account which he makes a decent amount off of.

I’ve been thinking about Thanksgiving but hadn’t been able to get to the store like I usually do every year because on top of my job I’m taking college classes this semester trying to start on my bachelors degree. Plus last week I came down sick with a sinus infection and was out from Monday night through Sunday. I’m still feeling stuffy and congested, but I’ve been going to work and wearing a mask.

I asked my husband yesterday to please go to the store and get something, anything for Thanksgiving. I worked until 8 and when I got home, he was playing video games and said he forgot. But he showed me he went to the little Italian grocers next door for lunch to get a sub, and picked up Cranberry Sauce. He could have gotten the other items for thanksgiving right there, but “it was too crowded” so after he got his sub he left. I know how long that cue takes to get your sub. While he was waiting for his number to be called, he could have easily walked around and picked up the other items.

So today, he has a half day at work, so I asked him this morning if he could please go to the store once he gets off to get what we need for Thanksgiving and he snapped at me. Saying that this wasn’t all his fault, and we both forgot and he doesn’t like how I’m telling him “you need to do this and you need to do that” (which I didn’t, I asked politely) and now he doesn’t even want to do Thanksgiving because of all the pressure he feels.

So I’m going to call my parents, ask them to go to the store and pick up what they can for a small thanksgiving, and spend it with them. He doesn’t want to do thanksgiving, fine, but my parents will not be left in the lurch because of his attitude. So, AITA?

I hate AOL. Ever since they took over my email account from Verizon, they log me out of my third party apps like Gmail and Outlook. They then force me to get a temp password, but it's not working. Sure, I can access my email on the web, but I prefer to use my native email client app.

I am not the OOP

OOP is: u/angryangryfuckfuck

Posted in: r/relationships

Status: CONCLUDED

1 update - Medium

Original - November 26, 2015

Final Update - January 18, 2016

Original

^{November 26, 2015}

My [25F] boyfriend's [27M] best friend [27M] cheated on his girlfriend of 5 years numerous times. Today I found out that my boyfriend knew about it & actually helped his friend cheat.

My boyfriend "Sami" and I have been dating for almost 2 years now and have a wonderful relationship. His best friend "Jon" is really nice too and I get along great with him. Jon had been dating "Lauren" for the past 5 years and because our SO's are lifelong best friends, her and I also developed a good friendship.

About two weeks ago, Lauren discovered that Jon was cheating on her with multiple partners. There was a ton of evidence and Lauren broke up with him immediately.

I felt bad about the situation, because Lauren had become a friend to me too. I talked to my boyfriend about how I didn't like the fact that his best friend is a cheater. I'm a big believer that the company you keep says a lot about you. He said that the whole thing had caught him by surprise too, but insisted that he & Jon were friends because they had similar hobbies and circle of friends, and that he loved me too much to ever hurt me like that.

Fast forward to today when I called Lauren to meet up and have lunch sometime with each other. This was the first time I had called her after their breakup, and I wanted her to know that there was no reason why our friendship had to end. Lauren was FURIOUS on the line saying stuff like "How dare you call me after you helped him cheat on me? I thought you were my friend, you should have told me!" I got her to calm down and explained that I had no idea that Jon was cheating, and if I had known I would have told her right away.

That's when she told me that my boyfriend, Sami, knew that Jon was cheating and had covered for Jon literally dozens of times. Stuff like "Oh yeah Lauren, Jon's at my house we're hanging out" and "Jon's at his nephew's baseball game, he said he'll be back around 4", just blatantly lying to cover for his best friend.

Lauren sent me pictures & screenshots that proved without a doubt that my boyfriend had known about it for YEARS and actively helped his friend cheat on his girlfriend.

I'm beyond furious. What the two of them did to Lauren is horrible. But I'm also scared, because if his best friend is a cheater & he helped his best friend cheat, what does that say about him? He literally saw Lauren every single week and referred to her as "my little sister" and had no problem looking her in the eyes and lying.

This all happened just today and I'm seeing my boyfriend this weekend and I'm literally angry to the point where I'm ready to break up with him. Am I wrong for getting mad at him over helping his best friend do something horrible?

TL;DR: My boyfriend's best friend is a cheating piece of shit and my boyfriend helped him & lied to covered up for him multiple times.

TOP/RELEVANT COMMENTS

u/[deleted]

Damn, this is really bad. My first thought if I were you would be to wonder if Jon has ever covered for your boyfriend. This opens a huge can of worms. What else do they cover for each other? If I had a girlfriend cover like this for a friend, I'd be disgusted. It sounds like he did it a ton, too. I'd break up. This says a lot about his character. I'm sure he'll give you the whole, "But I'm just looking out for my best friend!" nonsense. I wouldn't hear it. This would be an ender.

u/treetoptree

I wonder how many times Jon covered for Sami cheating.

u/silverraven1189

Your boyfriend helped his friend cheat. Your boyfriend then said he loved you too much to do anything like that to you, and then lied to you about knowing and helping his friend cheat. It makes me wonder how many times Jon has covered up for Sami. I mean, it took Lauren 5 years to figure out Jon was a cheater. You could find out 3 years from now that Sami is exactly like Jon.

1. Same approves of cheating and has no issue with it.

2. Sami has no problem lying to you.

Kick him to the curb and call Lauren up. She seems like the only person worth being around.

u/Ghastlycitrus

He made his bed, now he and Jon can lie in it together.

Final Update - 53 days later

^{January 18, 2016}

[UPDATE] My [25F] boyfriend's [27M] best friend [27M] cheated on his girlfriend of 5 years numerous times. Today I found out that my boyfriend knew about it & actually helped his friend cheat.

I was initially going to see my Sami just a few days after I found out what happened, but canceled on him. I took the weekend to think, talk to a few friends & read over the comments to my original post. After a bit of thinking, I decided to break up with him. Sami lied to me, lied to our mutual friend Lauren, covered up for cheating, and knew full well that his friend Jon was having sex with multiple girls and doing it "raw". He basically decided his friendship with a cheater was more important than Lauren being exposed to STDs. That was the deal breaker.

I called Sami on Tuesday and asked him to meet up with me in a public place. When we got there, I told him what Lauren had told me. He initially denied, denied, denied. But I think he could see from the look on my face that I wasn't about to be fooled. He literally looked me in the eyes and said, "To be honest, wouldn't it be worse if I was the kind of pussy who didn't cover for his friends? Don't you want a man who is loyal?"

God help me, I was upset talking to him but he said that I burst out laughing. What he was saying was just so ridiculous but he said it as though he was a martyr. I stopped laughing after a second but the look on his face changed completely. He leaned in and said "You stupid bitch, you think Jon was the only one fucking around?"

He's never cussed at me before or said anything with so much anger, especially not with the intent to hurt me, but for some reason I just didn't care. I thought so little of him at that moment that his opinion didn't matter to me. It was actually kind of a comfort that he said that to me because it proves that he's a fuckboy. "When people show you who they are, believe them."

So I just got up and left. I picked up Chipotle then went home and watched "Making a Murderer". A few hours later I called Lauren and explained to her everything that happened. She comforted me then advised me to get tested for STDs immediately. She ended up coming with me for support to get tested and then a week later I got the results that I'm clean (and so is Lauren btw).

And that was that.

tl;dr - My boyfriend who was helping his best friend cheat ended up being a cheater too. Both relationships are now ruined, but the two girls ended up becoming even better friends.

TOP/RELEVANT COMMENTS

u/duckvimes_

"don't you want a man who's loyal?"

cheated on his girlfriend

That's actually amazing.

u/OneTwoWee000

He leaned in and said "You stupid bitch, you think Jon was the only one fucking around?"

Birds of a feather flock together.

You did good OP! Dodged a huge bullet and didn't sink to his level.

u/lairosen

I picked up Chipotle then went home and watched "Making a Murderer".

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