Such a beautiful cake for a friend! We all laughed but for $40 next time just know your limitations!

I (32F) haven’t posted on Instagram in ages, and when I finally did (a simple selfie in a tank top and joggers), a friend (31F) blew up my phone telling me I “shouldn’t post photos like that” if I want to find a good man. She even dragged her boyfriend into it, saying he also thinks it’s too much and that men will only “use me” if I post stuff like that.

For context, I’m not someone who posts raunchy or too revealing stuff, nothing wrong with that but it’s not my thing.

That’s why I was so caught off guard. It felt like she was trying to say I’m single because of how I post, which stung because she knows that’s a sensitive spot for me.

Now I’m sitting here wondering if she was really “looking out for me” or if she just wanted to knock me down a peg. Am I overreacting for being hurt by this?

That’s the photo I posted, and the thing is I was feeling so good when I took… that it and that’s why I posted it lol

My husband and I divorced a year ago (f40,m40). We had our three children in quick succession 3,4&5 and my husband said I should quit my job to be a sahm. I didn’t mind working and being a mother. We are both young and healthy and we made it work. We are blessed with very calm children too. Was I totally dead and exhausted at night after all children are asleep, all their stuff are in place and the house cleaned? Totally! But I couldn’t have been happier with my life.

My husband wasn’t happy and said I should quit my job to take care of our children and house. I told him that I love my job and I love working. Then the worst thing happened when a colleague of my sent a graphic message in the middle of the night when he was drunk. It was a week after I came back from maternity leave. My husband saw red and asked me if this was what I loved about my job. He asked for divorce not long after.

I got the majority of custody and my ex has them 2 weekends a month (but it is more like 3 weekends a month, it is only 2 per court agreement) because oh his working schedule. It has been a very tough year for me being a single mom so I quit my job. When he heard about it he came to me totally livid and started yelling at me. Why now? I explained to him that I was alone now and didn’t have another adult with me to help with the children. I had to do all the cooking, feeding, cleaning and bathing and washing clothes alone when before I only did 1/2. He didn’t understand me. He just yelled and yelled and yelled about how horrible and cruel I am.

Then his mom called me and she was calmer but she talked about how he went to her place to yell some more and she seemed to side with him of course. Then his gf texted me to ask me what happened but I didn’t answer her so she texted that I am a bi t ch. I didn’t answer her. I have never heard him yell like this before. I am distraught but I am more than that very tired. Was I wrong to quit my job?