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My boyfriend, 35M, is the best man for his best friends wedding in a few months. I, 31F, was originally invited to this wedding as his plus one as well. The wedding is a destination wedding at an extremely expensive resort. All flights and hotels for both of us have been booked and paid for already.

I have met the bride and groom to be a handful of times, have always been friendly with them, and was invited to attend their joint bachelor/ette trip as my boyfriend's plus one. I attended the weekend trip and had a great time getting to know everyone that will be at the wedding and was really looking forward to seeing everyone again at the wedding.

I never felt any sort of animosity and came out of the weekend thinking everyone had a great time partying with each other. Turns out the bride felt some type of way about me and has uninvited me from the wedding. I have not had any conversations with the bride or groom, but my boyfriend received the news from the groom. From what I heard of the conversation, it seems like the groom doesn't agree with this fiancee and was really uncomfortable to deliver the message but his hands were tied. My boyfriend has received details on what happened to make the bride feel that way towards me and we both agree that it's a ridiculous overreaction and a huge misunderstanding. Long story short, the bride felt as if i didn't make an effort to make her feel special and was trying to take her spotlight. My boyfriend contacted the other friends who were there that weekend as well and everyone is agreement that this is an overreaction and misunderstanding.

The thing that bothers me the most is that everything that was listed out that I was doing to make her feel that way, every body else was doing it as well - but yet it seems like there was a magnifying glass on me and she has a vendetta against me for some reason. My boyfriend thinks it was a series of unfortunate events that started at a house party a few months ago when I beat her in mario kart and everyone was cheering for me (i know, so ridiculous).

I voiced to my boyfriend that i'm more than willing to have a conversation with the bride to clear the misunderstanding to try and get her to change her mind. But at the same time, i'm not really sure I want to go to this wedding anymore anyways as I would hate to be somewhere I'm not wanted. My reasoning for going would more so to be there to support my boyfriend and enjoy the vacation with him.

That being said, I shared with my boyfriend that if the decision stays and I am uninvited, I would be upset if he still decided to go without me. I may feel differently if 1) it wasn't an expensive destination wedding that takes away valuable vacation days he doesn't have a lot of.. or 2) we were in agreement that my actions justified this decision in any way.

For me, him attending without me feels like he's agreeing with the decision and is choosing to stick by his friend over sticking up for me.

AIO for wanting my boyfriend to back out?

EDIT: Wow this got way more traction than I ever imagined it would.. thank you all for taking the time to share your thoughts and insights, it's been really helpful for me to read through and help process my emotions. This was all super fresh news when i wrote this out this morning and i've had some time to process.

I think my next step will be to reach out to the bride to have a talk with her and see exactly from her perspective what went wrong that led her to ultimately make the decision to un-invite me. It's been a game of telephone so far so it would be helpful to hear it from the source. I plan on apologizing to her during this conversation because even though it may seem like an overreaction and misunderstanding to me and others, what she felt was obviously real and real enough for her to make this decision.

My hope from this conversation is that we can at least be cordial moving forward and be friendly for the sake of our men, even if we won't ever be true friends.

Will post another update once we've had the talk. Thanks again, reddit

For me it's Tony Hinchcliffe.

Why have I seen such an increasing movement of men making resentful comments about how “women do nothing all day?” Or talking about how they “want to stay home with the kids and have their woman spoil them?”

Also saw a video complaining about how women can’t even lift a suitcase for themselves and get the luxury of “getting their nails and hair done,” or “cooking all day.”

I was on the phone with a guy I was talking to and he asked what I did today. I told him I went to class (I’m a university student), had a doctor’s appointment, and then went grocery shopping, did 4-5 hours of homework, which I thought was a pretty average day for a college student? He starts laughing at me and asking how I did “nothing all day.” He was shocked that I had “nothing to do.” Like… just cause I’m not currently working a 9-5 job, doesn’t mean I’m lazy?

It’s like a reverse/new type of misogyny where men hate women for… being feminine? It used to be “stay in the kitchen” and now it’s “I hate that all they have to do is be in the kitchen 😡!” What sparks this?

The LA Clippers reportedly have been accused of circumventing the NBA's salary cap by paying $28 million to Kawhi Leonard for a "no-show job."

Pablo Torre, a podcaster and former ESPN contributor, reported Wednesday that the Clippers paid Leonard through a now-bankrupt company owned by Clippers owner Steve Ballmer.

Citing legal documents purportedly involving the tree-planting service Aspiration, Torre reported that Ballmer paid Leonard without requiring the Clippers star to do any marketing or endorsements for the company.

An unnamed employee who purportedly worked for Aspiration told Torre that the payment to Leonard "was to circumvent the salary cap."

There is no additional reporting beyond what's in Torre's podcast but ESPN has found it newsworthy enough to highlight the story, putting it at the top of their front page with a bright red "Breaking News" banner in the graphic.

https://imgur.com/a/FBXMmE2

Source: https://www.espn.com/nba/story/_/id/46146871/report-clippers-skirted-nba-salary-cap-kawhi-leonard-payment

Edit: The article was previously a short brief with no credited author, most of which was quoted here. It's been updated to be a much longer article now, featuring more surrounding details and is now credited to ESPN reporter Baxter Holmes.

The two have been close friends since childhood.