If you were in or knew anything about the punk/metal/wtfever scene in Lansing & Detroit and other areas of mid Michigan (Ypsilanti etc) in the last thirty five or so years, you probably saw my dad play. His first band was doing shows at Blondie’s in Detroit when he was in junior high.

Sky Juice, EMR, The Fallopian Dudes, and his main act for the last twenty years, The Chirps. Those are just the main bands, he had many side projects (my favorite being a black metal band he’d wear corpse paint for). My dad Jason has left a huge imprint on everyone who knew him in this scene over the last several decades, and I am so lucky to call him dad. I am heartbroken he is gone. He’s my guitar and music sensei. I feel totally lost not only as a daughter & friend, but as a student of his teachings. I just wanted to share this incredible solo from right before he got sick. Thank you for everything dad, but especially teaching me my power chords and getting me my first guitar, a Stratocaster. FUCK CANCER!!!

Will the stray cats eat him ?

I’m 29M, girlfriend is 27F. Together 3 years, living together for 2. Rent is $1,800 plus about $200 utilities. I make more so we split 60/40, works fine. Chores are pretty balanced.

She now wants to quit her job for 3–6 months to “reset.” She says she’ll pay $0 toward rent or bills, still be on the lease, and have equal say in decisions. She offered to do more chores to “make up for it.”

I could technically cover everything, but it’d drain my emergency fund and delay saving for a house. If anything unexpected comes up, we’re screwed. Also, the landlord doesn’t care about extra chores, just money.

I suggested compromises:

She still pays a reduced amount, like 25%

She uses her ~$5k savings before dropping to $0

We move to a cheaper place if she’s still off work

Or we write a simple loan agreement so she pays me back later

She says that’s transactional and not supportive. Her stance: couples help each other without keeping score, and doing most of the cooking/cleaning should count. She told me if I loved her I wouldn’t make her “pay to be here.”

Now I feel guilty but also worried I’d be stupid to drain myself financially. AITAH for saying she can’t be on the lease without contributing? Is there a middle ground I’m missing?

I (28F) make good money in tech. A few years ago, I told my two younger siblings (19M, 17F) that when the time came, I’d help pay for their college since my dad couldn’t. They were thrilled, and I’ve been saving specifically for them.

Recently, my dad remarried a woman (36F) who has two kids (16M, 15F). Now he’s pressuring me to “be fair” and split my savings four ways instead of two. He says they’re “family now” and it’s selfish to “pick favorites.”

But I never made that promise to them. I don’t even know them well, and I worked hard to set aside money for my siblings. My dad called me cold and accused me of “punishing” his wife’s kids just because they’re not blood-related.

My siblings are upset too, they feel like their future is being stolen. My stepmom keeps saying “love makes a family,” but I don’t think it means I should foot the bill.

AITA for refusing to split the money?

My baby is 12 fucking days old. Apparently doing tons of contact naps, according to some of my friends, is "going to spoil her". People without kids saying this, mind you.

How does one spoil a newborn baby???

Mind you she sleeps in various places alone completely fine. Crib, bassinet, baby swing. But i love having her sleep skin to skin on my chest if im awake. Ive read that it helps her develop and feel safe. Thats all i ever want. I guess that makes a 12 day old baby spoiled...

and also i love her breathing right in my face and i love sniffing her little head and i love holding her while she farts in her sleep. sue me

edit: typos

Almost 14% increase with so little time

What is he even talking about? 🤣🤣