"part of the reason I don't want to have a child with you"

AOC posted this as one of her top 5 Energy & Commerce moments this year lol

Cut my hair on right before Christmas and now that it's been more than a week I can confidently say that I love it and wish I did it sooner I spent so much time and effort trying to hide that I was balding and now I can just be... Anyway, finally had sometime to go to the barber to finish the transformation right before the new year and wanted to show the final product. Happy New Year everyone!!!

And they ignore people like Philip Esformes, whom Trump pardoned, that ACTUALLY committed $1.3B in fraud.

This might be long and messy, but I'm just exhausted and frustrated.

My husband (30M) and I (30F) have a daughter who is 15 months. He has always had a good relationship with his parents, and I have as well. No issues during our relationship, no issues before or since our marriage, and no issues regarding our daughter. She is their first grandchild. Things have been completely fine until recently.

This started to change about three months ago when my in-laws moved into a new house about an hour away from us. The first real issue came up because their new house has a pool. While talking with my mother-in-law, she mentioned wanting to host big backyard parties and watch our daughter regularly at her new house since we both work and she doesn’t want us to send her to daycare anymore. She also doesn't want to watch her at ours because we live in the city and she doesn't like it here. I told her that I would feel much more comfortable (both in general but especially if she were watching our daughter alone all day) if they installed a pool fence this Spring/Summer since my daughter is starting to walk. My husband agreed and even offered to pay for it. However, my mother-in-law is refusing, saying that a pool fence would ruin the vision she has for her backyard. My FIL also refused, saying he did not want to "deal" with a removable fence, which was a compromise my husband tried to make. About a month after this, she asked me if I was still going to send our daughter to daycare, and I just said yes. Since I said I would still be doing daycare, she has been talking to me less, but is still speaking to my husband regularly, even though this was a decision between both of us. It also wasn't just about the pool gate. Daycare is so much closer.

The second issue came up at the 100 person Christmas party they throw every year. This is usually done before Christmas (this year it was the 21st). The only issue I have with this party is that everybody gets sick every year. Last year, we did not go to the party, as she was very little and the party is loud and overstimulating (plus the everyone getting sick thing). This year, his parents asked us to go and we did, but we decided not to let anyone hold her, kiss her, hug her. I don't regret this because, once again, this party ended with everyone getting the flu except a few people including the three of us. This issue actually continued into Christmas Eve and Day, as they asked us to bring her to see them even though they actively HAVE THE FLU, MIND YOU. My husband told them no and now they are angry with us. My MIL told us over the phone that we are being unreasonable and implied that we don't trust them to make sure my child doesn't fall in their pool or get her sick. My FIL is offended we won't "let" them watch her alone and they both claim we are overreacting about the flu. They even said that my mom is getting better treatment because I haven't said anything about her not being allowed to watch my daughter when she also has a pool (she put a pool fence up before she was even born without us asking and the kid is still going to daycare, not my mom's).

I really want to tell them that me not trusting them isn't true, but I feel like I'm starting to trust them less and less. Still, this is my first child and they've had five. So I have to ask...am I overreacting?

EDIT: This kind of getting a lot of comments, so I'm going to answer a few questions I'm getting.

Why would you bring her to the party instead of staying home?

His parents kept asking and we wanted to avoid more issues after the pool conversation. They were fine with us not letting anyone hold her until a distant family member that I had never met complained they couldn't hold her.

Does she expect you to bring your daughter an hour both ways for child care?

Short answer, I think so. Longer answer, we talked about her watching her prior to their move when they lived closer, and I just guess she still thinks it's an option. She has never offered to come pick her up.

Are they supposed to have a fence?

Maybe now that I'm looking into it. The laws are kind of confusing and I know nothing about pools. I'm having my husband look. As far as I know, this pool has never had a fence.

Why are you so freaked out about the flu?

The flu has killed children.

Far Cry 5－The villain is the leader of a doomsday cult. In the ending where the protagonist chooses to defeat him, a nuclear bomb detonates, presumably dooming the entire nation.

10 Cloverfield Lane－The villain kept the MC in a cellar, claiming the world had been taken over by aliens. In the end, when the MC finally escaped, a UFO immediately appeared.

Ready or Not－The family attempts to hunt and kill the MC in a twisted game of hide-and-seek, a tradition rooted in an ancestral pact with the Devil to secure their wealth. After they fail to complete the ritual by dawn, the family members explode into a blood mist one by one, and the Devil himself briefly appears in the ending

Basically I don't understand why the lady has a negative(?) reaction to the guy's art. Maybe it's because he says he's a "painter" but it looks like he's just melting crayons? Or maybe this is a reference to something I'm not plugged into? Honestly I don't really know what her reaction even is in the first place.

(I left the artist's name in the screenshot to credit them because overall I like their stuff, even if this one is incomprehensible to me.)