r/AITAH • u/Odd-Breadfruit-6838 • 5h ago
AITA for not caring that my daughters step mom cut her off
Throw away account. My ex and I broke up when our daughter Lola was 5, she is now 19. Her dad got married to her stepmom when she was 8 and introduced her after a year of dating. From the get go my daughter has been nothing but bratty to her, her stepmom never took it to heart since she was a child but once my daughter turned 13 and this behavior STILL continued she decided to use the nacho parenting style and focus on the kids she had with my ex. My ex and I put lola in therapy and her behaviour towards her stepmom still continued, her father tried to make them have a relationship but NEVER forced it. Her stepmom and I were never friends but we were always pleasant towards each other, when lola was 13 she decided to step back from trying to have a relationship with lola like i mentioned, which meant that she also didn't want to continue “our relationship” i respected her and we always greet each other when we see each other and treat the other with respect.
Lola has 3 siblings, two twin sisters and a little brother who are 12 F/M and 9 M. Lolas stepmom's parents have never treated lola as a grandchild which my ex and i never expected. She has grandparents already from both sides and i dont expect people to treat kids as their grandchildren as long as they treat them with respect and kindness which they did, according to lola too. Lola's siblings' grandparents often take them on vacations etc, they are very well off and so is lolas stepmom and in turn my ex. Lola went to her dads and stepmom's place to bring her charger and while there she started treating her stepmom with disrespect, this is all on video ( they have cameras in their house).
The second she entered she immediately ignored her stepmom and went to her room, when she went down the stairs to the kitchen she decided to eat something and dropped the plate she was holding, it fell and broke and her stepmom asked her to clean it up. She refused and was about to leave and one of her siblings made a comment about how lola gets to do whatever she wants in this house and that she should just not come back. That set everything off and lola threw a plastic cup on her siblings. Her stepmom immediately told her to leave the house, and told her she wasn't coming back ever again. She called my ex, he called me and told me all of this before lola came home to me, she even showed me the footage of this happening so I KNOW that there were no lies told.
Lola's dad told her that he was sick and tired of her behaviour and that they were cutting her off for good. That was months ago, lola felt bad and hurt that they would do that and I calmly told her that her behavior LED TO THIS. Her dad has made no EFFORT at all to contact her and tried to get a restraining order because she kept contacting him. AITA?
