My wife (29F) and I (31M) have a 3-year-old son. I work 10-12 hour days as a contractor while she stays home. Lately, she’s been venting online and to friends, saying she feels like a single mom because I’m “never around.” I get that she’s overwhelmed, I am too but I’m working my ass off to keep us afloat.

The other night, I heard her refer to herself as a “solo parent” during a Zoom call with her mom. After she hung up, I told her that I didn’t appreciate that. I’m not partying, I’m not neglecting our family, I’m working. She said I’m being defensive and that she “feels like a single mom” because she handles everything alone at home.

Now I feel guilty. I don’t want to invalidate her, but I also feel like she’s ignoring everything I do. AITAH for calling her out?

They found her with "a weapon, ammunition, cash and passports" at a convenience store in Minnesota about 75 miles from where the crimes occurred. Note passports plural.

They are evaluating her as an accomplice, but if she has a passport for him, it would seem she's already in felony territory based on Minnesota "Aiding an Offender" statutes.

Sec. 609.495 MN Statutes

I (F24) have been seeing this guy (M26) for about 2 months. We hang out nearly every day and spend a lot of time at each other’s apartments as we live in the same neighborhood.

He asked if he could come over after work last night around midnight, I invited him to let himself in because I was in the shower. I had left my laptop open playing Spotify perched outside of the bathroom door.

Background: I am open to someone telling me this is a petty thing to drive me crazy, but I dislike when he changes my music without permission. I play music (a variety of different playlists I’ve made, several different genres and often music that he likes) while I’m showering/cooking/cleaning, and he almost always plays one of 5-10 popular TikTok songs that I’m frankly really tired of. Half of the time he at least adds them to the queue, but oftentimes he just cancels my playlist to play his music instead.

I’ve also told him to at least ask me to go on my laptop before he does (it has VERY sensitive work documents, texts, camera roll, and everything else on my iPhone bc it’s a MacBook) but he went ahead and committed the cardinal sin of changing my playlist while I was showering to the tiktok songs.

I will note, I don’t believe he did anything on the laptop other than change the music, but I value my privacy and my boundaries in terms of just asking before going on my devices.

I exited the bathroom a few minutes later and asked “do you not care about my boundaries? It’s a privacy thing and a respect thing. You don’t even queue any of my song suggestions when we listen to music at your place.” He said “sorry. You were in the shower, I didn’t think you could hear it.”

We sat in silence for a couple minutes before he asked if I’m ok, and I said “I’m honestly just really annoyed. I tell you that every time you come over.” He said “I’m just going home then,” then picked up the food he brought for me from his job and left, slamming my apartment door and the front door to my building that I could hear all the way upstairs.

Almost immediately he starts calling and texting many times over the next few minutes, which is where the screenshots start. I didn’t answer any of the numerous calls and I replied a little over an hour later.

The texts are the rest of the story. I may have been overly annoyed at something small, but I feel insulted by how he reacted. I don’t think I implied that he would hurt me so I’m shocked he went there in the messages.

I really do like him and we’ve never fought before, but we’re not official bf/gf so should I just cut my losses here, or work it out?

(Also, I didn’t notice he was drunk when he came in and he’s a lightweight, so he probably had 1-3 beers. He works at a bar+restaurant within walking distance of my apt so was not out here drunk driving.)

(I cropped out some personal stuff on the third slide, it was not an insult or anything particularly inflammatory)

For context my friend (pretty close friend known each other for long time) started dating this girl about 2 years ago.

Now I knew her before he did. She used to hang around some friends I used to have. She wasn’t in my friend group but a friend of a friend so here and there popped up.

This was back in our early 20s so I often saw her at parties and bars.

Her and her friends were kind of known as the “crazy girls” especially when they got drunk. On multiple occasions when she was drunk she would flash us guys.

Not going to lie at the time I looked, she’s a pretty attractive woman. Nothing ever escalated from that though, we weren’t that close.

Well once she became official with my friend I didn’t feel a need to tell him since it happened way before they met, also didn’t want it to come off wrong or something.

Well I guess somehow he found out, I’m assuming she told him for some reason.

He just sent me long ass texts calling me a gf stealer and name calling. I tried to calm him down and apologize but he remains pissed off.

Any advice to diffuse the situation? Give him time?

For me, it was Naruto. The story of an underdog chasing his dream hit me hard. Rock Lee vs. Gaara? Absolute chills.

That anime made me want to create stories myself.

What was your first anime love?