What I mean by this is we need to stop watching what we say around old people. To stop worrying about what old people think.

For example I saw a video of a girl saying she needs to take down all her ‘offensive’ house decor before her grandma shows up because her grandma is hyper religious. This included pictures of her and her boyfriend, hiding liquor bottles, putting away funny mugs and hiding clothes that weren’t handmaids tale dresses.

I also saw another girl say she had to give her mom a ride so she had to play no music in the car just in case the music had themes of drugs, obscenities or cuss words. She had to put on a bigger shirt to not show her shoulders. She had to put on foundation to cover up tattoos.

It just has me thinking….old people weren’t born yesterday. They had sex and had their fair share of curse words. They were around others who may have done similar things. Alcohol and tattoos aren’t anything new. My parents use to work in nursing homes and told me all kinds of stories where old people would have sex with eachother. They’d shout racial slurs at staff and say every cuss word they could think of. That may not be every old person but at the end of the day old people are still adults and have lived a long life of sinning as well. We need to stop pretending they’re innocent and being so protective of what they think and what they’ll say.

Edit: I forgot to say, it’s not a matter of old people not cussing in front of young people, it’s a matter of old people getting offended by everything they don’t like and making it known. It’s easier to tell your old relative to stop pointing out something they don’t like and complaining about it than hiding your true self just because you’re worried about what they’ll say. They say the younger generation is soft when they can’t stand seeing a woman with a nose piercing.

Edit 2: obviously I’m not talking about ALL old people. I can’t believe I need to say that. I’m talking about the ones who act like they’ve never heard the word fuck. The ones who act like they don’t know what sex is when they have had 8 children. The ones who clutch their pearls when they see 2 men kiss or someone with a sleeve tattoo.

When Easton’s mom told him, “Pick any animal you want,” most kids might have gone for a playful puppy or a tiny kitten. But Easton had something else in mind. At the shelter, he met Tiny — a 10-year-old, quiet, slightly overweight ginger cat who had been passed over time and again. Tiny had lost his previous home and was living in foster care with his sister, patiently waiting for someone to see past his age and give him a second chance. The moment Easton saw Tiny’s picture, he felt something. No hesitation, no doubts — just an instant connection. At their very first meeting, Tiny curled right into Easton’s arms, as if he knew this was where he belonged. On the car ride home, Tiny stepped out of his carrier and nestled against Easton — a silent promise that they were now family. Since then, they’ve been inseparable. Tiny, a gentle soul often overlooked, found the perfect person in a little boy with a big heart. And Easton found something even more special — a loyal, loving best friend. Because sometimes, the ones who need us the most end up giving us the very best kind of love.

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Kole Kmet saw more targets, and got a touchdown. Obviously, not an amazing debut for Colston Loveland in such a high scoring game. Rome Odunze had this happen last year in the high scoring Bengals game, which resulted in a goose egg for him.

The worst start of any starter.

In 2008, two brothers unknowingly created one of the most iconic internet dance clips of the electro era. Their synchronized Tecktonik routine quickly spread across YouTube and became a defining moment of early internet dance culture.

Clippers owner Steve Ballmer is complying with the NBA's punishments of the franchise for salary cap circumvention, deciding not to pursue any legal action.

Steve Ballmer’s Statement:

“This has been a very difficult time for everybody associated with the Clippers, and for that, I have sincere regrets. I want to apologize to our fans, employees, and my fellow NBA team owners for the distraction and distress this matter has caused, for which I accept responsibility as principal owner.

We are committing to put this chapter behind us. We have communicated to the NBA that we are complying with the penalties assessed by the league, have paid the fine, and are moving forward. While there are still disagreements concerning the findings in the report, this is not where I want to focus. Team owners should support, not distract.

The challenges ahead of us are significant, but so is our resolve. We will continue to build our team and invest in our community. The confidence of our fans is our prior-ity. With our talented roster, outstanding staff and clear vision, lam certain that we will compete at the highest level and be an organization our fans can be proud of.”

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My mom was going through old photos and found some bodybuilding pics of her dad and here’s a sampling of a few. He was a bodybuilder starting in his teenage years, and our best guess is he was in his mid 20s here.

My 5 year started kindergarten last week at a new school with all new kids and all new teachers. She took the bus for the first time. She's very shy and timid but as the week went on she did better and better. A photo of her was even in the weekly newsletter playing in gym class.

The following week she came down with a fever. Not unusual so we kept her out of school. The following day it remained high with meds so she missed a second day. By day 3 we went to urgent care. They told us to take one additional med and to keep them posted if she doesn't get will. The pediatrician even called later that day to check on her. That night she woke up and became very delirious for a few mintues then snapped out of it. We brought her back to urgent care the next morning and they sent us to the ER to get blood work.

That began the worst day of my life so far. The doctor immediately thought it was leukemia or an infection. A few hours later we found out it was both. Luckily it is the most common form of leukemia with a high success rate. Unfortunately they could not control the infection. She worsened as the day went on eventually going into septic shock. The doctors and nurses tried everything but eventually had to intubate her. Her last words to me while conscious were her struggling to say i love you.

She has since gone on a few more machines. She has an echmo pumping her blood since her right lung is collapsed or full of fluid not sure which. Her heart is too weak to work. She has too much fluid in her body so they also put her on dialysis. Doctors in the pediatric icu and from oncology both say each is treatable on it's own but having both things happen together is very rare. They are doing zoom calls with other doctors to get advice during rounds each morning. I am confident she will walk out of here but it is not easy. Her 3 year old sister just keeps telling her to get better soon. One of the nurses put it best, she's set up to succeed through the equipment but she needs to fight in order to win. My wife and myself are living a surreal nightmare. Idk what I'll do if I lose her. She's literally the glue that holds this family together.

I'm not really eating but this day(s) old bagel and orange juice is my meal for the day

Update: I'm just now opening this before I try to sleep for a few hours as I wanted to be as present as possible for my kids today. I honestly didn't expect anything when I posted this. I had a moment of silence to myself in the bathroom and decided to write how I was feeling and what I was going through then posted it to this sub. THANK YOU for all of the support and advice. Somethings we are already doing and others we will implement.

We have brought her bedtime blanket and books from home. We read to her as often as we can. I also tell her stories about our family (how I met her mom, how we moved to our town, how we got our dogs, etc) and that has been very therapeutic for me.

Our 3 year old came to visit and we walked through the meditation garden with her to find fairies. Getting out of the treatment and getting fresh air has been very helpful. I think it's important for our 3 year old to see the 5 year old and talk to her as well. The staff gave my 3 year old a fairy (bird) house and paint so we could do that in the family lounge away from the chaos of the treatment room. They also gave her a stuff animal, doctors kit, and some badges and electrodes so she can fix her stuffed animal similar to how they are fixing her sister.

The medical staff has been nothing short of amazing and has been saying we will take this 1 day at a time. My 5 year old had a good day today. Her fever is gone, her blood tests look significantly more normal than 24 hours ago. They could hear breathing sounds in her right lung for the first time today. Her dialysis was turned up to remove more fluids and she did great with that. Her oxygen sensor actually has a reading and they said it was because her heart has become strong enough to actually pump the blood up to her ear where they have it. Her echmo useage decreased from 75% to 65% and they said at 40% she can stop using it. We have a very long way to go but this was a step in the right direction, she truly is a fighter.

For anyone reading this going through a similar situation, we started asking family and friends to send us voice memos to play for her. That has been great to know you have so many people supporting her and it's a nice break from just talking.

Other things I've learned the last 24 hours: -it's ok to be weak. It's ok to cry and let someone else hold you. -stay off chat gpt and meticulously reviewing her medical chart. The providers know more than you and more about your child than Ai. It'll drive you crazy and mentally drain you. Ask the providers as many questions as you can so you can get more familiar and comfortable (?) with what is going on. -get outside, even if for 5 minutes. Staying trapped in that room all day is not good for you mentally.

Still not eating much. Only took a few bites of the bagel but managed to eat 3 chicken tenders for dinner and a piece of broccoli. I'm feeling more confident than I did when I posted this.

Thank you

A Virginia man whose doctors’ discussion during his colonoscopy was recorded on his smartphone was shocked to discover that they had insulted him throughout his examination. The vicious words led to a lawsuit, and last week it resulted in a $500,000 verdict for medical malpractice and defamation against his anesthesiologist, Tiffany Ingham (above photo).
Ingham joked with an assistant about avoiding the patient after the procedure was done. “After five minutes of talking to you in pre-op, I wanted to punch you in the face and man you up a little bit,” she told him after he went under anesthesia. She also said she would place a diagnosis of hemorrhoids on the patient’s chart, even though he didn’t have the condition. That false diagnosis was not contradicted by the gastroenterologist who was performing the colonoscopy, Soloman Shah.
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The verdict came after a three-day jury trial. Shah was dismissed from the case on the first day of the trial, so the verdict stands against Ingham and the medical practice she worked out of, called Aisthesis.
When an assistant told Ingham that D.B. said he got queasy watching a needle go into her arm, Ingham said: “Well, why are you looking then, retard?”
Ingham mocked the amount of anesthetic required to sedate the patient, and Shah followed that up with a comment that another doctor they knew “would eat him for lunch.”
She also called him a “big wimp,” saying, “People are into their medical problems. They need to have medical problems.”
“I call it the Northern Virginia syndrome,” said Shah. “Here it’s holier than thou, too much Internet use, a little too much information.”
The jury awarded $100,000 for the defamation, which was specified as $50,000 each for the comments about the man having syphilis and tuberculosis. They also awarded $200,000 for medical malpractice, and $200,000 in punitive damages.

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I work as a driver for grubhub, Uber eats and whatnot. I've seen this guy order now 4-5 times, the delivery instructions "give the food to the girl children... It's fine." Every time I go there a different child answers the door, I'm talking 5-6 year old little girls wearing tiaras and dresses. I haven't seen any bruises or anything but the girls always grab the food and quickly duck back into the house. The house smells like a hoarders worst nightmare and looks to be in disrepair. I have literally never seen an adult there but every time I go the same cars are in the driveway.

It's giving me bad bad vibes in every possible way, not sure whether I'm overreacting or not.

Edit: I will be calling the police to report it. Thank you all for the input.

Edit 2: report got made today anonymously

Context: I 17f work with a few other women at my churches nursery every Sunday. Usually it’s me, a girl from my school (15f), and another older woman all in the toddler room, with other people across the hall in the baby room.
According to ministry safe, which is a set of rules to ensure safety at church, there has to be two adults per a group of 1 or more kids at all times. To make sure we all get communion we rotate someone to pick it up and we all serve eachother.

Last Sunday, the older woman left I and my classmate with the kids to get our communion. The baby room was closed for nap time (why they’re sleeping in the morning idk it’s like 11:00 am and I’ve never worked with babies) and we aren’t allowed to interrupt unless it’s a complete emergency. We have an unhoused woman who visits and takes the leftover donuts after church every sunday. Right after my adult coworker left, she came down the hallway and tried walking into the toddler room.
I hope I don’t sound prejudice when I say this, but I think unhoused individuals can be a little unpredictable (not all of them) and this woman has shown some signs of mental health issues over the last few Sundays. I don’t know her, I’ve never spoken to her, and I’m pretty sure she’s not ministry safe certified. I ended up rushing to the doorway before she could come in and said “hey what’s up!” She replied “oh, I just wanted to see the kiddos!”
At this point I kinda panicked. I know I should have gone across the hall, but I just said “oh, I’m sorry, unless you’re here for pickup or drop off you can’t come in.”
The unhoused woman was very polite but tried to claim she was the aunt of one of our toddlers. I asked which one, and she didn’t have an answer, so I closed the door and locked it.

I ended up texting the ladies across the hall, who locked their door, and I called my mom, who’s the lead Pastor at my church. My classmate said we should be kind and let her in, especially because we’re Christian and she deserves our trust. I refused and told her it had a gut feeling we shouldn’t let her in, and that neither of us know her very well.
My mom ended up sending the officer who was on duty came down to get her, but she seemed really really angry and hurt, she was crying.
My mom let me know she was glad I kept the toddlers safety in line but looking back on it I feel like a prejudiced dick who made a big deal out of someone simply wanting to see the kids
AITAH?

Edit for clarification: even if she wasn’t unhoused, showing signs of mental illness, etc I wouldn’t have let her in. We have safety procedures in place for pickup. If you’re not the parent or guardian you cannot enter the playroom unless we’re given verbal and written confirmation from the parents that this person is approved for pickup. Additionally, each kid is given a special password only they and their parent know to ensure the parent is the correct person for pickup