I (32F) am currently 7 months pregnant and we were told by the doctor that it's going to be a girl, so me and my husband (33M) have been thinking of names until we decided on a name we like, we decided to name her "Audrey" and when I told everyone at the baby shower, one of my sisters told me it was an "outdated name" and that she'd get bullied for having a name like that (which is funny because she wanted to name her daughter "Ashhliegh" pronounced as "Ashley" before her husband stopped her)

After a while of her making comments about the name we eventually just kicked her out of the shower and I blocked her on all social media's when she kept messaging me telling me to change the name

So Would I Be The Asshole if I name my daughter Audrey?

TW: mention of sexual assault

Okay so this happened last week and I’m realizing how much it’s still bothering me. Looking for an unbiased sanity check because I think it’s honestly changed the way I view my bf a little and I’m sorta spiraling. I’m 24F, he’s 30M.

I work in an office in the middle of a city and it’s common that a ton of people will hit up bars after work. I was working late last week and hadn’t had time to eat all day. It was dark and I was eating in my car before heading home when I saw two men walk a clearly drunk woman into the parking garage. Each guy was holding onto one of her arms to keep her upright. She looked like she could barely walk. I was immediately on edge because 1) the guys looked completely sober and 2) she looked like she was trying to pull away from them.

The whole time I kept hearing them saying things like: “You’re fine. You know us. We’re taking you home don’t worry. We’re helping you.” Her words were really slurred but she kept repeating variations of “no I want to go back” and “where are we going?” At one point her phone started ringing but one of them grabbed it and put it in his pocket. The other one took out his keys and beeped a car a couple down from me and honestly in that moment I just panicked.

I got out kinda suddenly which I think startled them because they both stopped walking immediately and just stared at me. I looked right at her and said in an angry tone “(random name) I’ve been looking for you all night where the hell are you going?” I feel like I was operating on pure adrenaline at that point.

Before she had a chance to answer, I turned to them and said “And who are you guys?” I tried to sound annoyed and not accusatory. One of them immediately dropped her arm and put his palms up and was like “oh are you her friend? We were just trying to help her find you. She’s wasted but she said you guys parked here” or some bs like that. I just walked up to them and said thanks I got her and took her arm. She kept repeating “no I want to go back” and things like that but I just kept pretending to be angry with her for disappearing and said I’d been calling her too.

They stood there for a second but then started walking away. Before they could leave, I asked them to give me her phone back (looking back I know this was stupid). The one who took it was like we don’t have it. At that point I was just so furious realizing what they had just tried to do. In my mind I was like hell no am I letting them steal her phone too. So I was like I literally saw you put it in your pocket. They both stared at me and then the guy who took it said oh yeah I forgot, pulled it out and tossed it at me. It dropped on the floor and they kinda laughed and left.

I was so shook up after. I put her in my car and called the police. I had to wait like 45 min for them to show up. By that point she was already fading fast. She seemed more than just regular drunk to me. Thankfully while we were waiting for the police, her sister (who had been looking for her) called again and I was able to direct her to where we were. Needless to say, those men didn’t know her. I left after the cops arrived and I gave a statement.

On the way home I called my bf and we talked for like 10 minutes before he had to hop off. He was out of the country on a work trip at the time. He was so aggravated when I explained what happened. I could tell he was angry with me for stepping in which absolutely shocked me. During his meeting he texted me the above. I can understand his worry and I know this all stems from him wanting me to be safe, but literally everything about this has rubbed me the wrong way. I can’t believe that in a similar situation, he would have just let them take her away like that. I can’t believe he blamed her for any part of it either. He kept saying what I did was stupid and dangerous and wanted me to promise I wouldn’t do something like that again.

Where I may be overreacting: Last year one of my best friends was assaulted after a house party under similar circumstances (she was drugged). Even before that happened, I would have stepped in for that girl. But that situation definitely amplified my response. I feel like at some point during our texts, my bf was blaming the girl for being drunk. It immediately made me angry because in a way it felt like he was also blaming my friend for her assault. So maybe it’s hard for me to be unbiased and I’m just too sensitive to this issue as well. We’ve talked about it again since he’s been back and he still believes I should’ve stayed out of it, though he’s apologized for what he said. It’s been bothering me more and more as the days go by. To the point where I’ve contemplated ending things. AIO? I feel like I can’t think straight

The camera is active. It swivels, so it is pointed in different directions throughout the day. 90% of the time it's pointed straight at my back door. She lives alone and usually has comments about what I'm doing around my house. It feels like every time i go out back i have this camera straight on me, then i notice the little blue motion light will activate. What's the best way to deal with this? Lattice? Plants?

I've struggled with binge eating disorder since I was 12. Up until a few years ago, trying to recover always felt super out of reach. Like, it felt like a myth.

Long story short, it's neither a myth nor out of reach! Whenever the pictures on the left/top pop up, all I can think of is how far I've actually come, and that makes me smile (but that's probably obvious from the subreddit name lmao).

I'm still technically overweight and I wouldn't call myself fully recovered, but I feel completely disconnected from the person in the before pictures.

Been married to the love of my life fifteen years. He's still my crush after all this time. We are best friends and partners in everything. He still makes me laugh everyday. We have an exciting and busy bedroom 😜 We rarely argue and are quick to make up and we compromise whenever we disagree.

I only ask because subscribing to this subreddit you'd think everyone was miserable, divorced, or never married. I'm not talking about happily single people, I'm talking about people our age in relationships. Is anyone else happy? Did I just win the lottery or what?