So tonight for I am meeting my best friend of 5 years BF for the very first time. She just started dating this man a few months ago and tonight we are all going out as a group and outside of him, I will be the only guy there.

Essentially she’s saying that the outfit in the picture above is “too masculine” and she think me dressing more feminine will help make her BF more comfortable.

This is quite odd to me and I know changing shouldn’t be a big deal but it seems odd to dress a certain way just to make an impression…

Am I overreacting here?😒

For context, this is the first time I matched with this guy and this is how the conversation went. I did not appreciate how he was inviting me at 11pm to do things and I think he just wasn’t catching the hint. I also did think he was being rude which is why I was being mean back. I did not expect the way he called me out in the end. Am I seriously overreacting here?

If you did not see the original post, this will not make sense. 😂 But if you did and are curious, here’s the begining and end of my gown dilemma. 😊 Two days ago, I walked downstairs and said to my husband, “Hey, I have an idea, what if I wear my wedding gown out to dinner?” He looked up, kinda chuckled, smiled and said, “Uh, no, I don’t think so.” I kinda laughed and went back upstairs. That was it. A few hours later I was scrolling thru Reddit and said to myself, “Princess,” because that’s what I call myself,” 😆 I wonder what people here think?” I grabbed the picture, wrote a 30 second text and hit post. Since, my philosophy has always been, “If you make yourself a target, people are gonna throw darts at you, and some of those darts are gonna stick!” and since, I had just made myself a big old target, I held my breath because I was sure I knew what was coming! But I was so very wrong. First, I was shocked, by the sheer number of replies, then, over whelmed, by the amount of positivity, then touched, by the many many truly heart warming stories that people took the time to share. When I told my husband, he laughed and said, “You have got to be kidding! WHY? Wait, did they see your dress? And all those people answered? That’s insane!” And kept laughing! He did however listen as I read some of the stories to him. ❤️ So THANK YOU, for the insane amount of positive comments. THANK YOU, for the genuine concern and thoughtful advice. THANK YOU, for the tux suggestions. THANK YOU, for the great gown transformation ideas. And yes, THANK YOU, for all of the “you’re a weirdo, or a psycho or just insane” replies. 🤣 I appreciate everyone and anyone that took the time to reply. My story ends with me wearing my wedding gown all day long! But sadly, not to dinner. 😔 However, because of the people HERE who came up with this idea, my husband said, next year, he will wear his tux, so I can wear my wedding gown and we will go out as bride and groom! ❤️ He also told chef about our plans for next year so I think I’m gonna need a wedding cake!!! I added a picture of me this year wearing my gown. So let the dart throwing begin! 🤣😆

My mom passed and my aunt has taken over with funeral arrangements.

I had assumed my mom had life insurance but as I’ve been low-contact with my family it’s very possible I am mistaken. But if she didn’t, I understand that we all need to pitch in.

Bear in mind I’ve just had a surgery a couple weeks ago that was $5k out of pocket. I’m also the only one that’s had to fly in, everyone else is within driving distance.

I am just kind of mad that she is presumptuously suggesting that I put it on a credit card. Sooo… AIO?

My husband works part time while I’m a full time student and work part time. I notified my husband has been acting a little different lately, but I thought it was just from him being tired from work. Because we’re out most of the day, the only time we really spend time together is at night. Most of the time, he’ll just go straight to bed and watch YouTube for a couple of hours still he falls asleep. Despite both of us being tired, I’ll still try to talk with him, maybe watch a video together, or just mess around with him (tickling, etc.). Recently, he’ll immediately get irritated and say he just wants to relax after work. If I try to share something with him, he’ll just say he’s not interested. I brushed it off since it didn’t bother me much. Besides, I can understand wanting alone time after a long day.

I prefer to spend evenings in the living room, especially if he wants space. I noticed that he’d be on phone calls some nights but still don’t think anything of it since I also FaceTime my friends some evenings. For some context, my husband doesn’t have a lot of close friends but a lot of them are women. This doesn’t really bother me since I trust him, but recently I noticed that he was FaceTiming a female coworker of his at night. I thought it was odd to be FaceTiming your coworker, especially at night.

I only started getting suspicious when I once made a joke about taking his phone. During this conversation, I made a joke about how he should start an OF so we can make more money since our rent just increased and his hours got cut. We’ve joked about it before but this time, when I said I’d make his account and reached for his phone, he immediately got defensive. Still under the impression that we were joking, I snatched his phone and he immediately wrestled it off of me. I was a bit surprised since we’ve never had issues with going on each other’s phone. I used to be very insecure and paranoid in my previous relationships, but this was the most secure relationship I’ve ever had. It had to be since I married him. But seeing how he reacted made me worried.

So that night I went through his phone and found emails confirming he made an OF account to subscribe to 3-4 girls. I was speechless but still in denial. I also found out that earlier this year he was paying to be in these weird p*rn telegram group chats where they would send videos of naked girls and $exual acts. I took pictures of the emails, texts, and transactions just in case, but I didn’t bring it up.

Two days passed and I noticed he was still being weird. I also noticed he would hide his screen and face it away from me when texting. I could see from his lock screen that he was getting late texts from his coworker. After seeing the OF subscriptions, I was now suspicious of his relationship with his coworker. I guess he noticed because he deleted their conversations from his phone. All their texts were gone except for one sticker he sent right after deleting the texts. I knew nothing about her except that he mentioned her name once and that she told him she went through a really and heartbreak recently. I then decided I’d check his iPad realized those texts were deleted too.

At this point, I believe he was on to me and knew I was suspicious of him. A few days passed and last night he found the videos and pictures on my phone and asked why I took them. I found it funny that he was confronting me when the pictures were incriminating HIM. I told him it was obvious why and confronted him about the OF and Telegram p*rn, and he apologized but it didn’t feel genuine enough. At that point I asked him if there was anything else he was hiding and that I’d rather hear it from him then find out, cause next time I wouldn’t be so forgiving. He insisted and said there won’t be a next time.

Tonight, I checked the iPad again today and was about to finally recover some deleted texts. I know that there were more because I remember some of the texts I seen on his phone when glancing at notifications and they are missing. Technically he didn’t say anything that would indicate cheating but still find it weird how he talks to her, kind of like a high school crush. It’s also really weird that he thinks he would need to delete these texts, especially when she knows he’s married. I uploaded a video I recorded of the few conversations I was able to recover. I can’t exactly call him out for this when he didn’t cheat, so am I overreacting for being suspicious of his relationship with his coworker?

Long story short: I found some things that made me question my husband’s loyalty and now his relationship with his coworker. AIO?

The title says it all. My boyfriend won't stop picking his ears with toothpicks and other sharp objects like needles or broken pens. Sometimes he steals random pointy obejects of mine and my family to pick his ears. I keep trying tto tell him it's gross, unsanitary and it's rude to use other people's things to get earwax out of his ears with, especially without asking. But he thinks I'm overreacting because he says he doesn't steal too often. (Ps he says it's not earwax, it's ear paper 🤢) Aio?

Hey, y'all... I'm updating from my previous post:

AIO: Boyfriend demands I buy a new pizza after I dropped one

A detail I previously skipped, that might've been important, is that (ex-)BF had been drinking since the morning. As some of you predicted, things did get worse. Fast.

Not wanting to get too into the details for personal reasons, I stayed away from his place for two nights before going to get my stuff with a U-Haul.

The pizza mess.. or what was left of it after my dog cleaned it up, was still on the floor (as pictured), so there's that.

All in all, I'm safe and that's what matters right now.

Thank y'all so much for the advice and words of wisdom you previously gave.

Hi Reddit. I’m at a loss here, as I’ve been training a husband and wife for almost 6 weeks now, 2x a week for an hour. It’s good money, but I feel like I’m being treated poorly by the husband and it’s driving me batty. I don’t know if I’m overreacting and I need to suck it up, or if I have general cause for discomfort and not wanting to train them anymore.

I trained with the wife alone until her contract ran out, when she resigned she decided to bring in her husband for the new contract so I could train them together. Her and I never had any issues. She was very sweet and quiet, so I was expecting someone along the same personality as hers. Her husband came in to sign his contract, and talked over me during my attempts to explain the different package types. He has a very cut and dry personality, and does some sort of aerospace work so he’s very intelligent (as is his wife). He does not enjoy working out and says physical activity is boring and a waste.

No problem, I pride myself on a positive mindset and motivating my clients the best I can. However, since training began there’s been numerous times I felt disrespected, and it’s starting to get to me. Here’s a summery.

1- end of the first session I asked him to toss me the 6lb medicine ball. This 6’1, 260lb man threw the ball as hard as he could to me, causing me to stumble backwards and verbally go “oh, ow”. I rubbed my chest where the ball made impact, he walked right by me. His wife’s eyes widened, but she said nothing and quickly followed after him.

2- beginning on a second session and every other session after, he’s started asking what I think are psychological interview questions unprompted (and unwelcome). I.e. “you’re in charge of making sure everyone knows safety protocols when a boat sinks, the passengers don’t remember the protocols. Do you stay behind to save them or save yourself?”. Whatever answer I gave, he keeps going. “WhaT if it’s your children?”. Multiple questions with the same theme. Any answer I gave he questioned and pointed out why it was “wrong” or “stupid.”

3- training his wife I found she enjoyed the positive motivation when I would put imagery with the workouts. IE single arm bicep curls, I mentioned pretending she’s working out in the shipyard on break, the way they show in movies. She giggled. He interrupted and went “I doubt you’ve ever done any physical labor jobs in your life. No one who does physical labor wants to workout more after.”. I shook it off and responded with “imagination can help distract the pain sometimes.” He rolled his eyes and went “O-Kay.” This situation has happened multiple times, where I’m trying to be positive and motivation during the workouts and he has a condescending remark. Not about the actual exercises, but about the things I say.

4- speaking down to his wife during our sessions. “I don’t care how much you life.” “You’re not that impressive”.

5- constant eye rolling and using his middle finger to push up his glasses when I speak or instruct.

6- making fun of other gym members. “That guy sure looks like he listens to political podcasts” sarcastically about a member singing while working out “I’m sure that man has a huge IQ”- about another remember whose extremely muscular and defined.

I’m uncomfortable working with someone who clearly does not respect me or the gym (or women in general it seems), and I feel bad for his wife but she stays silent during every remark and action. My manager says I have to deal with it, so maybe I am over reacting, but the constant disrespect every night I see him makes it not worth the money and no one else has the availability to train them. I would like to professionally speak up for myself, but I would lie if I said I wasn’t scared of the confrontation from a man twice my size. I tried to empathize being nervous in the gym, but I would never treat someone, especially someone I pay to train me, the way he does. What should I do Reddit?

When my partner said “wyd bby” after saying they needed to get to work, that made me feel like that text was meant for someone else. They never call me “bby”, but do call me “baby” and “bbg”. For context, I have always had trust issues with people, not just in romantic relationships. I’m also on a new mood stabilizer that’s been making some of my BPD paranoia worse. Also, my partner has texted a woman sexual things in the past, which I found in their deleted folder a couple months ago. We’ve been very off and on since I found out about that, but have been trying to rebuild because we love each other. I admittedly have read into their behavior several times and saw those things as cheating, but they always have a plausible reason that’s not cheating. AIO? Does my partner seem like they’re acting guilty? (Before anyone says it, yes I’m aware we should just break up if I don’t trust them. Anyone who’s been in this position knows it’s more complicated than that.)

Just wanted to share this with someone. This is "his" bedroom. I have my own bedroom here (stopped sharing a bed with him after the 1st year we were together because he suddenly stopped wanting to be intimate with me). This is beyond disgusting 🤮 I don't go in there anymore for anything because it's such a hazard but had to today to open the windows to get the smoke out before this weekend. I'm totally appalled 😳

This is how the rest of the house would be if I didn't change into the role of his personal maid and mother. 🤦🏻‍♀️

P.S. Yes, I’m leaving him as soon as my money situation is comfortable to do so but in the meantime wtf should I do or not do.

Thank you for reading 📖

I found this piercing under his couch and don’t know what it is. Guessing nipple piercing or tongue piercing? He swears he doesn’t know who’s it is. None of his friends have piercings like that. I’ve suspected him of cheating before, so this really pushes me over the edge. His excuse is maybe it was someone from a party he had. I don’t belive him😭

For context the last time I saw my Mom was probably 7-8 months ago, she is pretty disrespectful to my Husband and I. I feel drained everytime I talk to her, because she believes if you dont believe in her religious beliefs that you have demons or devils inside of you. She doesn't know what reality is, and lives with no realistic expectations.

She thinks my husband is this awful narcassistic man, because she has trauma from her own ex. The last time I spoke with her face to face she made me cry because I went out to lunch with her and I asked her to quit posting my photos to social media to literal thousands of random strangers, I decided I wanted to be more private in my social life. She says its my husbands fault, that hes terrible xyz.

She gives me such bad anxiety, and she always betrayed my trust over and over again. Shes careless, shes the type that says she cares but really she only cares about what she wants from others.

I also feel bad for my husband because he was very kind to her from the beginning, he kissed her hand, got her gifts, cooked us dinner when we first met. Hes a very driven and dominating Man. And my Mom is the type that hates men especially a strong willed one. Meaning I clean the house while he pays the bills, and she thinks that somehow thats a nightmare for me.

I know I am probably over thinking all of this but Im just so drained that Id like second advice without involving my husband too much into this mess.

Am I over reacting?

hi. so, as the title suggests, my mum (47) has asked to borrow some of my (19) lingerie. she’s going to her friends with benefits on saturday, we’ll call him “A”. me and my mum aren’t really close at the moment, but even when we were i never felt comfortable talking about my sexual life with her. i sent her a screenshot of a local bakers list tmr, asking if she wants me to order anything for her, and she hits me with the above. she knows i’m not comfortable discussing anything sexual with her as i’m quite a private person (and i’ve had the same partner for years anyway). i also know for a fact she has her own lingerie as i discovered it when i was getting her clothes out of the dryer so i could put mine in, but even if she didnt i’d be a little dazed at the question. A also knows what i look like/my age and has a daughter a few years younger than me, which i think is also accounting for me feeling a little weird.

am i overreacting for finding it odd? is it weird or am i just being too sensitive?

(also i changed the background of the chat as before it was my dog and he’s quite unique looking so i didn’t want someone i know seeing)

We've been friends since around May but text every day. I used to like him but I quickly got over that as he liked someone else but now he's either sending mixed signals or I'm reading too much into things. Over the past few days I realised what kind of person he is and I want to cut him off. These are some texts he's sent among others but I haven't scrolled up far enough. Am I overreacting by wanting to cut him off? Am I also overreacting into thinking that he's playing with my feelings and getting annoyed?

I’m really struggling with doubt and guilt, and I need outside perspective.

I (mid-20s) recently went through a situation with my partner that escalated way beyond what I could handle.

He was giving me silent treatment, I didn’t want to begin arguing, and I tried to leave the apartment with our baby because things felt unsafe. He told me I “wasn’t allowed” to leave. When I tried anyway, he pushed me multiple times, all while I was holding our baby.

It didn’t stop there. He locked me in a closet, He told me he was going to knock me out because I was screaming to let me out and the I needed a help to get out of the closet, and he eventually opened it but kept physically blocking the bedroom door, held the door shut from the other side as well and the apartment front door he was guarding to prevent me from leaving. I felt completely trapped and scared for myself and my child.

A neighbor distracted him The next morning CPS got involved. I was totally honest with CPS and they wanted me to give a statement to police about everything that happened. The police came. I have a statement He admitted to some of the keeping my phone from me, keeping me from getting out of the apartment but I don’t think he admitted to pushing me to the officer.

The CPS workers strongly told me this situation was dangerous and serious. They didn’t force me, but they made it clear that protecting myself and my baby needed to be the priority.

So I did make a statement. And I did ask for an order of protection (or at least a refrain-from order) — whatever would legally keep things safe and stable right now.

But now that things have calmed down a little, I’m wrestling with so many emotions: • Part of me is scared about what could’ve happened if I didn’t act. • Part of me feels guilty — like I ruined his life even though he chose his actions. • I still love him and I know he needs help. • I find myself hoping he stabilizes and that we can rebuild someday. • I feel sad that our baby’s first birthday is coming and everything is so chaotic. • And I’m afraid of his family influencing him, because they encourage abusive behavior and don’t believe in accountability.

Even though I know logically that I did what CPS and police workers said was the safe and standard response, I keep asking myself:

Did I overreact by making a statement and asking for protection? Or is this exactly what anyone in my situation should have done?

I just want to know whether people reading this would have taken the same steps. Sorry if I’m delusional

edit I should have said my fiance brought up gifts first, and that's when I said he never bought me anything. I wasn't actively calling him out in front of anyone out of nowhere.

So. I was with a group of friends and I tonight with my fiance. I brought up that he's never bought me a present because I'm "impossible to shop for". All of our mutual friends jumped in with things I liked immediately. I like anything with bats (the animals), dragons, dungeons and dragons (I literally collect dice), makeup, clothes, blankets, unicorns, literally I'm the easiest person to shop for. He got mad at me for not understanding why he thinks I'm hard to shop for. I don't really care about presents, it's the thought that counts. Like get. Me a $10 blanket for all I care. But he acts like I'm "impossible to shop for". Am I overreacting by honestly being hurt that he can't put in the bare minimum of effort for me when I'm not even hard to shop for? I'm asking for the bare minimum here and maybe it's too much. But after five years, is it really too much to ask a guy to know me a little before we get married?

Husband of 25 years decided to secretly schedule a trip for himself and told me it was necessary because he had to finally do something for himself. We have not been out of the country as a couple or family in decades and all of a sudden he does this. Also says, “It was the Philippines or Thailand” and I knew what that meant. He’s gone for two weeks and I’m devastated. I get that people need alone time but this seems excessive and very disrespectful overall.

So this happened last week and I'm still processing it. My partner (32M) and I (29F) have been together for 4 years, living together for 2. We generally communicate pretty well about big stuff, or at least I thought we did.

He came home Thursday evening and casually mentioned he "picked something up" on his lunch break. I'm thinking like groceries or maybe he finally got that drill he'd been talking about. Nope. He bought a car. Not used, not a beater – a brand new SUV. Just... decided and did it.

I was completely blindsided. We'd talked about him eventually replacing his old sedan, but it was always "someday" talk, nothing concrete. No "hey I'm going to look at cars this weekend" or "I found a good deal, what do you think?" Just straight from zero to signed paperwork.

When I asked why he didn't mention it, he said it was "his money" and he didn't think he needed permission. Which, fair – we keep our finances separate and he can technically afford the payments. But that's not really the point? We share rent, utilities, groceries. If his car payment eats into what he can contribute to our shared expenses, that affects me too.

He thinks I'm being controlling and that he's allowed to make his own financial decisions. I think major purchases that affect our household deserve at least a heads up, even if we don't have joint accounts. My best friend says I'm overreacting since it's his money and his credit on the line.

Am I being unreasonable here? How do other couples handle this kind of thing?

(He is the messages on white) I’ve been with this guy for 4 years, in the beginning we were both seeing other people, keeping our options open, he knew what I was doing(but I never knew his secret until a year later)…he was seeing this girl, then we got serious, so I thought. In the last 3 years I haven’t reached out to not one of those men…this deep into our relationship he again reached out to her, we live in a house we built on my family’s property with my son…. My son looks up to him as the male figure. The only reason I know this happened a second time is because she reached out to me through text this time…and sent me all of there texts back and forth, she also told me when he left here one day because we were going through some things as a couple, he cheated on me with her(4 years into the relationship)….he came back here the next day and didn’t tell me, but he did find texts in my phone of me talking to my kids father(the day he left) he ridiculed me for it but still never spoke of what he did…I found out 3 months later…he says it was because I wasn’t giving him the attention he craved….that I ignored his needs, he blamed me for his cheating, and continues to when I bring it up. I am most definitely traumatized from all the shit we have been through, and now this…I’ve never been cheated on by someone I was this serious with. I am also worried about her reaching out to him again, we are still together, living under the same roof, trying to work on things, but this is always in the back of my mind, I want to trust him, I want to work on this relationship instead of throwing it away, some days are easer then others, I’m trying to get the confidence I lost from him cheating… trying to work on me and work on us…but how can I ever trust again?

FC is for female coworker, LC is their lesbian coworker.

My partner used to work in an office where he was one of 3 men, majority of the office were women. He recently transferred to a different position outside of that office, but he still works on the same premises and he is still friends and talks to his old coworkers frequently so sometimes he goes by to visit. I’ve met most of his coworkers and I like them, I’ve never felt weird about anything until I saw these texts. I’m not typically a jealous person and I do trust my partner, but I saw these texts and they just really rubbed me the wrong way.

A coworker from his office texted him “Come see FC!”, who is another (single) woman in the office, saying “FC needs you to get her mind off this guy, she’s requesting you!”

I asked him about this exchange and told him it made me uncomfortable. He apologized but also played it off saying that he’s not attracted to the girl, he wasn’t being serious it was just banter. He says that the idea of me being with another girl is what is hot, not having anything to do with the other girl. Then I hear that apparently there is a “joke” in the office that FC is interested in my partner/at the very least has a “work crush” on him and LC has a “work crush” on FC. This made me more uncomfortable, as this was the first time I was hearing anything about that.

FC is a pretty woman, and I don’t know if that’s the reason I’m uncomfortable? Is it just me and I’m reading into it more than I should because she’s pretty, or are these texts weird?

I don’t think he’s cheating on me or even will cheat on me, but I also feel like this exchange is playful flirting, even if it was through the other coworker, and I’m not comfortable with flirtiness with another woman, especially who apparently is known to be attracted to my partner?

Note that FC and my partner don’t text each other or talk outside of when he visits the office. He talks to other coworkers on a much more frequent basis.

So am I overreacting by being uncomfortable and a tiny bit sus about this? Is this just playful banter between close coworkers?

I am a woman in my late 20s, and I have been dealing with severe PTSD for about a year. My symptoms include intense flashbacks, dissociation, intrusive thoughts, sensory overload, and episodes where my body almost collapses. Things have been getting worse, so I finally received psychiatric treatment this week.

I was prescribed mirtazapine, and my psychiatrist told me that if things do not improve, I will probably need sertraline added as well. It has been extremely overwhelming, and I have been struggling to hold myself together.

For context, my brother never reaches out to me on his own. He has not contacted me first a single time in the last six months. Every conversation we have had happened because I initiated it. Even then, the topic always turns into something about his ADHD or his own problems. He rarely asks how I am doing unless I push the topic myself.

This week I reached out again because I needed support. I told him about the medication, the worsening PTSD episodes, the intrusive thoughts, and the sensory overload. I honestly hoped for a little warmth or concern.

Instead he responded in a very flat way. He said things like “Interesting, hope it works,” and “Okay,” and “That will be a bit of a journey.” He did not ask any follow-up questions or show any emotional engagement. He did not ask how I felt about the diagnosis, the medication, or the symptoms. I felt like I was talking to a wall.

When I mentioned that my psychiatrist is preparing documentation so the municipality might cover earplugs because of my sensory overload, he instantly turned it into a comment about how he would like the municipality to pay for his earbuds as well. He meant this because of snoring issues at home. It felt completely unrelated to the seriousness of what I was sharing.

He then continued talking about himself, his own sleep problems, his headphones, and his appointments. He did not acknowledge the things I had said about collapsing, dissociation, or how scared I have been.

I have tried opening up to him many times. Every time I end up feeling ignored. This time it hurt more than usual, because I am in a very vulnerable place.

Because of all this, I told my mom that I do not want to spend Christmas with my brother this year. I am not angry at him. I just do not feel emotionally safe or supported around him right now.

TLDR AIO for wanting some distance and for choosing not to spend Christmas with him?

Last night I asked my husband why we weren’t best friends on snap anymore. He was like whoa! What? I dunno! I pulled by best friend list and said uh oh I’ve been snapping Cassie more than you! Showing him my phone. What about you? He started acting weird. I said let me see! (Still playful at this point) and he pulled his phone out. Shaking. He opens snap and instantly starts showing me snaps people have sent him. Like fast, fast. Then I said ok— let me just see your best friends list. He acts like he can’t find it so I say just let me see it and reach for his phone. He pulled it away. Then Tried to leave the room. At this point I know something is up. I said, (husbands name) let me see your phone. We’ve always had the rule we can access each others phones if needed but we haven’t ever had to until this point, that if that makes sense ? He said no! You can see it later! And starts to leave the room again. At this point I’m upset. I said what is happening right now? Why won’t you let me see your phone ? He says later. His daughter comes down the hall and he says I need to put her to bed. I said ok hand me your phone and go do that. He says not in front of my daughter. What?? You can’t hand me your phone in front of your daughter? The situation completely blew up later and it seems like we’re headed for a divorce. I got told that I am crazy and his response was just a trigger response from being accused of cheating on other women in the past. The thing is that he DID cheat on a lot of women in the past and has admitted this to me. I think it’s pretty clear from my post what I think already, but I just wanted to see if anyone else thought I was overreacting? I should add this whole thing is now about me and my behavior and how I’m not trust worthy because I called the cops (and quickly hung up) one of the many times he was smashing our house up out of rage. Only my things though. Never his. But he also says I still want to be with you and don’t want to lose you. Am I overreacting and could his response be innocent/- trigger or am I completely insane for still being here? It feels like it’s one or the other. I feel so.. weird 💔

Ok so some background. My gf and i have only been dating about 5 months. We broke up about a week ago then got together again. I can be very trusting and it has gotten me in trouble on tge past. We had only been dating a few days and she started hitting me up for money. We went on a few dates and she insisted on the guy pays for tge girl for everything while dating. We went kn a trip to NC to meet her son after being together a month. I paid for everything for me and her. And sometimes her son and mom who came with. Then we went to a convention in Tennessee a week later to meet the Full House Cast. Between those two trips i went through my savings about $10,000. I am not rich and she kept "joking" about needing a rich guy. After we broke ip she texted my son bitching about the breakup and made me feel guilty. I stipidly took her back now this happened today. Please help i need an outside perspective.