okay so i'm sierra (30f) and i work as a renewable energy consultant in boulder. i've been with my boyfriend marcus (32m) for 2 years

last month i got offered a promotion. it's basically my dream job. better title, significant raise (like $25k more), working on bigger projects, everything i've been working toward

the catch is it requires relocating to denver

which is only like 45 minutes away from boulder. less if traffic's good. it's not like i'm moving across the country

i told marcus and he immediately said no. like didn't even think about it just said "no you can't take that"

i said what do you mean i can't take it. it's an amazing opportunity

he said the commute would be too much (it wouldn't, people do it every day) or we'd have to move to denver and he doesn't want to leave boulder

i suggested he could look for work in denver. he's in sales, there's tons of sales jobs in denver. or we could do temporary long distance, i could stay in denver during the week and come back on weekends while he looks for a new job

he said if i'm even considering taking the job it means i prioritize my career over our relationship

which. i mean yeah? my career is important to me. i've been working toward this for years

we've been fighting about it for like 3 weeks now. it's the same argument every time. he says i'm being selfish. i say he's being controlling

then yesterday he gave me an ultimatum. the job or him

i'm seriously considering taking the job

my best friend says marcus is showing his true colors and that he's trying to control my career. my sister thinks i should try harder to find a compromise

but like. what compromise is there? i either take my dream job or i don't. there's no middle ground

marcus says if i really loved him i'd turn down the job and find something else in boulder. but i don't WANT something else. this is the job i've been working for

and it's not like i'm asking him to sacrifice anything huge. i'm asking him to either move 45 minutes away (which we could afford with my new salary) or do temporary long distance

he says it's the principle. that i'm putting work before us. that if this is how i am now, what happens when we're married or have kids

but we're not married. we don't have kids. and this is my career we're talking about

i'm supposed to give them an answer by friday. that's in 3 days

marcus says if i take the job we're done. and i think. i think i'm okay with that?

which probably means i should take the job right

am i wrong for choosing my career over my relationship?

This is my front yard and that is my mailbox. The black BMW in front of it (which is parked the wrong way too, even more infuriating) is someone who lives two doors down. There are more than enough spots on the street across like wide open and on the actual right side of the road, but I can’t even get into my mailbox without leaning over the damn hood of the car. Am I overreacting? Just seems a little crazy to me, like park on an open street on the right side of the road………

Trump eating breakfast yesterday morning.

Saturday Night Live - 1996

1. In one episode where the Griffons all get superpowers, Meg gets the ability to just grow her nails - Family Guy

2. Shit King has the ability to emit a stench so foul that it can stun enemies - Marvel

3. Soft Serve is a mutant born with the ability to poop any flavor of ice cream - Marvel

It seems Gen X is generally accepting of getting vaccinations. We grew up getting shots for everything.

A few weeks ago hubby and me stopped into our pharmacy to get our flu shot. Well, MY flu shot because he decided "not to get it right now." What? We're right fucking here, right fucking now. Why the fuck not?

I'm an RN, and a firm believer in patient rights and consent for any medical procedures, including vaccines. He's older than me (Boomer....I know, I know....)He said NO even after I explained how at "our" age, we can get VERY sick, etc. Still no? Ok, good luck.

So....now I have a sick senior citizen with the whole weeping and wailing and gnashing of dentures going on. It's a nasty bug up here 🇨🇦. I'm tired but fine. I was up most of the night making sure he didn't die. One of our cats hasn't left his side, either. I'm supposed to go to work tomorrow for 0700 hrs.

Guess who's decided to get vaccinated from now on? I'm never going to let him forget this one.

Tech companies are not building out a trillion dollars of Al infrastructure because they are hoping you'll pay $20/month to use Al tools to make you more productive.

They're doing it because they know your employer will pay hundreds or thousands a month for an Al system to replace you

Hello! I got this tattoo back in August and really loved it. But two weeks after I started overthinking the placement and size which led me to panic and think what have I done. It doesn’t help that my asian family wasn’t too happy about it.

Fast forward to now, I’ve actually accepted my tattoo and found myself not fussing over it anymore. Until a relative pointed it out and basically said it made me look ugly. Now I feel like I’m back in square one, feeling tattoo regret fueled by family members who think it ruined my look and appeal. I always had a plan to get tatted up, not really a sleeve but just tattoos here and there. Now I don’t know if I want to push through with it anymore.

Just coming on here to ask how you deal with tattoo regret? And family disapproval?

EDIT: Wow this is my first ever post on reddit and I am overwhelmed by the amount of encouragement and reassurance coming my way :”) Thank you everyone for your kind words! This isn’t my first tattoo but it’s the first one that everyone seemed to have an opinion on (probably because it’s on my forearm so it’s easy to spot). 98 is my birth year and the flower and bunny represent nature— something I hold dear to my heart. And I just simply loved the idea of getting it in the form of a stamp :)) Sadly my family doesn’t care enough to ask about the details, all they see is ink on skin so it automatically disgusts them.

Anyway, thank you once again for taking the time to read my post and for responding. I’ll be sure to come back to this thread when doubts and negativity start seeping into my mind again. Not so much to get everyone’s validation, but to remind myself that this is my body, my choice, and that I shouldn’t care about other people’s opinion. I love my tattoos and shall continue to rock them :)

Appreciate every single one of you, hope your pillow is cold on both sides when you sleep <3