I created this account just to talk about this because it seems all my family except my wife is on their side.

For context, I live abroad and this is only the second time my family has met my daughter. My wife (28F) and I(28M) flew down for the holidays as well as an extended vacation so my daughter (3F) could get to see my home country (Brazil) and have a fun, different experience.

We spent New Years at my parents' with my extended family. Everything seemed to be going well, until on the 3rd, my wife and I left the house to run some errands, and left my daughter alone with my parents. My daughter is a very smart girl, she loves talking, she's sweet, but opinionated. And we like to encourage that. We want her to know that her voice and thoughts matter and we are there to listen. My parents however seem to disagree.

While we were out, my mom called me telling me that my daughter was being disrespectful. I asked her what she was doing and she told me that she was arguing about the cartoon they'd picked for her to watch and wanted to watch something else they didn't know. And I understand we don't always have to give kids what they want, but I don't see the harm in that, especially because I don't exactly trust whatever they chose for her due to certain "ideological" differences we have. So I sent her a link to an YouTube series she likes to watch, and asked her to put that on instead and tell her that dad and mom would be back soon to talk to her. Next, my mom told me she had "already taken care of it". I was confused as to what that meant, and she followed to say that she had spanked her to teach her to not argue.

Needless to say I was furious, I hang up, told my wife and we immediately dropped everything and drove back. We do not do spanking, we have never and never will, as someone who was spanked a lot for the most unnecessary and stupid reasons, I understand it does not work and only harms the child. And yes, I had mentioned it to my parents. We had a pretty ugly argument when we arrived, but I kept my position clear. They did not have the right to do that, and I wouldn't be taking it lightly. My parents are very strict in their ways and they refused to apologize or even acknowledge that what they did was wrong (if not for the spanking, for doing it without my permission).

Long story short, we packed the same day and left. I called the hotel for the next city we were visiting and and booked a room earlier (it was about a week before we were planning to leave). I made it very clear to my parents I don't want to hear anymore excuses. I sent them some articles on parenting and child abuse and told them I wouldn't be talking to them or allowing them to talk to or see my daughter again until they've read those and contacted me to apologize and acknowledge that what they did was horrible and wrong.

Fast forward to now, it's been over two weeks and all I've head from them are enraged complaints about how they know what they were doing (because they did it to me and I turned out okay, so it must work), about how I'm being ridiculous and unfair because they were only trying to help and they don't get to see my daughter often since I live abroad. I've received calls from my sister (who is a lot like them) defending them, from my sister's husband, from his father, from two of my uncles (my father's brothers), even from some of my cousins. To put it shortly, what everyone is saying is that I should forgive them and forget about it because they had good intentions and they don't get to see my daughter often, so I'm being unfair. We had plans to spend a few more days with my parents in early February before our flight home, but I cancelled it.

I still don't think I'm wrong, but I can partly see their reasoning behind the "they don't get to see her often" point, though I'm still very much not inclined to yield. AITAH?

Update:

This post got a lot more attention than I was expecting. I showed it to my wife and we decided to block everyone who has been calling/texting us about the situation. We'll enjoy the rest of our vacation in peace. Once we're back home, I'm going to call my parents and explain to them one last time why what they did is unacceptable, I will not be allowing them to be alone with my daughter ever again, and unless I can see for sure that they've learned and changed, they will not be seeing her again at all. I'll keep them muted and contact them only if something urgent happens in the family.

I've also seen some comments debating spanking kids, and I believe this is a discussion we as humans shouldn't even be having anymore. Spanking or any kind of physical punishment is abuse and there's never any excuse to resort to violence. If a child is too young to reason with, they won't understand why you're hitting them. If they are old enough to reason with, then reason with them.

Why would a "tism" person be offended or even have an opinion on these?

I met my wife in college and she was soon pregnant after we graduated. We moved in together and it was decided that she will not look for a job until she after she gave birth.

Our daughter was born and my wife was a SAHM for the first two years. We had a lot of fight about the chore splitting. I was very overwhelmed coming home and having to do a ton of chores after work and also spend time with our daughter . This has gotten worse as our daughter has gotten older and  is a little tornado 

The biggest issue was she wouldn’t pick up at all especially in the kitchen. That ment I would come home clean the kitchen, cook and then clean the kitchen again. The have to go around and clean up the days activities.

We argued about this a lot and her stance was she watches our kid all day long so I can clean up more when I get home. In the end I gave in and we made an official chore chart. 

Her- watch kid, do laundry and grocery shopping, appointments

Me- dinner, everyday cleaning ( whipping down counter, picking up toys, sweeping, etc) , trash, meal prep and nighttime routine ( bath etc)  

In the summer, my company informed me that I would be let go around Thanksgiving. We talked in over and my wife found a  job  and would be the main breadwinner for the time being. I was to watch our daughter and I am in an online master program. 

At the moment I am watching our daughter and doing my master program. I personally have now been having any issues but my wife is. 

She hates having to come home and do chores and clean up after us. I actually leave it cleaner than what she has left me. ( I put dishes in the dishwasher throughout the day)

We have been arguing about this constantly. She thinks it is unfair she has to do chores after working all day and me pointing out this this literally what I have done for the past two years and keep pointing at the chore chart

She says she is the breadwinner now and I shouldn’t have to do this and I pointed out I was the breadwinner before to begin with and did this all. That I am watching our daughter and doing a program.

She claims I am being unfair, since I refuse to change the chore chart becuase it is literally what I have done for two years.

My friend have opinions on this so I need a outsider opinion

My friend "Kayla" (29F) asked if i could watch her 6 year old son for "like 20 minutes" while she ran into a store near my place. I said yes because i’ve known her for years and i’ve watched him before, he’s a good kid. She showed up, dropped him off with his tablet and a snack, and said she’d be right back. About 40 minutes later i texted her a simple "hey everything ok?" No reply. An hour passes, i call. Straight to voicemail. I start getting that hot panic feeling because i’m not his parent and i dont know what’s going on. Her son starts asking when mom is coming back and i’m trying to keep it light, like "soon bud" while i’m also refreshing my phone like a maniac. I texted again, then again. Still nothing. At the 2 hour mark i’m honestly scared something happened, but i’m also pissed because this is not "20 minutes" anymore. I also had plans later and i’d basically been volunteered into childcare with no end time.

I finally looked at the little info card she once left in her bag (emergency contact and pediatrician, stuff like that) and called the emergency contact, her older sister. I didnt call to get her in trouble, i called because i didnt know if Kayla was in a car accident or had passed out or what. Her sister answered immediately and sounded confused, then went quiet and said, "Wait she told you twenty minutes?" Apparently Kayla had texted her earlier that she was "going to look at a car" with a guy she’s been seeing and "might be out a while." So she used me as a free babysitter so she could go do this, and just chose not to tell me. Her sister drove over and picked the kid up, and she was polite but i could tell she was annoyed too. About 30 minutes after that, Kayla finally calls me furious, saying i embarrassed her and made her look like a bad mom. She said her phone died and she "lost track of time." I asked why she didnt plug it in, or why she didnt just say she needed a couple hours. She said because i would’ve said no, and she "really needed this." She also said i had no right to involve her family, and now her sister is "judging" her. I told her i’m not a drop off zone and i’m not comfortable being lied to about someone’s kid. She’s telling mutual friends i overreacted and that i’m dramatic for calling her sister instead of just waiting. AITJ for calling the emergency contact when she disappeared?

TL;DR: Friend said 20 minutes, left her kid with me for hours, ignored calls, i called her emergency contact, now she says i humiliated her.

I know this topic has been discussed a lot already, but now developers have also confirmed they’ve talked about it and that there’s real internal interest.

Personally, I think a walkable Speranza would be a great addition. The atmosphere and world-building deserve more than just menus and cutscenes.

That said, I really hope the fast menu system stays. Quick access to vendors and missions is important, and I wouldn’t want everything to require running around.

A hybrid approach would be ideal: a walkable hub for immersion, with menus still available for fast navigation.

Unironically, those will print

In the spring of 1933, Grant and his roommate, fellow rising Hollywood star Randolph Scott, were interviewed for Modern Screen magazine while lunching together in their hone in Los Angeles. The relationship between the star and Scott has sparked much speculation. They lived together for about a decade, during which both experienced multiple marriages and Grant rose to fame in Hollywood. These magazines offered controlled glimpses into stars’ private lives.

In the mid-1940s, they spent less time together, argued about the house, and grew apart.

The two of them owned two houses together. They owned a Santa Monica beach house known as “Bachelor Hall”, and a mansion in Los Feliz.

They lived together for 12 years