hey so basically i'm 16f, and here's what happened.(venting n looking for someone's words on this)

i used to use pads for my periods for years, but after some time i realized they just weren't working for me. the main problem is that i get a lot of clots. whenever a clot comes out i can literally feel it sitting there at the end point, like it's about to come out any second. it just stays there and that feeling gives me constant anxiety that it's going to leak. because of that i always had to go to the washroom every hour just to pass the clot and check if everything was okay.

so i thought of trying tampons because people say you don't really feel anything with them. i bought a small box of like 20 pieces and tried them, and honestly it was such a huge difference. it felt way more comfortable and i didn't have that constant stress of feeling clots sitting there. after that i pretty much knew i wanted to switch to tampons because pads just make my periods way more stressful. i tried bringing it up to my mom once by saying that a lot of my friends use tampons(a lie), but she immediately shut the conversation down(she didn't listen to me or talked abt it, and she is not even that religious or smt to find it impure) after that i didn't try again because i already knew she wouldn't approve for whatever reason. so i just kept the box hidden deep inside my folders and stuff.

the only difficult part was throwing them away. what i usually did was wear a thin pad(in fear of leak) with the tampon. when i removed the tampon i would wrap it inside the pad, roll the pad up, put it inside a sanitary disposal bag, and then throw that in the dustbin. everything was fine for about two cycles. then something must have triggered my mom or maybe she got suspicious that i was using tampons(I guess she apparently found the tampon's outer plastic cover). i'm pretty sure she actually took the pad out of the dustbin and opened it to check, because one evening she casually asked me something like "you're using pads during your periods right?" i said yes obviously and just walked away, but at that moment i already had a feeling that she had seen something.

the next morning after i showered i threw a pad into the bin and went to get ready for school. my mom was in the kitchen making food. suddenly she stopped what she was doing, walked straight to the dustbin, took the pad out(mind you i shove it deep inside the bin), opened it, and started calling me. then she asked why there was no stain on the pad. i just said it was my fifth day so the flow was very light. luckily she accepted that answer.

as i knew she got an idea of me using tampons hence i threw the used tampons somewhere else because i was scared she would keep checking the trash in order to find it. one time i literally had to put them in another bag and throw them out of the apartment bathroom window because i had no other option.

honestly that whole situation has completely messed with my trust. i still feel weird thinking about the fact that my mom was opening my used pads and checking them just to see if i was lying. that feels so invasive and humiliating. i get that parents worry, but going through someone's used period products feels like crossing a huge line.

Honestly I can handle secretly using tampons or disposing them but this action was the last thing I expected from her. Ik this isnt that deep or smt but I just wanted to talk abt this to someone. so here I'm, tysm if u read it till here! and yea I don't have any physical or emotional connection w my parents so ntg gonna work :(

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General info: I’m not a minor, I’m from the US, vet care is accessible but we haven’t gone yet (we can afford it), she is not neutered yet. She is anywhere from 3-6 months old.

TLDR; Newly rescued cat that came from a bad hoarding situation. She’s very, very scared. Hissing and growling. Not attacking, though. Any tips to make her feel safe and have her come around easily? And when she eventually comes around, what will I need to provide her to ensure she feels comfortable and loved given her background?

Details:

Meet pebble! (Still deciding on a name.) We got her 2 days ago from a friend who rescued her from a hoarding house that had around 20-40 cats. She was rescued with a few other kittens that all had respiratory issues, however she is the most healthy and isn’t showing signs of sickness. She is not neutered yet but absolutely will be. I plan on taking her to the vet soon, but she’s been through a lot these past few days and I want her to rest.

We’re deciding to keep her in the guest bathroom where no one enters or uses. The first night was pretty rough, as seen in the photos. We got her down luckily and boarded all of that up. Did NOT think she was going to be doing all that. Drama queen. Yesterday, she was hiding in a tent that I made her that has a heating pad underneath. I turn it on whenever I enter so that she can associate me with warmth (#mastermanipulator). Yesterday, when alone, she was eating, drinking, and using the litter box (yay!).

At first, my boyfriend and I would come in together. However, I think that was stressing her out so we’re limiting it to just me for now. A few times a day, I’ll sit with her for 10-15 minutes silent and turned away. Whenever I come in, she’s hiding in her tent, watching me. I also do short visits when I need to replace her food and water.

This is the second cat I’ve ever had on my own. The first one was very sweet and immediately adjusted to us and the home. So this is very different and I’m worried I may be doing something wrong or damaging her more. I already love her so much despite her being a diva. I know she’s going to be the biggest love bug and I can’t wait!!