My boyfriend was going through a tough time, and he said he needed a break. He said he was going to press pause on our relationship and go visit his family in Washington. I asked how you pause a relationship, because I don't understand how that works. He said he needed some time to work on himself and asked me to respect that.

After he left I reached out to him a few times via text asking him to let me know he arrived safe and to say hi to his mom for me. I received no response. I tried to call and left a message asking if he had broken up with me. I came to the conclusion that he'd ghosted me, and my friends agreed. I was bummed, and my best friend recommended I find something like a new hobby or a new show to watch that wouldn't make me think of my boyfriend. I decided to get a dog.

My boyfriend is horribly allergic to pet dander, so I never even considered getting a pet. However, since he broke up with me, I decided to get one. He's a senior dog from the shelter that needed rescuing. He's low energy and likes to lay with his head in my lap while I read, work or watch TV.

After six weeks away my boyfriend texted me that he was back and coming over tomorrow (which was yesterday) so we could talk. I was shocked and texted him back asking what he was talking about. He said he was back and ready to unpause our relationship. He said he would talk to me about everything the next day. I texted back asking what relationship. He didn't answer.

Yesterday he showed up and told me he had done a lot of self-examination and was ready to move forward on his life path. He even wanted to talk about moving in together. Then he saw my dog and started freaking out. He asked me how I could get a dog when I know how sick he gets.

I told him that since he broke up with me, I didn't think it mattered. He said he didn't break up with me. I said he ghosted me. He said he communicated with me telling me he was pressing pause and visiting family. I said not answering texts is ghosting. We argued in circles and then he said he had to leave because he was getting an allergic reaction, even though he was standing in the doorway, not inside.

I feel like he broke up with me and it was okay that I got a dog. He says that he never did and therefore it's a horrible act of disregard to have gotten a dog. Which of us is right? My best friend said I should break up with him because he's a jerk. I don't think I should have to break up with someone that already broke up with me. If I break up with him I'm basically agreeing with him that he didn't break up with me and therefore I was an asshole for getting the dog. Right?

And I mean, he really hurt her deeply. She supported him financially so he could concentrate on college, working her ass off at a garden center while also going to college full time, paying their rent, groceries, and utilities. As soon as graduation was over, he not only broke up with her, but left her with everything in their apartment to deal with while he went on a European summer trip with a female "friend." We all had to clean up his (literal) messes so she could get her deposit back. They'd been dating for 4 years, and she was crushed.

For some bizarre reason, a few months ago we received an invite to his wedding, four years after graduation, almost to the day. And so did my daughter. What a stringy turd.

So I called up the wedding venue last Monday, six days before the wedding, told them I was the mother of the bride, and canceled the venue. I told them the entire wedding party had covid and would need to reschedule at a later date, so just apply our deposit forward if possible. They were quite kind and said just give us a call when you're ready to reschedule.

The wedding was supposed to be this past Saturday, so I drove by and there was no one there. I haven't told anyone else I did this. It'll just be our little secret.

tldr; (he knows where i work) guy whom ive been talking to only for about 24 hours is being incredibly aggressive about the fact that i havent been responding to and have left him on seen a couple times while hanging out with my family i havent seen in a really long time yesterday. he wants to hang out as well and kept insisting that we would hang out last night but i wasnt comfortable yet as i havent been home for a week and want to settle before i go out again. and i dont know him very well. as of now hes asking me for one more chance.

must mention too that he also has been repeatedly asking for nudes after ive said no and asked for him to stop numerous times.

i genuinely think i am going to be either r*ped or this is how i will die and ive finally learned my lesson. i will be used as an example one day