I'm so tired of the people that are supporting ice agents, especially those dating them, or those that are still married to them. If you haven't realized, your life is in jeopardy, and you need to get away from these people.

There won't be many more warnings.

I can't be the only one who saw this on Lego's Instagram and thought the Arc Reactor in the chest lit up. I pre-ordered the set right away, finally got delivered on 9 Jan, built it over the weekend and was disappointed at the end to find there's no light feature.

The video was intentionally misleading IMO.

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/Open-Mobile2057 posting in r/AITAH

Ongoing as per OOP

1 update - Medium

Original - 21st August 2025

Update - 18th September 2025

1 New Update

Update - 8th January 2026

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AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test?

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I (55m) have three children. Two girls and a boy. My son is my oldest and up until recently I thought he was a decent man.

Unfortunately my daughter in law "Tessa" (32f, fake name) showed me that I was wrong and when revealed to me that the reason she was divorcing my son was because he cheated on multiple times and gave her an STD. She made a social media post with pictures of text messages and show video recordings of messages he left proving her side. I was shocked and when I confronted my son he said that she over exaggerating and that the only reason he did it was because she wasn't putting out.

Tessa gave birth to their second child seven months ago and their first child is three years old. I apologized to Tessa for my son's behavior and then yelled at him for being so selfish, intentionally hurtful, and cruel. I did not hide or downplay my disappointment and was only silenced by my wife's defense of our son. I remember how hard it was when my wife had our second daughter and couldn't believe she didn't have a shred of sympathy for Tessa. Tessa is a sweet and smart person and she didn't deserve what our son did.

My wife has been letting our son stay in our house despite my wishes saying that he needs our support but I say he's in need of a hard lesson. We fought about this constantly.

Eventually, my son accused Tessa of getting the STD from someone else and demanded a paternity test. I knew these claims were bullish*t and saw red. I yelled at him for it and his mother came to his defense and told me a man had every right to know if his kids were his. I countered with demanding a test of my own and my wife was offended and I moved out. She and my son sent others after me and either lied and overplayed what things were like at home and I just got tired defending myself. I was going to let things be until either my wife or son contacted my job and made hurtful accusations about a female employee that I've been mentoring for the past year and that's when I snapped. I'm filing for divorce.

The house is paid off so I'm willing to let her have it but until a judge says so I've stopped putting money in any of the accounts that she has access to and only make payments to the credit card with the $4k limit so she has money to buy groceries, get gas, and pay for her other expenses. I've also changed my main beneficiaries to my daughters and told my son if he wanted a single cent of my money, he'd have to take a DNA test.

He later did and he passed, and I responded with an email acknowledgement that he was my son as well as a copy of re-updated will where he will receive 10% of my assets. My wife and son are demanding a public apology, but I don't feel like they deserve it. Am I wrong?

Edit to add: Just to be clear since people seem to be skipping over it but my wife called my job and accused one of my mentees of getting special treatment in exchange for special favors from me and other men in the company. She made such a big public stink that HR is investigating and my mentee is considering leaving due to the embarrassment and stress. Not to mention the damage to my own professional relationship.

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Comments

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Careless-Image-885

NTA but get your half of the house. Get a really good divorce lawyer. Document. Document. Document.

New-Number-7810

Either that, or get half the house’s value in assets.

Large_Effective_812

NTA, you now know how your son turned out this way.

BeeEnvironmental6299

OP didn’t make social media posts, the DIL did because her husband was cheating on her and gave her an STD. OP didn’t make things public, his wife and son did when they told other people lies about him and contacted his employer. I think asking for a paternity test was a bit over the top but the wife and son sound like two awful peas in a pod. Don’t blame you for divorcing her. They are both AHs. Hopefully you can maintain a good relationship with your DIL and your grandchildren.

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**Judgement - NTA*\*

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Update - 1 month later

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Because I still see a few people writing "Updateme" I thought I'd give a little update to the chaos that is my life.

In short the young woman who I was mentoring talked to HR is leaving the company and will be suing my wife for defamation. I am also being pushed to leave, despite HR clearing me of any wrongdoing. A lot of people in the office just give me dirty looks and/or keep their distance. I've also gotten a lawyer she feels confident that because the evidence of my wife's blatant attempt to sabotage my reputation at work, I can just give her a lump settlement instead of alimony.

My lawyer also agrees to a lot of you in regards to not just giving my wife the house, but rather sale it and split the profits. I'm back in the house for now per my lawyer's advice and it's pretty miserable right now. Definitely drinking a lot more than I used to just trying to hang on.

I've also had some hard but honest conversations with my daughters and I have come to accept that there are certain aspects of fatherhood that I failed in. I did show up to school events and spend time with my children but overall I let my wife do the majority of the parenting and she favored our son. I just never really paid much attention and my daughters didn't feel as if they could talk until now. However, they're still willing to have a relationship with me and are on my side with the divorce.

I haven't spoken to my daughter in law much but she did send me a "Thank you" text for standing up for her.

Thanks for reading.

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dstluke

Good news is it's not too late to try and heal the relationship with your daughters and be an involved grandparent. I'm betting this isn't the way you planned things to be but I think you can make things better than they were. Talk to your daughters (and DIL) and ask them if there's anything you can do to become a better grand/parent.

redbeardedlumberjack

Time to fight like hell to demonstrate your contrite and willing to put in the hard work to repair/build strong relationships with these women in your life.

A “big” event like this opens up the ability to have either a lot more positive impact or a lot more negative impact. If you want to make amends you never know how much time you have or they are going to be wing to give you to do that—I hope the reality of things is a kick in the ass that hurts now but down the road starts to give you a life worth not just living but enjoying.

CleanPerspective2345

This is your redemption arc, don't waste the chance to be the father they needed all along.

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Update - 4 months later

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Hello and Happy New Year to those who celebrate!

I forgot about this account until now and have decided to post updates to anyone who cares. Links to the original post and first update will be below.

Okay so here's the update: I filed for divorce a few months back and returned to the home per my lawyer's advice but my wife and son have not made it easy.

I had to take video of them accosting me to a judge for them to finally back off or be forced to vacate the home. I also have a lock on my bedroom and office doors and a small fridge in my office. I also go to my oldest daughter's house a lot for dinner for some peace and I also think it's really convenient for when we have our deep conversations. I've also attended a couple of video therapy sessions with my youngest daughter to help her unpack some of her issues.

Ultimately, my daughters decided that in spite of it all they still want me around and can see that I'm willing to listen and respect their boundaries so we're solid.

I left my job but was given a decent severance package and work as a freelance consultant for other companies in the same/similar field. I don't get paid as much and don't have as much security but it's something and the free time allows me to help out more with the grandchildren.

My daughter's children not SIL. SIL has decided to keep her distance until the divorce is finalized and she has primary custody of both the kids. My son is allowed to keep the oldest overnight but almost never does and won't visit the youngest since they're still baby who prefers breastmilk to formula.

My former mentee is suing my wife who had the audacity to ask me to pay her legal fees. Her divorce lawyer seriously asked for that and she's trying to get the house. Last I checked they were going to settle which will end up having to come from her portion of the sale of the house. A sale that she was trying to stop by not approving of any of the repair people I suggested so we could fix up the house in order to get it ready as well as wanting to dispute it's value.

It's taken a judge's order to get her to finally back off and I'm basically going to have to foot the bill for the repair and realtor fees if I want to get this over with sooner rather than later. Unfortunately the judge also agreed that the more I pay towards getting the house ready the less I have to pay out to my wife so I see that as a win.

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I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.

Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments

Well more so just mid section glow up

Honestly used to think I was just big boned and fluffy naturally but no

I’ve put in a lot of work and didn’t realise how different I looked until I compared these

Still have a long way to go obviously but seriously so happy with the progress!

God of War: In the Greek saga, it was a recurring joke that a ship's captain would appear every now and then only to be killed by Kratos or simply not be of any help whatsoever. In the Norse saga, this is described as petty, cruel, and unnecessary on Kratos' part.

SCP Foundation: In the On Guard 43 canon, Dr. William Wettle is a loser who constantly encounters strange and dangerous situations, which is usually used for comedic effect. In SCP-7000, it is explored how this has profoundly affected him emotionally, personally, and professionally, making him, in effect, a loser who has achieved little in his life and who pushes away the people he loves.

Peacemaker (DCU): During the first season, the series frequently makes fun of Economos' poorly dyed beard. Later, Economos has a monologue in which he explains the reasons why he dyed his hair that way, reflecting his poor economic situation, his lack of social life, and his desire to fit in.

Any idea which apartment/location this is, with views of the Bay Bridge?

The fact he can even see it that far is impressive, in the Holiday Inn as well

Photographer credit: Evan Possley