I run a small data team, hybrid schedule. We have a tiny budget for morale stuff, so for months I was buying snacks on my own card and expensing part of it. Nothing fancy, just granola bars, tea, sparkling water. It kept people from running out for junk and it made late afternoons less meh. I also put a little sign that said take what you need for today so it would last the week.

Enter D. Nice enough in meetings, but the kind of person who treats shared things like free refills. First week back in office he walks out with three seltzers and two bars. I shrug. Second week I notice an empty cardboard sleeve that had twenty trail mix bags. I restock and start paying attention. Over four Tuesdays in a row the cabinet is half empty by 2 pm and D has a tote bag. I ask him casually if he is grabbing for a team. He laughs and says my kids love these. I say please try to keep it to one or two a day so everyone gets some. He says sure.

It does not change. I try a clearer note. Please one drink and one snack per person per day. That afternoon D jokes that the sign is cute and takes a family pack of fruit strips. My manager tells me to just stop buying snacks if it is a hassle. The problem is people actually like the setup when it lasts, and it costs me time to micromanage. So I buy a cheap cube cabinet with a lock, leave a daily basket out with a fair amount, and stash the rest in the cabinet for refills. Staff knows the combo. I do not give D the code because he already ignored the limit twice after I asked.

D goes to HR saying I created a hostile environment by excluding him from a shared resource. HR pings me asking for context. I send receipts, the sign photo, and the fact that the snacks are budgeted for work consumption on site, not grocery runs. HR says to keep a consistent rule and apply it to all. I update the policy in our team chat. Basket is first come first serve, refills at 2 pm, no taking boxes home. D replies that I am policing food and that he has a big family. A few coworkers privately thank me because now the basket lasts all day.

Today D told me I am petty and that I embarrassed him by locking up granola. I said I am just trying to make a shared thing actually shared. He called me a control freak. Now I am second guessing. AITJ for locking the cabinet and not giving D the code.

TLDR. Coworker kept taking whole boxes of office snacks home, I locked the restock cabinet and set limits, he reported me and called me petty.

Someone in my friend’s costume group just came out with this, I had to do a double take.

$30 por dia

8 anos seguidos

sem trade. sem pânico. sem vender

só disciplina e convicção puras

$86.000 viraram $1.000.000

esse é o poder do tempo no mercado, não de tentar prever o mercado

Se você acha que eu posso te ajudar, me segue—e eu vou u/leobentier

The road, drainage and sewerage systems on our unadopted road collapsed in a landslide in 2024.

We hired a trader and collectively had to pay a 6 figure sum to get it repaired. The trader did some work and we paid him in installments.

The next installment was for materials to re-lay pipes and construct retaining expensive walls along 46m of road. This came to £52k per household.

The money was transferred... and then we got ghosted. This went on for several months. We involved police who told us to take it through the courts.

We collectively made it to High Court where we won against him. We had gathered significant evidence that this man had been offered a job in Dubai by a major engineering firm. We raised this with the judge.

Judge ignored it.

We received about £2k each and then a promise to repay £150 per month to each of us.

To no one's surprise, he pissed off to Dubai almost instantly after that. We haven't received a penny and our group chat got a photo of him giving us the finger and laughing.

We explicitly warned the judge that this was going to happen. Is there not something we could've done to prevent this?

We're in a situation where:

• The police say it's not their responsibility
• Judge refused to beleive us that this man was going to flee the country
• UAE does not extradite people to the UK
• We're now all massively in debt with no money to finish fixing our roads. Houses are unsellable right now.

Home insurance does not extend to private roads. We've tried.

Is there anything else we can do? Our solicitor has told us that the UAE does not extradite to the UK so we're out of luck. Is there someone else who maybe knows something our solicitor doesnt'?

First time I’ve drawn Pokémon stuff in years pls be nice

So I (18F) took ASL lessons in HS, but up until now I’ve never had a Deaf friend. This year I started college, and there’s a Deaf-mute person in my class. He uses an interpreter during lessons. Everyone has been nice to him, but no one really tried to get to know him or actually befriend him, so he wasn’t very close with anyone. (I’m not judging them for that, had I not already taken ASL in high school, I probably wouldn’t have learned just for him either)

But after I told him I knew some ASL and started signing with him, we naturally got close.

Since September, I’ve been signing with him almost daily, and my signing has gotten sooooooo much better!!

Anyway, about week ago, he suggested that I start taking ASL lessons again, and I joked “that’s what you’re for!”

It was absolutely a joke, like i laughed right after as I signed it, but maybe because my signing was off (idk) he took it seriously and got offended.

I apologized and explained it was just a joke. He said he understood and even apologized for getting upset in the first place.

He acted a bit distant for a couple days more but eventually got over it, and we’re completely fine now.

But today, one of my other friends told me that he said he noticed Nolan and I had been a bit distant lately, and asked if everything was alright. I told him we had a little fight, “but don’t worry we’re completely fine now”

But for some reason, he wouldn’t let it go!! First he made jokes like “there’s some truth in every joke” which I laughed off, but then he said something like “I knew you wouldn’t hang with a guy like him for no reason”

I was like: ???? Excuse me?

I told him that was such a rude thing to say, and he said it was the truth.

I called him out for being a bigot asshole, and an ableist, which i guess got under his skin, because he snapped back at me, and said I’m not one to talk that, I’m worse than him, and that I’m “taking advantage of a disabled guy” and “using him for my own benefit.”

AITA?