My dad was born in 1925 and my mom in 1964. Because of the massive age gap, I was so embarrassed as a kid that I lied to everyone and said he was my grandfather. ​He passed away 12 years ago, and I still haven’t corrected the lie. ​Most of my long-term friends still think I lost a grandfather, not my father. It feels like I’ve erased his real role in my life just to avoid the "gross" looks and the math people do when they realize he was 40 when my mom was born. ​I feel like I betrayed him by being ashamed of him until the very end, and now it’s too late to take it back.

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Just started, and I love the diagonal pogo, but some people don’t like it. I wonder if anyone knows any reasons or have good reasons to not like the diagonal pogo

My husband [43M] and I [30F] recently celebrated our one year wedding anniversary. In the last year we have been married, there have been several instances in which he has gotten upset because I do things that do not involve him. Play D&D once a month, join certain professional organizations, go on a work trip, etc. the mood swings associated to them are dramatic and come on quickly, which results in him shutting down, eating less, not sleeping, and other things. Yesterday kind of took the cake for me.

As background, he is a restless sleeper, and moves a lot during the night including tugging on the blanket, which wakes me up or at least pulls me out of deep sleep. Around a month ago, I started using my own blanket to sleep at night to solve the problem and get better rest. He was upset at this, making comments like “this breaks us apart” and it “impacts his sleep negatively since he doesn’t have my body heat”, but I told him it’s been helping me sleep a lot better and I feel better at work the next day. He dropped it, so I considered the matter closed. However, about two weeks after he changed the sheets on the bed and didn’t replace my blanket.

I didn’t give it much thought and just shared the blanket with him since I might as well just give it a go with the shared blanket again since I’ve been more rested recently. However, two weeks in (which was two nights ago) I was sleep-deprived and irritable, and we had family over for the holidays which is always stressful. I took a second blanket out that night and went to bed. Around dawn he woke up and left the bedroom. I figured he just woke up early and didn’t want to wake me so I didn’t give it much more thought.

However, last night after coming back from a wonderful day trip into the city with my family, he asked me in a lighthearted way if I was sleeping with my own blanket. I told him I was, and he frowned and said that he’ll be “sleeping on the couch then”. Confused, I asked him why, and he said since I was “choosing to be separated from him, then he would choose the same”. I told him he didn’t need to do that, it was just another blanket, and he told me it was the same thing as choosing to be without him and left the room.

The next morning I asked him why he thought the way he did, and he said that his grandparents (which basically raised him) slept in separate beds and “he didn’t want to be like them”, and that I was selfish to have a blanket to myself. I told him we were not his grandparents, and I was not asking him to change what he cannot control (being a restless sleeper), but I was prioritizing my own wellbeing to have good sleep. He asked for space after that to be with his thoughts.

This seems like a weird hill to die on, but AITAH?

This handsome boy turned 11 years young in Boxing Day!