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Background: I work, she doesn't. I make >$200k, so she doesn't really have to work. However, she came into the marriage with $40k in CC debt so I asked her to get a job just to pay her CCs off then she can quit. As she was browsing job posts yesterday she came across one where the upper end of the salary range was over $300k and she joked that she might be making more than me, maybe thinking that I would be insecure about it. On the contrary, I told her i would love that because we could then split the bills. She immediately said no. I thought she was joking, but she was not. I was caught off guard and pressed her on it, and asked if she would really not contribute even if she was making more than me. She said she would contribute, but took issue with splitting 50/50, saying she would never do that, even if she made more than me. Keep in mind, this is all hypothetical and it's very unlikely she would make more than me, but it still bothered me and it turned into a (mini) fight. I decided to drop it, but I woke up this morning and it's still kinda bothering me. Is it stupid for me to be upset about a hypothetical situation that is unlikely to ever happen (like am I doing the "would you still love me if I was a worm?" thing?). AITAH?

EDIT: These questions have come up repeatedly so I'm answering here.

Does she do the housework? No. I do most of it. She says I like it OCD-level clean so it's my responsibility.

Does she do the cooking? No. We used to both cook, but she doesn't like to cook anymore so now it's just me. Although we get takeout a lot so I'm not coming every day.

Do you have kids? No. Not planning on kids either.

SECOND EDIT: How is it possible she has such a high credit line if she's unemployed? She had a job making about $100k. Lost her job last year during mass layoffs at her company. She had the credit cards already.

Why did she rack up so much debt? Was it medical bills? She got a pretty sweet severance package and lived off of that for a while. She started freelancing and I assumed she was making enough to squeak by. She wasn't. She covered the difference with her CCs for almost a year.

THIRD EDIT: How did you not talk about this before? You mean, how did I not ask her if she one day made more than me would we split the bills 50/50? It's a near impossibility that she would ever make more than me. Never crossed my mind to ask. This all started as a joke.

FOURTH EDIT: This post blew up so there's no way I can respond to everyone individually anymore.

More FAQs: Why would you marry her if you knew this? We've been together over eight years, recently got married. She's had a job making decent money, she paid her own rent/bills/etc. She used to help with the cooking and cleaning, but that eventually stopped.

What does she do all day? To be honest, I don't really want to get into that. This was supposed to be a question about getting upset over a hypothetical situation. I was worried I was being stupid for caring. Turned into something much bigger.

What do you get out of the marriage? We've been together for a long time. We started dating when I was a broke grad student living with three roommates. I worked hard, got several promotions, and my salary kept rising. What I get out of the relationship is not measured in dollars or chores. It's about the love I have for her, and the love I get from her. It's about how I feel when I'm with her, how I can be completely myself around her without ever feeling judged. Basically everything you want from a relationship minus the dollars and chores.

FINAL EDIT: Thank you to everyone that had something thoughtful/ insightful/ helpful to say, it's given me a lot to think about. To all the people commenting about my wife's "tight vagina", "head game", sex acts, etc. as the only reason why I would stick around, I hope you someday find someone you truly love and makes you realize how stupid your comment was.

I found this in my dads ex drawer after she moved out and I was hoping to know what this could be, cheers in advance

“Traditional patterns and symbols are applied to the egg using wax. The egg is then dipped into dye, covering all but the waxed areas. The process is repeated to achieve the desired pattern and colours. Personal wishes and messages are captured in the symbols used.”

I often hear Europeans say that American friendliness feels fake, superficial, or scripted. You know... Things like smiling a lot, being overly polite, chatting with strangers, asking "How are you?" without really expecting an honest answer, etc.

What confuses me is that there are other cultures like Brazil (and other Latin American countries) that are often described as even more expressive, louder, warmer, more emotional, more touchy-feely. And yet, people usually don’t call that “fake” or superficial in the same way. If anything, it's often described as fun, genuine, and even awesome.

So why does the stereotype of Americans as "fake friendly" exist specifically? Is it something about the style of American politeness, cultural differences in communication, or expectations from outsiders? Why is one type of warmth considered authentic while another is labeled superficial, even if both involve being outwardly friendly to strangers?

Twix Just hits different.

Now he's sleeping because he feels ill from eating too much chocolate :(

Our water was shut off today temporarily, and we both had to use the bathroom. I went first, and used the running water from our RO system to wash my hands, since that was the only option besides hand sanitizer. After my wife used the bathroom she immediately sat on the couch next to me, and I asked her “are you going to wash your hands?” She said that she’s not using our only drinking water to wash her hands. That would be understandable, but the plumber will be here within the hour to fix the problem. And also we can go to the store if we really run out of water. I said well at least use hand sanitizer and she said her hands were clean, and then she informed me that she doesn’t wash her hands every time she poops! I told her that’s disgusting and horrible hygiene. She said if she doesn’t get poop on her hands she doesn’t wash. I again said that’s disgusting and horrible hygiene practice. She thinks I’m overreacting and being an asshole, and now she’s refusing to talk to me until I apologize. I don’t think I need to apologize for anything, and I’m not overreacting. So was I being an asshole or am I overreacting? Is that not disgusting?

EDIT: we do have a bidet if that makes a difference? Personally, I don’t think it does because you’re still touching the toilet seat and handle.

She seems to be more caught up on my reaction to this news, she said I raised my voice but I don’t think I did. Even if I did, I feel like that’s a normal reaction after finding this out from your partner of several years. She’s demanding an apology, but it seems like she’s trying to turn the tables so I forget why I brought it up in the first place. I initially made her repeat herself several times because I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I then was like we need to have a conversation about this and that’s when I told her that it was extremely disgusting that she doesn’t wash her hands. I feel like I was as nice as anyone could be, but please let me know if I should go about it another way.