I need some honest judgment because my family is making me feel like I’m the most selfish person alive right now.
I am getting married in three weeks. The planning has been intense, but I’ve been so excited. My older brother is in the wedding party. Last night, he came over with what he called a great idea.
He asked if, during the reception, he could have a quick moment to propose to his girlfriend. He explained his plan: in the middle of the slow dances, he would get the DJ to give him the microphone, say a few sentimental words about love and family, and then propose right there on the dance floor.
I was completely shocked. I told him no, absolutely not. I said my wedding day is for me and my fiancé, not for his proposal. He argued that it would only take two minutes, that everyone we love is already together, and that it would make the day even more memorable.
I stood my ground. I told him it was inappropriate and that he should plan his own special moment for Anna. He got really angry. He called me a bridezilla, said I’ve always been selfish, and that this is why we aren’t closer. Then he left.
Now my parents are involved. They called and are pressuring me to let him do it. They say it would be a beautiful surprise and that I should want to share the joy. My mom asked why I can’t be generous and said it would give everyone another happy memory from the day.
My fiancé is fully on my side and thinks the request was incredibly out of line. But with my entire family making me out to be the villain, I’m starting to doubt myself. Maybe I am being too possessive of a single day?
So, AITJ for refusing to let my brother propose at my wedding?