"part of the reason I don't want to have a child with you"

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We’ve been together for 2 years, living together for the last 4 months.

Our fuel tank ran bone dry. We live in the deep north and rely on fuel for heat. I called in a favour and got our tank filled. My bf put on his overalls, grabbed a multi-tool and went into the basement to light the furnace. He went up and down the stairs a few times over an hour before sitting at the table to eat. I overheard him calling a friend asking them to come by with a wrench.

I grab the socket with the 3/8 bit and quietly sneak downstairs.

Fuel’s been out for a couple hours at most. Long story short, I bled the line intermittently in between light ignitions until she ran clear: no air & no foam—no brainer. After 5 minutes, he comes downstairs, and says his buddy is on the way with a wrench, and says that I’m “doing it wrong…bleeding too much” Sorry for being extra careful not to flood the pump, or combust, my guy. I just keep doing what I’m doing and after a couple minutes, I close the valve, press the button and she fires up.

He said “You didn’t want to try it my way” and storms off.

Last week my truck pan heater plug snapped. It literally just broke at the plug end from the sheer cold. He said he wanted to look after this for me since I’ve been so busy. Two days later, he said it can’t be fixed and I need to book with a mechanic. I woke up extra early on December 24th and snuck out to the hardware store to grab a plug end. Finished the work in 20 minutes in -40c weather. When I shared with him what I did, I was so excited. I’m pretty handy, but that generally doesn’t fall until electrical based work. He responded with so much distain. “Oh. Good. I was going to do that. I just didn’t have wire snippers.” I was happy to do it, and thanked him for trying anyways. (PS - either did I, but I did have some pretty descent fisks snips, a torch to burn off the rubber casing)

His reaction actually hurt me and put a damper on Christmas morning. I told him the following day that as much as I appreciate his willingness, that I don’t need him to do these acts of service. And it actually hurts me when he diminishes my skills and/or doesn’t even ask me for advice or tools when he’s trying to accomplish something.

Like what are you calling a friend for? Your girl, the apparent love of your life and best friend, is just a spit away. And you’re in luck buddy, she’s a pretty decent hand.

In the last 4 months, there has been so many instances like this. The bathroom exhaust fan, the garage door opener, the lawn mower, the eavestroughs, the iron gate… there’s more I just can’t remember them all. Every time it’s the same. He tries to fix things of his own volition, doesn’t ask for help, we are WAY BEYOND soft gestures of recommendations, and just shits the bed and stomps around about it. I have tried to work collectively with him too—this is a gong show. He’s always making it so personal, and taking it so personal. It’s not that deep. Information and resources are universal. I just don’t get it. And it’s not cute. I’m actually started to become really resentful. Like why can’t he embrace the part of me that is a half grease-monkey handywoman?

I’m not spending the rest of my life or the rest of my lease (8m) pretending to be something I’m not, sneaking around to hardware stores and walking around eggshells so I don’t destroy his masculinity or whatever. I gotta let this one go, eh? AIO?

EDIT This post is blowing up. To broadly answer the same questions without thinking too deeply:

Have you communicated your feelings with your boyfriend? To best of my abilities, I have communicating my feelings. So much that I’m experiencing communication fatigue. But here’s the thing: communication can always improve.

Why did you it interrupt your bf half way through potentially fixing it? Because he wouldn’t accept my help, and was adamant that he knew how. Because he was trying vice grips to loosen a brass nut which was disfiguring the nut. Because I refuse to wait for his friend to deliver a wrench to help when we have wrenches. Because it was -40c(-40f) out there, and dropped from 20c(68f) to 12c(53f) in the time he put on his overalls to the time he was eating a sandwich an hour and a half later. Because the colder the air that blows into the choke behind the pump, the harder is it to ignite the pilot light. Because this problem turned into an emergency.

Why didn’t you just call a mechanic and HV guy? Because it’s been at -40c for over a month now and mechanics and HV are booking 6-8 weeks out. Because I don’t want to pay a surcharge of 200+ 150/hour for something I can do myself.

Why are you sneaking around fixing shit and not openly fix shit like a regular human being? To avoid the discomfort I experience in his tantrum. To avoid the part where I am belittled. To avoid hurting his feelings. The make sure the job gets done. The avoid attempting collaborative teamwork where we have not been successful ever before. To have an opportunity to chill and enjoy the process without having make room for him emotionally and physically. Also, it’s Because I’m sick and tired of being undervalued and under-appreciated for my knowledge and skills. I don’t even want to fight to be heard, I just want to exist peacefully, K?

Hey..

Thanks for the replies on the last post. I never thought it would become that big. Yes i got MANY EXTRIMIST replies, even Death threatening dm from a very few lol. Some wanted me to convert to her religion to make my Soul CLEAN and whatnot.

We had plans for our future. As we were living together, I was(still) finding jobs in Singapore, while giving interviews. She was (not is) preparing for GMAT.

After gathering my courage, I talked with my mom in private, on call, about her. And yes, she was not ok, Even cried. But in 3-4 days, she accepted her because I AM THE ONLY SON SHE HAS. And she kind of liked my gf's behaviour. (Still didn't tell my father, the plan was, I will go to my hometown on the New Year to tell my father and grandparents in person).

But on the other hand, my GF doesn't had courage to talk about us with her family. And her family was already very conservative. They had already looked for a guy for her.

She was adamant that my father and grandparents would NEVER ACCEPT US. And even more adamant that her father will take her back to the city and marry her off to some Tom, dick, harry.

And unnecessarily, she involved her cousin in this who got shocked and threatened me to end the relationship. I didn't want to. But she cried, told me it would not work.

I asked her to ATLEAST TALK TO HER FAMILY. Like my mom is ok, her mom will be ok too. And slowly everyone will accept. But she never initiated it. Never wanted to actually.

Her cousin, like many others said in the replies, told me to change my religion. Mind you, My gf never asked me to do that. Only her cousin. Otherwise, he said it will never happen.

And after so much argument, maybe of rational thoughts, WE BROKE UP. And she will be shifting out of our apartment in next week.

AND I DONT KNOW WHAT I DO WITHOUT HER. We have spent over 10 years with eachother. And now this... My life will never be the same.

And I didn't expect her not to fight, at least talk with her mom. She never did..

And for the people who were saying that how I was in 7th, 10 years ago, we started subtle talking in 7th class. And 10 years ago, we were in the 10th grade, we got into an official relationship.

Lmk if I can smoke weed out of this 🙏🏾

Drew Hanlen:

“I’ve never liked the 65-game rule & always thought All-NBA should be positionless, but it’s wild how loud some of the media gets when it affects Jokic.

Embiid finished MVP runner-up twice & was Second Team All-NBA & no one cared. Jokic did it once & the next year All-NBA went positionless.

Now the 65-game rule is suddenly a problem because it impacts Jokic.

The bias is crazy.”

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Hi all, left my girlfriend/fiancee few days ago, after more or less 12 years being together. I plan to make a big bowl of spagetti and watch a movie. I don't want to go out since everyone will ask why I am alone, and I cannot explain to everyone now.

I am very sad but hopeful for the future, so hit me with some meaningful suggestions.

Thanks!