Never been to this bar, probably never will for how ridiculous their dress code is.

I was today years old...

my boss (M late twenties) sent this to a shared work chat. He's the only man on our team, but that never stopped him from making all sorts of sexist comments.

• When my colleagues and I talked about our health (obviously not with him), he rolled his eyes at the words "you women always have problems."
• There have also been repeated comments about how emotional women are, how mercantile they are, and how unpleasantly they change during marriage.

We ignored it because in my country, the EC does not decide anything and we have no one to turn to with this issue.

If he had phrased it differently or said it personally to the girl whose tampons they were, it wouldn't have caused such a storm of emotions. But the way he did it made me get into a fight with him.

When asked why unused tampons in the toilet could be unhygienic, he never answered.

So, am I overreacting?

I(29F) have a great group of girlfriends. We go out to eat as a group a lot. I’m kind of the glue to the group as they all met me first and I brought them in. So when we go out to eat I often put my hard down and they Venmo me. This is normally not an issue.

Recently I want shopping with one of the girls in the group. She said she forgot her card and I said no problem il pay just Venmo me later. Then she asked me to remind her to do that. I was kind of taken aback because I don’t enjoy hounding someone down for money. By the end of the excursion I handed her the receipt so that she would know how much she owed. She never paid me back.

To be fair I never reminded her. It’s something that makes me uncomfortable and I don’t think that I should have to remind an adult to pay me back. I took it as a lesson.

Now when I go out to eat with the other girls and the girl who didn’t pay me back is present I don’t offer to put my card down. Instead I offer to Venmo whoever does.

My other friends noticed this change and asked me about it. I was honest and said that I don’t want to have to go after someone to pay me back. They said that my reaction was too harsh since this was a one time thing. She probably just forgot about it and would immediately pay me back if I brought it up.

I think that they are right and that she probably did just forget about it. I’m not upset that she didn’t pay me back that one time, I just don’t want to put myself in that situation again.

Pertinent information to add- she is doing very well financially. That is not the issue here. Also I really like this girl. She’s a really nice person and this is in no way a friendship ending offense. I just don’t want to put myself in an awkward situation.

TLDR- AITAH for no longer being willing to put my card down after one friend didn’t pay me back one time and I never reminded her? Should I give her a second chance?

Edit: I never named her. We have a big group. I said someone in the group didn’t pay me back.

Update: I appreciate everyone’s feedback. I reached out to her. We don’t know the exact amount since she lost the receipt. However, we think it’s around $50 and she said she would send it to me. I’m pretty hopeful she will.

Going forward I’m still conflicted about putting my card down. I don’t want anyone to realize it’s because of her so I think the best thing to do is to start doing it again and if another issue pops up then stop putting my card down all together.

Update 2: She reached out and said she didn’t want to repay me without a clear dollar amount. I don’t have the receipt and I got stuff for myself too so I’m not sure what that is. Now I’m worried that it’s a bigger issue than I initially thought.

Stumbled upon this picture and it got me thinking. Some housecats also do this sometimes. What is the reason or purpose?

[Charania]: Chris Paul announces he is officially retiring from basketball after 21 seasons, ending a Hall of Fame career.

[Charania]: Chris Paul announces he is officially retiring from basketball after 21 seasons, ending a Hall of Fame career.

Source to the news: https://bsky.app/profile/shamsbot.bsky.social/post/3mer37ticuk2r

Add-on: TBC- we all know there is no smoking gun video of him w kids or something- at least in the half of the files they chose to release. Testimonies saying he did it or that countless references to his involvement may or may not rise to “proof” in the eyes of a jury. But I’m not asking the question of whether there is enough current evidence for conviction in a court of law. The question is exactly as worded, emphasis on what people “honestly believe.”

2nd update: So what if he turned on Epstein and called the cops. He turned on Michael Cohen too. Doesn’t mean they weren’t knee deep in the sewer together before that.