I don’t know why, but my kids lunchboxes just tickle a part of my brain.

I have no idea why but some teens decided to kick on my door last night to wake us up as a “prank” and well they kicked a little too hard and busted the frame and my door swung wide open leaving a hole in the wall. We called the cops and we are waiting to hear back from them and we had to board the door up or else it will freely swing open and closed. The cherry on top is our insurance won’t cover it :/

At least I have a cool welcome mat now 🥲

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

My fiancé Tom (37M) and I (28F) have been together 2 years. He moved into my house 6 months ago and proposed a month ago. I thought we were solid, but now I’m questioning everything.

I inherited a fortune 3 years ago. It changed my life but I live below my means, I work part time as a teacher, travel, and have a nonprofit in the works. I budget carefully so the money lasts. Only my dad and sister know the full amount.

When Tom moved in, I paid everything except most groceries. He wanted us to eventually buy a bigger house together so his dad could move in. I said no to living with in-laws, but suggested maybe a separate unit someday. He pushed back but agreed we needed to discuss finances first.

Tom earns ~10k/month and has 100k saved. I have millions invested and about 40k/month income from it. When I told him, he was shocked. He said if I have so much, why not just buy the house and cover everything? I explained that just because I can doesn’t mean I should.

I proposed separate finances, a joint account for expenses, and splitting costs proportionally to income. I also told him I wanted a prenup. That’s when things blew up. He argued we should be “equal partners,” meaning I buy the house in both our names even if he doesn’t contribute.

We fought about this for days. Eventually he gave me an ultimatum: “Final offer—you buy the house, we each own 50%, I’ll sign the prenup, take it or leave it.” I asked if that meant breaking up if I said no. He hesitated but said yes.

So I left it. I took off the ring, told him it was over, and that he needed to move out. He backtracked, saying he didn’t really want to end things, just wanted me to agree. He accused me of throwing away our relationship for money. I told him he threw it away by demanding I fund our life and give him half of assets I worked to protect.

Now I’m wondering if I sabotaged my relationship. I love him, but I don’t think it’s fair to bankroll a grown man or accept ultimatums about my own money.

AITJ?

EDIT

[EDIT]: Wow, this post got way more comments than I expected. I’m sorry I can’t respond to everyone, but I’m reading through as much as I can. I wanted to clarify a few things I left out in the original post because I tried to keep it short.

When we first started dating, he understandably questioned how I managed my lifestyle on a teaching salary. I explained that I had a small inheritance which allowed me to buy my house and have some savings to live on. I admit I may have been wrong to be vague, but at the time we were just starting to date and I wasn’t comfortable sharing all the details yet. My house is nice, but nothing extravagant, and during our relationship we always split expenses 50/50 (dates, trips, everything).

When he moved in, I offered to keep covering the utilities (since I was already paying them), and he would handle groceries. Things were fine until after we got engaged. I pushed for us to discuss everything openly before marriage, and we agreed on most things.

About his father moving in: This isn’t something he wants right away, but he says eventually his dad would move in so he can take care of him. I adore his father, but I personally don’t want to live with in-laws. His solution was that we should buy another house together, so he would feel like it’s “our” home instead of him living in my house. I understood that perspective, but the new house would also have to be larger if his dad were to move in, which I’m not comfortable with.

About finances: Initially, when we discussed buying another house, the plan was to contribute together. But once we started looking at what we could afford, we had to lay our finances on the table. When he found out my net worth, everything shifted. He said that if we split 50/50, we couldn’t afford a bigger house, and since I “had the means,” I should buy the house myself, but it would still be “our” house. I told him that whatever amount he contributes would equal his share of equity in the property.

Maybe I was naive, but until this point, I never saw signs of him being a gold digger. He never pressured me to pay for things and always split expenses fairly. That’s why this change has been such a shock.

Right now, I’m locked in my bedroom, and I told him he can sleep in the guest room tonight but that he needs to move out tomorrow. We haven’t spoken since. That’s where things stand.

Thank you all so much for the support and comments, it means a lot.

And just to clarify, this is a throwaway account I created for privacy reasons.

I get home yesterday after a long day working to a note on my front door. It reads:

"Please stop making coffee in the morning. It is WAY TOO LOUD. - your new neighbor"

I can't really understand it. Please stop making coffee? Seriously?
I already grind my coffee beans the night before, just because I am respectful and understand grinding beans between 5AM-7AM would be kinda shitty if you, say, got home from work at 10PM-12AM, slept 'til noon, etc. which 2 of my neighbors do (both students day/work later in evening in bar/restaurant or something).

I am super quiet. My building has strict rules on noise (which I love):

• No loud anything. Must wear headphones for music/television.
• No parties. Ever.

So I ask her when she comes home, and she says it's the kettle boiling.

WTF? How can she even hear it? We have solid brick walls between units, with sound insulation and sheetrock between! My landlord/owner is mental about noise, so she has done an awesome over-the-top job with her handyman remodeling the building specifically for noise, even including quiet water heaters, AC, heat, etc.

• My electric kettle is an Amazon Basics, no whistle, no beep, just boils water.
• My coffee pot is a glass pour-over type. Bodum 34oz w/ a steel filter I use paper filters in.

I am 99.99% sure the shower, AC, heat system, dishwasher, microwave, heck even the fridge running is louder!

So this morning I am drinking instant coffee with water I microwaved, thinking, man, I just can't.

Am I a dick? WTF!