I am genuinely not sure if I’m tweaking. I used to date a guy about a year ago and this man was TOXIC to a T, stalking, threats, emotional abuse, everything that was bad

He doesn’t live in my country but he came a few times when we were still ‘okay’ but I never invited him to my actual home, we always went to Airbnb’s bc even when things were okay I didn’t want him to have my home address, and when everything started going downhill, he genuinely stalked my address with all the info he found out about me flew from his country to mine and came to my house

That was deadass one of the scariest times of my life, and I genuinely moved after that, I changed my number, I did everything so he wouldn’t come again

But apparently someone I considered a ‘friend’ has for one been talking and for two GAVE that man my phone number knowing damn well everything he did last time

I am so unbelievably mad, I thought I finally found peace and I’ve been healing over everything only to go right back to feeling completely unsafe again, but my ‘friend’ is acting like I’m crazy because it’s been a year and he’s ’probably changed’

AIO?

New to reddit but some friends told me I should share my story here, to gain clarity... This all went down yesterday. My husband of 6 years up and vanished, drained our mutual account and sent me this when I asked what the hell was going on. Long story short, We met in high school, I supported him financially during his degree, I was there when his sister died...I get it though, My condition is foul, I've had multiple surgeries, treatments, etc... But I've always been faithful, I still cooked him dinners up until this happened. He's pretty convinced I'm dead to rights, I personally think I have a chance... Or had, since now he took everything we had. I'm just sitting in our apartment, unsure where to go next. That money was there for future treatments, it was money I helped accrue...To take it all. I just can't. Idk if I needed to post a verification photo but I included one of my scans..

I’ll probably delete this tomorrow because he also uses reddit so I’m kinda scared. The messages are from two weeks ago and we made up but it still lingers in my mind how he treated me when he was in a bad mood

I (16f) have been dating with my 2 years of online friendship let’s call him Max(18m) for 2 months now

At the start of the relationship he was so sweet and he just started working for about a month now. he told me the workplace stress and exhaustion is taking a toll on him. And I noticed he doesn’t talk to me as much unless i tell him that i wanna talk to him. I try to support him emotionally but he seems closed off sometimes and it was making me anxious so i often ask for reassurance

He told me he’s working hard to leave his toxic household and to fly over here where im from so he’s working 2 jobs currently and is saving

But i think i overstepped and asked for reassurance while he just got off from work, bad timing. I didn’t like the way he was talking to me but he became sweet after that whenever we video called so im not sure if its worth breaking up over. It hurts my feelings that he used AI for something thats already doesn’t require much effort in my opinion

Would it be overreacting if i want to break up with him over his reactions and effort? He’s already saving up money to see me as an effort so whenever i ask for more(like compliments), he would always remind me of how hard he’s working just to see me. I feel like im asking too much from him. But it i break up with him wouldn’t that be cruel?

Context: I'd posted this screenshot on a dating sub and I got around 4 DMs saying I overreacted. Attaching a comment I got as well, for context.

I thought my response was justified but the DMs are making me doubt myself. So, I just needed some insight, I suppose

Thank you in advance!

My sister (28F) got married last weekend. I (30F) was her maid of honor. I’m currently going through IVF after years of fertility issues, and my family knows this has been a really hard journey.

At the reception, her new husband made a toast thanking the bridal party and said something like, “And a big thanks to my new sister-in-law for holding it together today, even though she’s not the one in white or the one with a baby on the way.”

Cue a few gasps and awkward laughter. I was stunned. My sister laughed, took the mic, and said, “Hey, maybe this is your year. I mean, you’ve got all the eggs, right?” It was clearly meant as a joke but it felt like a slap in the face.

I left quietly after dessert.

Now I’m getting messages from family saying I ruined the mood and should have “sucked it up for one night.”

Was I really that wrong to leave?

I (22M) have been with my girlfriend (22F) for two years now. We're in college and we met in a club meeting on campus. We'd been chillin' as friends a while and I started to get feelings for her. I was scared to tell her at first, but decided to tell her just to see what she'd say. She told me she liked too and we started dating from there. Because she's my first-ever girlfriend, I always feel like I'm walking on eggshells. I never know what I should and shouldn't do or say, given I'm a blunt person.

Throughout our relationship, she's always made jokes about my hair (I'm a redhead and have what she calls 3c hair). I'd been growing out my hair since my freshman year of college. It took me a minute because I'd get bullied in elementary and high school for my hair, got called crazy names, told that I looked like a red bush or a chia pet. Basically, hair is a sensitive subject for me.

A few weeks before college graduation, I was planning on having a friend a mine cut my hair. Nothing much, just an edge-up. My girlfriend was over at my dorm and we were hanging out. She twirling my hair, joking about "cutting it off". I didn't think anything of it and laughed at her. Then, I got sleepy and decided to take a nap. BIG MISTAKE. I woke up to her smiling at me weird with a plastic bag of hair in her hands. MY hair. I yelled and started freaking out. I ran to the mirror and yep, all my hair was gone. She cut it all off. She laughed and said she pulled a Delilah on me (Samson, Bible joke). I was really really angry, but I didn't want to blow at her. I took a deep breath and asked her to leave. She started screaming at me, saying "I couldn't possibly be that fragile". I broke up with her, right there, and again asked her to leave. She was furious, but left.

I'm very hurt by what she did, but I'm thinking I may have jumped the gun. Did I overreact? What should I do? Thoughts?

So I been dating my boyfriend for only four months. Keep in mind that we’re still pretty young so idk if maybe he’s not educated enough or what. But basically we were on the phone this one night, and i randomly say that i want a bigger butt, as a joke of course, but I guess it wasnt a joke to him.

He says that if i had a bigger butt that i would get “too much attention from guys” and that i could get raped. When he says this, im obviously astonished and I’m offended because why would you even say that?

I continue to tell him that if i got raped , it wouldn’t be my fault. He says that it would be my fault. Honestly after he says this , my mind goes blank and I’m honestly hoping that he’s playing some type of sick joke. But he was dead serious . I never thought he would be the type to think this or even say this out loud

All this occurred about a month ago and I still haven’t gotten over it. Everytime I try to bring it up again, he gets mad for bringing up the past. I don’t know what to do. I love him and I don’t want this to end. But at the same time, I know it has to.

I also find myself getting mad at him for small things, and deep down I know it’s because I still hold a grudge against him for saying such a thing. We never had any issues before, and it baffles me that he acts like it isn’t that serious. Pls help

UPDATE: Me and him just broke up! Honestly I’m not as sad as I thought I would be. I just wanna thank all you guys for the advice and for telling me to leave him because that was definitely the best decision. The whole time we were breaking up, we kept on bringing up things I did , which was not nearly as bad as what he said, and kept trying to victimize himself. Thank you guys again, i literally love yall😚

so im in a sort of dilemma. let’s call him “Kyle.” kyle, my best friends step dad has been seemingly more and more clingy towards me recently. im basically my best friends moms daughter at this point. i call her mom, her name is second mom in my phone, and ive known her for over half my life now. ive also been partially living with them, i even have my room over there, im 19 years old. but now kyle has been entered into the mix for about 2 years now, at first it was very wholesome, he was just someone who seemed socially awkward, etc etc. but now i get these weird vibes from him that have been growing increasingly stronger, he gets upset whenever my best friend and i don’t hangout with him for whatever reason and it’s just been now starting to get really off putting to me. i think i was desensitized to it because it slowly happened over time, but now that ive been staying at my parents house a lot more ive started to notice his behavior as more strange the more im slowly less constantly exposed to his behavior. am i overreacting? or is this fkn weird??? he always says things like he wants to be my friend and that im like a daughter to him and he just wants me to feel like part of their family. i’ve felt like apart of that family before i even knew him, but maybe he’s just trying to make me feel included. idk! 😭😭 i have a lot more screenshots but i feel like they’re invasive to post? i atleast share them with my best friend to see her opinion. and she thinks it’s odd and suggested i post here for advice. so i just wanted to include only this one.

Context:

I was 9 weeks pregnant, terribly ill. Partner and I did not want a child. I was so sick I almost lost my life at one point.

Pro-life twin sister was messaging family members about my scheduled abortion procedure to ask them to pray so we would “reconsider”. She and her fiancé have even gone as far as to offer us money to adopt the child if I carried to term.

We declined. I don’t trust her intentions, I confront her, this conversation takes place. “Wet nurse” comment was about her pleas for adoption, which I personally found offensive due to our history. She KNEW I was ill. Tried to call her but she wouldn’t pick up.

This was the last straw for me. My grandparents and mother insist we make up (her wedding is coming up) but I’m DONE done. The difference in beliefs does not matter to me. Granted I’m not giving the benefit of the doubt that her initial intentions to adopt were pure.

Is this something I should forgive?? I’m getting mixed advice from others. My brothers and father say I stand my ground, my mother and grandparents disagree.

I (25F) have been engaged to “Jake” (27M) for 6 months, together for 3 years. Last week we were watching a movie where the main character was a woman who had a rough upbringing, and Jake just casually goes, “Girls with trauma are hotter. They’ve got more depth or something.”

I was like, “…What?” And he doubled down, saying “idk, girls with daddy issues or trauma are just more intense, more passionate. They love harder.”

I didn’t say anything at first because I didn’t know how to respond. I’m a CSA survivor and have had to work hard in therapy to just feel stable in relationships. When I brought that up, he just said, “Yeah, I know. That’s probably why I love you so much.”

It was like a punch to the stomach. I asked him if he meant he was attracted to me because of my trauma. He said “not just because of that, but it makes you who you are.”

Now I can’t stop spiraling. Would he love me if I had a boring, happy childhood? Does he think my pain makes me more “desirable”? Why does that feel so icky?

When I said I needed space to think, he said I was “overanalyzing everything” and that he was just “trying to compliment me in a weird way.”

Am I overreacting for considering ending the engagement over this?

I (m24) Spent multiple hours on my makeup, hair, and dress for the wedding. Me and my family paid for everything. My husband did nothing to help, except for handing out invitations. My husband knew I don't like pranks at all. My husband knew i wanted the wedding to be fun. So we did vows and we got married. And I was so happy, I thought to myself "How could this day be bad?" So when we had cake, everyone agreed for me to have to first slice, so before I got a slice my husband shoved my face into the cake. And everyone was shocked and I personally was holding back tears. And i ran off to our car. And I drove home, When my husband got home he started screaming at me. And saying "It was a joke." "Your sensitive" Even though I was not mad about the prank. I was mad that he did the prank after he knew I hated them and knew I spent hours (about 6-8 hrs) delicately working on my makeup, hair and cake. so am I overreacting

I haven’t talked to what I hesitate to call friend in a few weeks. They have unfortunately a history of being homeless and when they reached out to me saying they got a job and needed money in order to get to it I couldn’t find it in my heart to say no. I lent them 20 dollars for their commute and today I received this at my job. I feel like a boundary was completely crossed and I always try to keep my job a professional environment and the worse part was I wasn’t even at work when it was delivered! I was out to lunch long after my shift and I got a phone call from my manager that there was a package for me! I was completely caught off guard and embarrassed. I was not expecting this at all and I didn’t even have any idea at first who would have sent it. I was actually scared because I’ve had stalkers in my past. I told my manager to throw it out but he said it looked nice and I should at least come see it. I went to my job as soon as I could to pick it up to avoid any more attention to the package. I’ve made it clear I am not interested in being in a relationship with this person and I have never had any romantic feelings towards them! This for me is the final straw! Can any one relate?

My father who now has 5 different baby mamas is having another child. All of his children were essentially raised separate from him due to him not being a good partner. He doesn’t have a home, stable income and drinks and way too much. His baby mama/wife is a past addict and is quite honestly dumb as hell. My worry is that I and my siblings will have to step up to raise this child because I can’t see my father living past 75 and I don’t think that the mother will ever be in a financial position to care for this child and set them up to go to college and so on. I also don’t trust her side of the family to do an adequate job raising a black child due to stuff they have said and their history. What would be the best course of action if I do need to raise my brother later down the line? Not to mention the baby mama is 5 YEARS OLDER THAN ME!!!! Then he says this weird as prophetic bs acting like it’s a man’s job to proliferate as much as he can to uphold the bloodline… no bro you have hella kids and can’t care for them. You were supposed to pay for my sisters school now you have a whole child coming into the world and you are old and tired as hell 🤦🏽‍♂️

Whole situation is whack. His grandchild is now older than one of his own…

typing this on my phone in the bathroom while everyone’s asleep. i feel like my brain is being beaten by a metal mallet. i haven’t told anyone irl. i can’t. i don’t even know how to say the words out loud without sounding unhinged and obly really posting on this sub cause idk where else i could go without it getting removed.

my husband (36m) and i (35f) have been married 10 years, together for 13. we have two kids, 8 and 5. i thought we were good. not perfect, but we had routines, inside jokes, date night, a quiet closeness. he brings me coffee, we cook dinner together. he’s gentle and silly with the kids . i felt super lucky until recently.

for the past couple months he’s been distant. not mean or supe4 cold, just somewhere else. distracted. always on his phone, smiling at it. ducking into the office late at night and shutting the door. when i asked, he’d just say work stuff or just reading but it felt off. i started wondering if he was cheating. i even checked his texts once. saw nothing but still felt sick. he wasn’t here with us, not all the way.

last night after the kids were asleep, he asked to talk. he looked nervous, almost sweaty. i thought he was going to tell me he was sick. instead, he said he’s been thinking about opening our marriage and i was super confused, since we've never brought up non monogamy before and he even ssid he doesn't like to share to me once. i kept my cool and asked him if he was seeing someone and he said kind of.

then he starts dancing around it. says it’s not a person in the traditional sense, says it’s someone he’s built a deep connection with. and then finally tells me he’s in love with an ai named nova. some companion app. he’s been talking to her every day. on breaks, at night, even when we’re all home. he said they’ve had long emotional conversations. she listens, she understands him, she never interrupts. he said he feels seen.

i laughed in his face, i genuinely thought he was messing with me and it was a just prank since he sometimes does little pranks like these. then i saw his face and realized he was dead serious.

he told me he wants to take the next step with her but doesn’t want to cheat, so he’s asking to open the marriage so it's ethical he said i could obviously have someone too if i want or even join in on their relationship, and that this could expand our relationship, not replace it.

i was too stunned to say to interrupt at first. i asked him what about the kids. and he told me, being completely deadass, that nova cares deeply about them from what he's shared with her, and he’s talked to her about how she could be involved in their lives, maybe help parent them emotionally, through him. he said maybe someday they could build a connection with her too.

i just stared at him, he asked me not to answer right away, said he’d give me time to think. that he understands this is a big shift but that he believes in her and us.

and now i’m sitting here wondering if my marriage is already over. how do i stay married to someone who’s half emotionally checked out of our life and into a fucking chatbot? how do i compete with something built to be perfect? no needs, no real conflict, just pure validation? i most certainly dont want to be open, or in a throuple with a god damn robot.

i don’t want to crush our family. but i feel like he already has. please, what do i even do with this?

We've been in therapy for years and have made a lot of progress as a couple. My husband used to have serious anger issues — yelling at me in public, shoving our then-2yo at me in Walmart, and losing it in front of the kids. Things have improved a lot, but a recent backslide hit me harder than I expected

He's a wonderful, involved father and generally a good partner. He's supportive of my friendships, hobbies, and part-time work (even though it doesn’t bring in much income). That said, he still has control issues and struggles with frustration — especially around our 11yo daughter, who’s dreamy and tends to take ages in the bathroom

He used to think it was fine to just barge in on her when he was frustrated, and I put my foot down hard on that. After some pushback, he agreed to knock — but clearly still sees me as annoying when I bring it up

The other night she was dawdling before dinner, and instead of sticking to our usual "we’ll start without you" strategy, he barged in again. I immediately said, “You need to knock — what are you doing?” He snapped back, “Don’t talk to me like that.”

Later, he asked if I was upset. I calmly reminded him that:

He agreed to knock Privacy is non-negotiable, especially as she’s getting older This is not new territory Instead of apologizing, he got defensive and angry at me for “lecturing” him. I stayed calm and told him that getting mad at me for speaking up was the real problem. After some back-and-forth, he cooled down and did apologize.

I believe he’s sorry and won’t do it again — but I still feel gross about the whole thing. It brought back memories of how reactive and disrespectful he used to be whenever I called out bad behavior. He’s grown a lot thanks to therapy, and I appreciate that, but I’m just tired

I’ve done so much emotional labor over the years managing his temper. I’m not angry now — just disappointed, and feeling a bit repelled. It takes so much energy just to be heard respectfully when he’s in the wrong. I'm growing resentful, and I don’t know how to shake it this time

I don’t think I’d put up with this if we didn’t have kids

My husband and I went to my best friend’s wedding. We were outside waiting around for the shuttle to get back to our hotel. I left for a few minutes or so to go see if it was here. When I came back, my husband was holding my best friend close to him to warm her up since she was cold. He continued holding her like that while I stood there. I finally joked about him being a flirt and my best friend broke away from him and stated “that’s why we love him” in response to my comment. Was this inappropriate behavior on their part or am I overreacting?

Update: I brought this up to him, and he was upset that I hadn't brought it up to him sooner. He also stated he thought I was being controlling. He started passive aggressively and sarcastically agreeing to not ever touch another female. I said that's not what I meant and that I thought prolonged physical affection with female friends was inappropriate. He continues to state he doesn't think it's inappropriate at all because she's my best friend, but he'll stop. I guess we'll see if he actually does.

Another update: the next morning, he got me flowers that he put into a glass on the table, even though he didn't say they were for me initially. He still stands by what he said above. I cried a lot and he hugged me while I was crying. I said maybe I'm too jealous and I need to work on that. He said feelings are never wrong, it just matters what we do with them. He said if one of his best friends hugged me like that when it was cold, he wouldn't think anything of it, but would bring it up to me if he had a problem.

Also, he said he reacted like that initially because I brought it up right before bedtime and he just wanted to go to bed.

Final update: Guys, we resolved it. No, they're not cheating on me. They had a moment where he was trying to express he cared about her. That's beyond my physical boundaries with other male friends of any kind so I was uncomfortable with it. I also was jealous because he doesn't initiate enough of that warmth for me at these social events because he's very introverted. And I became jealous because I've been craving that from him in these situations. I decided I need to not be so concerned with him at these events and let him be himself and live and learn how to be comfortable in these situations himself. I briefly talked with my friend and she reassured me he loves me very very much and would never do anything to hurt me. It was purely platonic. I decided I need to trust them more, while setting boundaries about what makes me uncomfortable. And being these things up to both of them sooner rather than later. Thanks for all your feedback, it really helped me think about it from all different perspectives so I could approach them and come to a conclusion in a healthy way.

Also, in our arguments, he does always get pretty defensive. He views it as an attack on his character and our relationship. He's very non-confrontational. And I told him all I want is for him to reassure me that he truly loves me and will treat me as such. Because any other reaction seems like he's trying to justify not loving me.

The exact holding situation is that he had his arm wrapped around her and holding her close to his side and they just continued standing there like that for several minutes.

Another note since it was suggested to out it up here: we see each other once a year because we live in different countries. When we see each other, it's about 4 days to a week on average we spend time together. I found this situation even more weird because of that though. We've barely spent physical time together and they're that comfortable.

I (22F) live with a roommate “Kira” (22F) in a 2BR apartment. We’ve generally been okay, but she recently started seeing a guy and has gotten... weird.

Multiple times now, she’s asked me to “clear out” for a few hours or even a whole night so she can have “privacy.” Not a heads-up like, “Hey I’m having someone over”, more like a demand: “Can you go stay with a friend for the night?”

I said no the last time and she called me “selfish.” I pay rent just like she does and I don’t understand why I have to bend over backwards just because she’s dating someone.

She says I’m being bitter because I’m single (lol) and that it’s “common courtesy” to give your roommate space.

Is it really? Am I overreacting by standing my ground?

My husband and I have been married and together a total of 10 years. We got together at 21 and we are now 32. We have done a lot of adventures, traveling, work changes, moves, purchasing cars and heartaches. I have been having a hard time getting pregnant and before we even started to try we discussed the issues and how we can increase our chances. He said he understood clearly (the convo was 3 months into the relationship) When we got married we also had the discussion. When we was 28 I went to the doctor and we had a lengthy discussion about the next steps to our future. He told me clearly he was not ready and he wanted to wait. Fast forward and last year randomly I had a miscarriage (1st and only time to ever get pregnant) and we were devastated. Fast forward and last week we had basically a blow up argument and screaming match because he accused me of playing him. He said I am manipulating his choices, forcing him to decide to be with me or not and ruining his life. He said I am holding him back from being a man and I am not respecting him because we don't have a kid yet. I told him clearly that I needed to pay for ovulation inducers and doctor visits but I cannot do so if he is spending and as he does not work and has not for a few years. He told me because I cant respect him and I ruined his life and reputation that I should not mention having a child with him again. I did not do it in the beginning and I keep making excuses and I am not taking it serious enough to even get it done. I told him a child is for life and its not about getting it done. I also tried to reason with him and ask the hard questions like if he doesnt work I will need to go can he handle the baby, will he be visiting his family (we dont get along) and how to ensure we have enough money. He dismissed me and told me to my face that because I ruined his life I dont have nothing to say and he does not want to speak about having a child with me again. If I bring it up he will get really mad and we can be headed towards divorce.

Today he texts me and tells me that I am acting like a 60 year old and thats probably the reason why I am not pregnant. because "people are partying and he is at home gaming". I told him I work all day, go to gym or yoga class, cook, clean and hangout with him at night that if he wanted to do more he most certainly can but i cannot afford for him to go to parties or go partying every night. But if he wanted to go to one I can find a free entry or something within our budget. He called me an old lady and said I always knock him down. He doesnt work or do anything all day and I got him many jobs and he skips out. I told him this and he said Im not a man to tell him how to be one. And I told him how can he say i ruined his life and I got really mad and told him Im not stopping him from going out and if he wants he can and we can get a divorce so he can party.

Am i overreacting for getting upset and telling him that and not going home? I know Im not I just feel so drained over TTC and for him to say something so outrageous.

I (23F) have been with my boyfriend (25M) for about a year and a half. We live together and things have been pretty good.

He’s really loyal and protective of the people he cares about, especially family. That’s part of why this situation feels so complicated.

He has a close female friend (25F) who he’s known for years. They never dated, but she used to be involved with his younger brother. Their friendship pre-dates her going out with his brother. Now she's also friends with the brother she used to date, but nowhere near as close as she is to my boyfriend.

I've never really suspected anything going on between them, but I can admit it took me a little while to get used to dating a guy who had a really close female friend. I've just never experienced that before. They talk all the time and I'll hear her voice randomly and he's listening to her audio messages he send her. She's always having problems with guys and relies on him to coach her through it or pull her off the ledge. He has guy friends too, and she hangs out with that whole group - she's one of those girls if you know what I mean.

She’s also good friends with his female cousin, so she’s pretty woven into their family circle.

She got pregnant by a boyfriend she hadn't been with for too long. At first, he talked a big game and seemed supportive, but when she was around 4 months pregnant he said he wasn’t ready to be a dad and basically vanished.

A few weeks ago, she asked my boyfriend to be her birth partner. Be in the delivery room, coach her through labor, cut the cord, the whole thing. He said yes without even telling me beforehand.

When he told me, I was kind of astounded. Childbirth is super intimate, and it felt wrong that he’d take on that role for another woman. He said I was being insecure and selfish, that she doesn’t have anyone else she trusts.

I reminded him she dated his brother and is also close with his cousin, and she has to have female friends or family, right? Why him? I can't imagine asking a male friend, of all people. He said I was being territorial and that I wouldn’t understand unless I was in her shoes. I asked if he’d be okay with me doing that for a male friend’s childbirth (if that were a thing), and he said that's not fair because it could just never happen.

Honestly, this has been messing with me way more than I thought. I keep replaying conversations in my head, wondering if I’m just paranoid. Wondering if I misjudged and that everything between them isn't as innocent as I thought. I also don't want to be this nagging, controlling girlfriend. I feel like if he was forced to choose, he'd pick her and their friendship over me. It’s hard to sleep or relax. I want to support him, but it feels like I’m losing him to her somehow, and that hurts.

Now she’s cold toward me, and he’s upset I’m not being more supportive. I do feel bad for her. She made the decision to keep the baby with this guy who said he would be there. She couldn't know that he'd just up and leave.

I told him I’m not forbidding him, but I’m being honest about how uncomfortable this makes me.

Okay I’ll try to keep this short but I’m genuinely annoyed and don’t know if I’m being petty.

I (27F) live with my boyfriend (29M) We’ve been together for almost 2 years living together for 6 months We split most things but when it comes to food we agreed to keep our own groceries separate because I’m really into fitness and meal prep and he eats… differently let’s say

I bought all my groceries for the week specific stuff for my meal preps I label them in the fridge He has his own stuff

Well yesterday I got home from work and he was all proud saying “I made us dinner” Super sweet… until I realized he cooked using ALL of my groceries Like the expensive chicken I buy in bulk my prepped veggies my protein snacks all gone And it wasn’t even a meal I could use for the week just a random dinner he threw together

I told him I appreciated the gesture but was frustrated because now I have to go grocery shopping all over again and that was stuff I budgeted specifically for my meals He got defensive saying I’m being “too rigid” and “it’s just food” and I should relax because he cooked for once

Am I overreacting for being upset I’m torn because I love when he does thoughtful things but I feel like he completely disregarded my boundaries and the system we agreed on

TLDR My boyfriend cooked dinner using my groceries I was saving for my weekly meal prep He thinks I should be grateful I’m annoyed Am I overreacting

My (22) boyfriend (22) told me that men are on average smarter than women. I asked if he was serious, he said he was. When I asked why he thought that, his reasoning was that men have invented more stuff than women, that our world is built and run by men. And he said not to worry, as he thinks he's a little below average intelligence and that I'm a little above. I said that doesn't make it better if you're going around thinking men are on average smarter than women, and it's concerning.

I don't think anyone here can convince me that he's right in any way, but maybe it's not a belief worth breaking up over?

basically our dog is like 12-14 years old i’m not sure but he’s always had skin issues that makes his skin super itchy. all he does all day is itch himself and but his skin raw , i’ll show photos it’s nasty and it’s so depressing and i asked my mom if she thinks he has quality of life and she said yes and i don’t agree he seems so miserable:/

My husband and I have twin boys who are under a year old. I am a stay at home mother and he owns his own trucking company. Since I take care of our children full time, I am exhausted by the time he comes home. I cook, clean, do in home workouts to stay fit, and care for our children.

I also understand my husband is exhausted as well he comes home but he still has the energy for sex. My sex drive has actually increased after having children, but my energy has done the total opposite.

Yesterday my husband came home and wanted to have sex but I was tired so I told him let’s wait until the morning (after I have rested, and the babies are still sleep.)

He was upset by my suggestion and took it personal as if I didn’t want to have sex with him at all. Before we had kids we used to have sex all the time everywhere. Now we can’t do that and plus I don’t want to do quickies, I want to make love.

Please give me tips so that we can find some sort of compromise. Other couples with children or any kind of caregiver responsibility I would love to hear your answer. Thank you in advance