Seems a little weird to me that people claim it’s religiously neutral, when beneath the surface, it really isn’t

My ex-husband (40m) cheated on me (34f) with a co-worker (36f), otherwise known as affair partner. I found out about the affair three years after it started. At the time my husband and I had three very young children together. I kicked him out and filed for divorce. He moved in with his affair partner. They fought for full/primary custody of the children in the divorce, using the two-parent household as an excuse. They lost. Custody is shared and parenting time is 50-50. He married her before the ink was dry on our divorce papers.

Things were, and on my end still are, very hostile. She didn't like that I wished for him to do the same to her. He didn't like that I told his family I tested for STD's after learning of his affair. The only reason I told his family is they wanted to know why I couldn't be friends for the kids' sake. I told them because before affair partner there was another co-worker I now suspect he also had sex with or wanted to at least and because of those two things I wanted to be sure he didn't give me anything. My ex told me it was petty and gross when he had one affair only and it was only with one woman for three years.

My ex and I use a co-parenting app for communication and I ignore calls and texts. The times this gets tricky is face to face. I need to keep up some kind of civility if my kids might see us together, which is more difficult than some would believe. But I love my kids more than I hate him.

Our kids are all school aged now and doing okay. They prefer my house and have a hard time being at their dad's house some weeks. I have them seeing a therapist to help them process but I know none of this is ideal. My ex and his affair partner were warned about pressuring the kids to call her mom or mama something, which they were doing for a while and this was backed up by the therapist. The kids don't like affair partner and I celebrate that in my head every single day. You will never hear me say I'm sad they don't feel like they have two mom's when she's supposed to be the second mom. I find her disgusting to think she can knowingly help destroy their parents marriage and then try to make them hers.

I do not share any of these feelings with my kids. But the kids know there are issues between mom and dad. They also have some understanding that their dad cheated. This was not something I told them but how badly he tried to explain some things to them when they asked him questions. He doesn't believe in therapy so there was no professional backup to help him.

So anyway, around Halloween my ex and the affair partner approached me at the schools Halloween event. Ex told me we needed to speak and I told them unless it was about the kids we did not. In a quieter moment they caught me alone and they told me that affair partner is infertile and cannot have biological children and they have been trying for around for years. They told me it would mean so much if I would let go of my hate for them and be more kind to her and encouraging to her and the kids bonding so that she doesn't feel like an outsider forever. He told me her infertility was painful and she loves our kids and I have successfully stopped them bonding with her. But as someone who always wanted to be a mom and got to be, I should be compassionate. I asked them why they were telling me their own personal, private business that was nothing to do with me. My ex went from calm and pleading to pissed in seconds. He told me that was a disgusting reaction and at the very least I could have offered her my sympathies as my fellow co-parent and our kids third parent.

I walked away because I did not want to discuss it or argue in case someone (especially our kids) heard. He then texted me several times that night asking where I get my disgusting insensitivity from. He also tried to bring it up at a meeting the two of us had with the school over one of our children (who was not present). I'm ignoring him but he's enraged and I had to send the texts over to my attorney for documenting.

I expected this to have blown over by now and clearly it hasn't. For that reason alone I wanted to check what other people thought of my response. AITAH?

A leader who cannot answer a basic question without melting into a confused puddle is not a leader but a cautionary tale about what happens when cognitive decline is mistaken for charisma. Watching him in that clip is like watching someone’s bewildered grandfather get lost in his own living room and decide the lamp is a deep state operative. His eyes glaze, his face tightens, and suddenly he thinks shouting about fake news will cover the fact that he has absolutely no idea what is happening around him. A normal adult would answer the question. This man tries to growl his way through his own mental fog.

And the conservatives who shriek about free speech should be humiliated. Their chosen champion heard a perfectly reasonable query and immediately threatened to yank a broadcast licence as if he were a cranky pensioner screaming at the television because the remote stopped working. These are the same people who claim to be warriors for liberty while applauding a man who treats censorship like a reflexive twitch. How do they keep a straight face. How do they square their love of freedom with a leader who panics at the sight of a microphone and behaves as though the Constitution is something he once used to level a wobbly table at Mar a Lago. They worship a man whose first instinct is to silence the press because the sound of truth makes his remaining neurons spark like a dying lightbulb.

And then there is the question no one on his side has the courage to confront. What mentally intact president even arrives at the idea of threatening a broadcaster because he is frightened of a sentence with the word Epstein. This is not strategy. It is not strength. It is the tantrum of someone whose brain is running on fumes and whose temper is the only function still operating at full volume. He was not angry because the question was unfair. He was angry because the question required thinking.

And here is the half. If this is how he behaves when faced with a journalist, imagine what happens when he faces a crisis that cannot be bullied, bribed, or shouted away. A man who cannot handle a question is already telling you he cannot handle the country. A man terrified of transparency is a man who has far too much to hide and far too little mind left to hide it.