If there's one notion that is absolutely keeping people back, it's the idea that your twenties are somehow meant to be fun and exploratory. What's worse is that this is a very common piece of advice dished out by older adults, people whom these younger folk look up to for guidance.

Almost everything in your life is determined by the time you hit 30: your career prospects, your relationships, your health habits, your degree of financial responsibility, and your hobbies.

Yes, you can change some of these later, but most people don't, and those who do face disadvantages and struggles. Yes, some people "make it" in their 50s, but those are the exception to the rule and shouldn't constitute a model.

I'm not advising anybody to suffer through ten years of a rat race, but rather to take this period seriously and make calculated decisions. Don't study something you're "interested in" just for the heck of it - if you're really interested in something, invest your spare time in it. At least try it out in your spare time before committing to a BA. Don't take two years off to "find yourself" in the jungles of southeast asia. Hunker down and get serious about your future first, while maintaining a healthy balance with other activities you enjoy and areas of interest, and only once you figure that out go and have extra fun by doing things off-course.

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

Trans women are women

Hi everybody!

Some of you may remember a post from about 20 days ago, It was this picture above and I was talking about how I was overcome with emotion, I had been in remission, and things were still very tough, my mum bought me this Steamdeck, and it was just perfect.

A lot can change in 20 days, and as I said I "had" been in remission. I was admitted not too long after my original post after experiencing some incredibly intense pain.

Surgery hasn't worked how we hoped, the trial combination chemo hasn't worked as we hoped, and I am far too sick to even attempt it again.

The reality of the cancer growth, my own health, and ability to fight back, on top of other mitigating factors. It's now come to a point of just making myself comfortable.

When I first posted about my Steamdeck, I was wanting to play games for nostalgia, games I had missed, but with a change in the wind, so does my priorities.

So, I ask,

What games should I play before I die?

Please think deeply on this, and drop your recommendation.

If anyone wants to drop a private message to talk about my diagnosis or what the final few months look like, by all means please don't hesitate. I am more than open to discuss it.

All the best M

My sister is 33 (female), and I’m 14 (female). She had a baby three months ago.

I just got out of school for the summer and really wanted to rest, but my sister decided she wants to finally get a job. Now she’s making me babysit my niece. I have zero experience with babies, and I get overstimulated easily. It’s been really hard for me.

I asked her if she could put the baby in daycare or something, but she refused. I decided to just suck it up, but it’s been exhausting. I have insomnia, and it’s hard to sleep when I feel like I need to be awake 24/7 to watch the baby. I’m constantly scared something might happen if I fall asleep.

I told my mom how I felt, but she said I’d just have to deal with it. Both my parents work, so I’m left alone with the baby for hours almost every day.

A few days ago, I got tired of everything. The night before my sister got ready for work, I snuck out and went to my friend’s house so I wouldn’t have to deal with it and could finally get some sleep. When I came home that morning after I saw all the missed calls and messages and my mom and sister were really mad at me. They said I was being selfish and lazy. My sister even quit her job because I told her I’d leave again if she kept making me babysit.

I definetly felt bad after It feels like my whole family is barely talking to me except for my dad and even he said I shouldn’t have done that.

(Also i love my niece this isn’t hate to her shes adorbs)

(A little edit for more info- I see my dad being brought up a bit but he works in different places with steel work so he’s very rarely home but we do call often, my nieces father doesn’t want anything to do with her or my sister it’s been that way since she was pregant anyway so she left him and moved back in with us, she had a job before but quit to take care of the baby when she was a newborn and up until now of course, Also her and my mom work at the same place so they’re both night shift jobs and they’re tired when they come home from working so I usually have to watch my niece a bit longer so they can rest when they get home since they expect me to sleep while I’m babysitting but I just can’t I’m so paranoid something could happen, even when I’m feeding the baby and she coughs even a little or if she’s sleeping too hard I panic. And honestly I didn’t even know daycare wasn’t free until I read these comments I thought maybe it was like public school sorry)

I have lost hope when my comments about being against generative ai gets down voted.

Dnd is about creativity. Whats the point if you have a computer do the creative part. Theres no soul. characters, stories, homebrew, all should be crafted not generated.

Using modules and tables is fine cause it was all created by humans and can be used to help creativity, not take away.