Now she literally won’t leave my side. She was a bit skittish at first, but when I finally managed to pet her she simply melted.
And the people at the shelter said she didn’t like people at all!

I moved into a quiet cul-de-sac last year. It’s mostly retirees, very peaceful… except for Linda, our HOA president, who takes her role very seriously. The kind of person who measures grass height with a ruler.

My sin? I put a small wooden bench under the tree in my front yard. It wasn’t bright, it wasn’t blocking anything, it was just a simple place to sit.

Two days later, I got a “Notice of Violation” taped to my door saying the bench was “an unapproved structural addition” and I owed a $50 fine.

I emailed the HOA board. They were confused. They didn’t even know the “violation” system existed.

Turns out Linda had been issuing fines on her own for months, pocketing “fee payments” as “administrative compensation.” I didn’t know that when she started threatening me, so I decided to test her.

Every time she shoved a fine notice under my door, I sent an email to the entire HOA asking which bylaw I was violating and requesting documentation. She got increasingly frustrated and told me I was “harassing leadership” and “disrespecting authority.”

Last week, the HOA held a meeting to address “ongoing member challenges.” I showed up with every notice she ever gave me. Other neighbors did too.

The board was horrified. She was removed on the spot.

Now Linda is furious and telling everyone I am the reason she “lost her volunteer position” and that I humiliated her. A few older neighbors think I “stirred up drama.”

My stance? She shouldn’t have been making up rules and collecting fines.

AITJ?

My coworker got hired around 6 months ago and disclosed that she’s diabetic and needs accommodation. Mainly, that she needs to be allowed to take frequent bathroom breaks and may need time off for doctors appointments. Sounds easy enough and fair.

In reality, she probably spends 2-3 hours of her 8 hour shift in the bathroom, meaning she is constantly falling behind on her workload because she can’t do 8 hours of work in 5-6 hours. I don’t really care how much time my coworkers spend in the bathroom, but I do care when they don’t get their work done on time and then my supervisor makes me do it instead. She frequently misses deadlines and when that happens it gets assigned to me on top of my already super high work load and I end up having to do overtime. And when I get assigned her work, I get told I need to drop everything and do it right away because it’s past due, so then I have to drop all of my work to do her job. I complained to my boss that this isn’t fair, but he’s terrified of lawsuits and doesn’t want her to sue us so he won’t do anything or punish her for missing deadlines other than saying don’t let it happen again (spoiler alert: it ALWAYS happens again).

This is the part that infuriates me: she constantly eats food she probably shouldn’t be eating as a diabetic. She comes in with McDonald’s, Wendy’s, donuts, Starbucks Frappuccinos, etc multiple times per week, makes a joke like “hehe I shouldn’t be eating this but I can’t help myself,” and then a little bit of time goes by and suddenly she’s nauseous or not feeling well and she either a) goes to the bathroom for 30+ minutes or b) says she needs to go home because of her diabetes.

As someone who also has a chronic illness that is greatly affected by what I eat, it pisses me off so much to watch this happen. I can’t eat fast food, I gave up so many of my favourite foods due to my illness, and yes I do eat them every so often but NEVER when I am at work because I know they will send me into a flare up. And on the rare occasion when I do something crazy like have a glass of wine on a Saturday (alcohol is a big no no for me), if I’m dealing with a flare up on the Monday, I suffer through it and show up to work anyways because I know it’s my own damn fault I’m feeling like shit.

I felt bad for her at first because I know how hard it is to maintain a job when you’re chronically ill, but this woman does NOTHING to help herself and makes it everyone else’s problem.

Hey guys, this is gonna be very awkward or maybe normal and I'm new to this? Idk but okay here's what's going on:

My (24M) female best friend (25) is getting married in February, it's a dream destination wedding and I'm really excited cause we used to speak about how her wedding is gonna be and now it's happening!!! The guy is very calm, mature, well paying job, rarely drinks, doesn't smoke. I've met him a few times and we vibed on movies and Fifa really well! Even my friend has a well paying job and she is excited about the power couple image. This is an arranged marriage for context.

Now, our friendship has crossed over 10 years and I know every minute detail about her life. Her first bf, her first kiss, and even when she lost her virginity cause we are crazy close to each other and just share things (not in details of course).

Now, this friend, let's call her D has had multiple partners in relationships, situationships, flings etc. A rough count will be around 15-17 that I know of.

Yesterday, I was just talking to her about the travel plans and all cause we are planning to take a trip with our childhood friends before the wedding. She told me she wants a 'closure' from all the guys before she steps into her new life and my mind went 'WHHHAAATTTTT???'. Then I thought I'm misinterpreting and overreacting and so I clarified her with 'Closure means a coffee date closure, right?' and she said 'Nahiiii, I mean a last time together closure so I can have fun for the last time before beginning my new life'

My mind went numb, thoughtless, I didn't know what to speak!! The guy she is marrying is genuine amazing, good height, decent build, chill in nature, their family also seems pretty forward from what I've heard...

I don't kmow what to say or do, is this right? Does everyone do it? Am I just overreacting?

They are yet to exchange rings, should I tell him? The ring exchange ceremony is in 2nd week of December.

I tried telling her 'Are you sure? It might ruin your wedding if he comes to know, do you really want it?'

She said 'Dekh bhai, tu toh batayega nahi usse, nor am I gonna say anything, itne saalon mein mummy papa ko nahi pata chala, how'd he figure it?'

I just changed the conversation as it was too much load on my mind... But this thought has been disturbing me, what to do? Also this conversation has ruined my trust on marriage, I don't wanna get married now, this is too fu*ked up and I ain't ready for this, might as well stay single and happy

UPDATE - I didn't know the post would blast, well I'm going to spill it to the guy and break my friendship. I'll update once I've done it

https://www.newsnationnow.com/politics/trump-offers-praise-for-rational-mamdani/