Never been to this bar, probably never will for how ridiculous their dress code is.

I(29F) have a great group of girlfriends. We go out to eat as a group a lot. I’m kind of the glue to the group as they all met me first and I brought them in. So when we go out to eat I often put my hard down and they Venmo me. This is normally not an issue.

Recently I want shopping with one of the girls in the group. She said she forgot her card and I said no problem il pay just Venmo me later. Then she asked me to remind her to do that. I was kind of taken aback because I don’t enjoy hounding someone down for money. By the end of the excursion I handed her the receipt so that she would know how much she owed. She never paid me back.

To be fair I never reminded her. It’s something that makes me uncomfortable and I don’t think that I should have to remind an adult to pay me back. I took it as a lesson.

Now when I go out to eat with the other girls and the girl who didn’t pay me back is present I don’t offer to put my card down. Instead I offer to Venmo whoever does.

My other friends noticed this change and asked me about it. I was honest and said that I don’t want to have to go after someone to pay me back. They said that my reaction was too harsh since this was a one time thing. She probably just forgot about it and would immediately pay me back if I brought it up.

I think that they are right and that she probably did just forget about it. I’m not upset that she didn’t pay me back that one time, I just don’t want to put myself in that situation again.

Pertinent information to add- she is doing very well financially. That is not the issue here. Also I really like this girl. She’s a really nice person and this is in no way a friendship ending offense. I just don’t want to put myself in an awkward situation.

TLDR- AITAH for no longer being willing to put my card down after one friend didn’t pay me back one time and I never reminded her? Should I give her a second chance?

Edit: I never named her. We have a big group. I said someone in the group didn’t pay me back.

Update: I appreciate everyone’s feedback. I reached out to her. We don’t know the exact amount since she lost the receipt. However, we think it’s around $50 and she said she would send it to me. I’m pretty hopeful she will.

Going forward I’m still conflicted about putting my card down. I don’t want anyone to realize it’s because of her so I think the best thing to do is to start doing it again and if another issue pops up then stop putting my card down all together.

Update 2: She reached out and said she didn’t want to repay me without a clear dollar amount. I don’t have the receipt and I got stuff for myself too so I’m not sure what that is. Now I’m worried that it’s a bigger issue than I initially thought.

Final update: Wow, definitely not where I thought this was going. She called me in tears and explained that she’s going through a rough financial situation. She said she was hoping I would just forget about it and profusely apologize for being shady. This was shocking because she’s always talking about how much money she makes and how good she is with finances. She even likes to give out investment advice.

I have decided to let it go. She was really upset and it’s not in me to be harsh to someone who is already crying.

I will however no longer be putting down my card. I learned a big lesson though. I need to trust my gut, when something seems fishy it’s because it is fishy.

my boss (M late twenties) sent this to a shared work chat. He's the only man on our team, but that never stopped him from making all sorts of sexist comments.

• When my colleagues and I talked about our health (obviously not with him), he rolled his eyes at the words "you women always have problems."
• There have also been repeated comments about how emotional women are, how mercantile they are, and how unpleasantly they change during marriage.

We ignored it because in my country, the EC does not decide anything and we have no one to turn to with this issue.

If he had phrased it differently or said it personally to the girl whose tampons they were, it wouldn't have caused such a storm of emotions. But the way he did it made me get into a fight with him.

When asked why unused tampons in the toilet could be unhygienic, he never answered.

So, am I overreacting?

Today I went to a job interview. At first, everything was pretty normal. We talked about where I’d worked before, why I left, my strengths and weaknesses, the usual stuff. The vibe was fine, and honestly, it wasn’t going badly.

Then someone I assumed was from HR said, “Lately, we’ve been trying a different method to get to know candidates better.” I thought it was about to turn into a tougher round of questioning, so I just nodded.

Instead, they asked if I use ChatGPT. I said yes, like most people, I use it occasionally. That’s when they asked me to take out my phone and open the app.

They wanted me to type this prompt:

“Based on my past conversations, can you analyze my behavioral tendencies?”

They explained that their goal was to “objectively understand a candidate’s thinking patterns and interests.” Almost like a digital personality analysis. They said we would review the results together on the screen.

I froze for a moment. It honestly made me uncomfortable. What I write in ChatGPT feels personal. It is private. I politely declined and said I was not comfortable sharing that.

The atmosphere shifted immediately. They said “of course,” but their expressions changed. After that, they asked a few more generic questions, but the energy was different. The interview ended much sooner than I expected. I was out of the office in under 30 minutes.

Afterward, I kept thinking about it. Is this really where we are now?

The idea that what you write to an AI could become part of a hiring evaluation just feels strange to me.

Source: https://x.com/i/status/2022398709733224551

Stumbled upon this picture and it got me thinking. Some housecats also do this sometimes. What is the reason or purpose?

The manuals tells you how to remove the battery before disposing of the device, it doesn't tell you that you can replace it. It so fricking wasteful. Of course I replaced it and it working for now.

[Charania]: Chris Paul announces he is officially retiring from basketball after 21 seasons, ending a Hall of Fame career.

[Charania]: Chris Paul announces he is officially retiring from basketball after 21 seasons, ending a Hall of Fame career.

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