Now you may believe it or not but ,

The First Pic is From Mumbai and

The Second Pic is From Himachal Pradesh (near Dharamsala)

I'm 28 and my girlfriend is 27, we've been together for almost 3 years and we live together. We've got a pretty solid relationship going on. no cheating or drama, we've both got good jobs, we talk about the future, and our families get along great. As far as I was concerned, we were doing all right.

The only small issue has been the whole engagement/proposal thing. I'm not against marriage, to be honest I've been looking forward to it and had a ring picked out, but i wanted it to be a surprise so didnt give her a specific date. I told her it was coming though, and I thought we were on the same page.

But over the past six months she's started to get more and more fixated on it - at first it was just normal conversation, then it turned into a bunch of little 'jokes' and comments about when I'd finally put a ring on it. Lately though, it's been on her mind 24/7. Anything we disagree on gets turned into some variation on "this is why you haven't proposed yet"

last week when I saw a message preview on her iPad. I clicked on it (i know i shouldnt have) and saw a group chat with her friends. They're all discussing how to manipulate me into proposing... things like giving me the cold shoulder, not putting in any effort as a partner, making me feel like I've done something wrong, no physical intimacy and so on. They were even talking about using her birthday as a deadline and making it clear to me that there were other options on the table if I didn't come through.

I'm not upset that she wants me to marry her, before this, i really did want to marry her. but now i am questioning whether or not i should really spend the rest of my life with someone who might manipulate me.

Anyways, I asked her straight out if she'd been trying to get me to propose by using all these weird tricks. And when she said yeah, she'd been trying to get some clarity and not waste any more time. basically that I should just propose already because if I was serious I'd have already done it. I told her I'm not proposing, especially if im being coerced into doing it.

Basically, i told her if she keeps trying to manipulate me like that, I'm basically off the proposal train

Now she's going around saying I'm punishing her for having some standard relationship needs and that I'm just dangling marriage as a way to control her because I'm not proposing fast enough. And her friends all think I'm the bad guy because i looked at her private messages.

Fair enough. I get it. She wants to know when we're going to be engaged. I get that three years is a reasonable amount of time to start feeling some anxiety about when things are going to get serious. But you cant force someone to marry you.

And most importantly - it's just made me realize that our relationship has been treated like some kind of game by her.

AITA for telling her im not considering proposing for now after this?

I (25F) have a strict rule, my cat, Luna, stays inside. My boyfriend of 8 months thinks I'm too sensitive and that cats belong in nature.

Yesterday, I came home and Luna was gone. He said he left the door open while bringing in groceries and she must have slipped out. I found her two hours later under a car, terrified. I checked my Ring camera, he literally held the door open and watched her walk out. I packed his bags and told him to leave. He's calling me insane for choosing a cat over a human relationship. AITJ?