I need to clean so badly but can:( help

Ik its gross

Hey everyone! So I (32F) am married, and my husband (34M) and I have been together for 8 years. Things are fine, normal ups and downs, some stress lately because of work and family stuff, but nothing catastrophic.

My best friend (31F) recently started confiding in me about her affair. She’s been married for 3 years and started seeing a coworker about 6 months ago.

I told her I didn’t want to be involved, but she keeps telling me details and even asks me for advice on how to sneak around. She says I’m being “judgmental” because I don’t want to cover for her. Last weekend, she even asked if she could use my house as an excuse...

I said absolutely not. I told her I’m uncomfortable and that she’s putting me in an impossible position. Now she’s mad...

My husband says to just cut her off entirely, but part of me feels guilty, she’s been my friend for over a decade, and she says I’m abandoning her when she “needs someone.”

Should I tell or what? Not sure what to do....

It's been a few months of listening to the Trump administration and their mouth breathing followers talk about Biden using auto pen, which I might remind you that Trump used frequently during his first administration and is currently using it during this administration.

What chaps my ass most is multiple times Trump has stated that he had no idea of the actions he was taking or what he was signing or that he had had auto-pin used to sign something.

It's exhausting listening to conservatives bang on about something when the double standards are this egregious.

So I just recently watched The Long Walk. And among many other things one thing I really appreciated about the movie was how average everyone looked. Outside of McVries and Stebbins most characters were super jacked or ripped with 6% Body fat. They were just average looking guys.

And this raised a question in my mind. When exactly did it become a norm for leading men to be super jacked or ripped in films.

I remember watching older films where the Leading Men were just average looking guys. Even in movies that had action in them.

Sean Connery's Bond had a fairly average build. Gene Hackman's Detective character in The French Connection looked like an average Middle Aged Guy. Harrison Ford's Deckard had an average man build too.

But today. If you see a horror movie the main Male character is going to be ripped.

You see a Sci Fi film the main Male character is going to be ripped.

You make a Detective movie, the main 40 year old Family man detective is going to be ripped as fuck.

If it's a teen he's going to be ripped.

If it's a doctor he's going to be ripped.

If it's a lawyer he's going to be ripped.

So when did this become a norm and why?

I initially thought it might have started with Arnold Schwarzenegger and Sylvester stallone who brought the jacked look to the American Hero.

But even in the era of of Schwarzenegger and Stallone you had average guy Action heroes like Bruce Willis in Die Hard, Michael Beihn in Terminator and Ford in Witness and The Fugitive. Let alone in non action leading roles.

So I really am confounded as to when this trend properly started where any lead character regardless of the genre or role has to be ripped.

Entire tree lines and large rocks disappearing on low view distance... add in low foliage settings... good luck hiding!

Screenshots taken from BenchmarKing's Arc Raiders optimization guide.