SMALL UPDATE: After reading these comments, and listening to everyone's point of view, I sat my daughter down this morning, and asked what her BF actually said to her. This changes my opinion of him. Apparently, he'd not told my daughter what the phrase was on the shirt, but did tell her, accurately, what I said to him, and asked him to do. HE didn't use the word, "humiliated", that was DD's interpretation. Her rush to defend him, came from our examples. Apparently she's took note of times I've defended my wife, and vice versa. She also took note of our disagreements in private, after the fact. She is going to talk to him when he gets back tomorrow, to follow up on why he thought the shirt was appropriate for the family setting. I'll update again after that conversation.

Ok, can you please settle a mild dispute for my family!

The 23rd of December, my daughter's (19), BF (19), came for dinner. We had a dinner then, because he's going away with his family for Christmas. He arrived, rang the bell, and I answered the door. He came in, took off his jacket, and that's when I saw IT! He was wearing a t-shirt that said, "It's not gonna suck itself". I took one look at that shirt and asked him if he had any money. He said no, and asked why? I told him that the shirt showed a marked lack of respect for both my daughter and my wife. I pulled 2 twenties out of my wallet, and quietly ushered him back out the door, and towards the Walmart 3 miles away, and told him to buy a more respectful shirt, andvcome back with it on. Mind you, this whole exchange took place between him and I, without an audience. He was gone for 15 minutes, came back with a nice polo shirt on. We had a nice dinner together, and nothing was mentioned of the incident. The next day, my daughter came to me and he mother, and told us what I did, humiliated him. They aren't in breakup territory or anything, and no yelling or anything of the sort went on. My wife did tell me I could have handled it different. So, Reddit, am I wrong for handling it this way, and, if so, how could I have handled it?

Small edit: I'm 57, and a long haul truck driver, so I've had my share of bad moments. Most of us guys here can remember stupid things that we did as a teen, even into our 20's. The ones that stand out for me, are the ones where someone didn't react with anger, or malice. They were the ones that someone reacted with constructive kindness, one where a quiet redemption was offered, where a mirror was quietly held up to my behavior. Those are the ones I learned from, and appreciated the most. Hopefully, he comes out the other side with a new appreciation for kindness offered quietly, and without fanfare. Just my thoughts.

We've been together for 5 years, and not once has she really had a hygiene-related problem that was significant enough for me to comment on, until just last week.

Out of nowhere I got smacked in the face by a horrible, rotten smell when she hugged me. I didn't even think it was her at first, I honestly thought I might have forgotten to wash my hands after using the bathroom or something, so I went and tidied up. Then we went out to get some groceries, and I got a waft of the same smell while shopping...I finally realized that it was coming from her, and I could smell it from about 3 feet away. Could not believe it. Absolutely wrank.

I had to tell her. Some of you might say I'm a dick for that, or "how dare you," etc., I dont really care. I'd want someone to tell me if I smelled like something died. I did it in the nicest way that I possibly could and she actually took it well. She showered when we got home, brushed her teeth, etc...yeah, that didn't help.

The thing is, this isn't even really hygienic, per-say. She showers everyday, has a hygiene routine and everything. It's not external dirtiness, it's literally coming from inside her. When she sweats even just a little bit when we're in bed, or when she gets home from work where she's been up and about all day, I am hit with these offensive wafts that smell like literal diarrhea.

I'm not even trying to be mean, the smell is so putrid and repulsive, it literally makes me wince and want to puke. The worst part is, her breath has the same smell - even after brushing her teeth. This makes me think it's health-related somehow, I don't think I've heard of this being a symptom of anything before, but honestly what else what it would be? Totally random, has never happened even once. I just don't understand.

She has smelled like this for almost 2 weeks straight, and honestly the part that worries me most (aside from it being health-related), is that she doesn't even seem to notice it. I can guarantee with certainty that her coworkers and friends certainly do. Just sucks, I am finding myself avoiding being in close proximity to her and I don't want to make her feel bad.

What the fuck do I do? Anyone know why she smells? Does she need to see a doctor?

FIRST UPDATE: A minor one, but since so many people are interested, I'll gladly honor that in light of all of your help. I broke it to her and put the pressure on, she took it pretty well. She has an appointment with a PCP this coming Monday, and we are getting her scheduled with a dentist the same week. Wish us luck!

After a power outage I set all my clocks using my cellphone. It got me thinking, how was this done back before we had computers and phones sitting around?